How to handle RSVPs with children when only adults were invited?

[minniecarousel]

Yup - all the more reason to have this party stress-free. Stick to your guns about the "no kids" thing.

Prayers for your Mom that she beats this!

(hang in there)

 

[Fly4free]

Try to remain positive about your mom. Remember modern medicine can do wonders! Sorry she received such bad news. Hope the upcoming celebration will help take everyone's mind off of the news.

 

[Planogirl]

I'm sorry Tara. I'll keep her in my thoughts as she deals with this.

 

[KingK12]

If the invitations stated 'Grown Up Party' it would avoid the discomfort of having to tell the guest no kids allowed!

 

[Pixie Dust for Me!]

Tara,

I have great confidence your mom will beat it! Enjoy the party...let it be the celebration it should be.

Unfortunately, the cancer will be there the day after and can be dealt with then. Your mom needs this celebration...and so do you. The day after (and the days after that) you can deal with the upcoming treatment decisions, etc. But having this celebration reminds you of all the good things (and absurd things) that life gives you...and that will sustain you as you and your mom fight this!

Just imagine sharing with her the absurd conversation you had with your cousin and how thick she pretended to be about bringing children...I'm sure that she will laugh and say "how typical of (insert name here), do you remember when....." That story will lead to another which leads to another and affirms what it means to be part of a family (and be married for better or worse).

In my family one of my husband's brothers is getting divorced and the kids are having a hard time. We've been looking at old pictures and telling stories to the kids about the time their dad flipped the canoe, or their mom burned spaghetti when we were all over for dinner...or the time they creamed someone with a baseball bat (accidently) when it fell out of a closet. We've also been looking at pictures of us all before kids and telling stories about stupid stuff we did when we were teenagers (the kids are 19, 17 and 11 so they appreciate hearing stories about when we were all kids).

Good luck to you and your family!

Karen

 

[Schmeck]

Tara, your mom will be in my thoughts and prayers - wishing her a speedy, effective treatment. Then you can have another party for her!

 

[TaraPA]

Tara, your mom will be in my thoughts and prayers - wishing her a speedy, effective treatment. Then you can have another party for her!

No no no no no no no no! This party is IT! LOL!!

Thanks everyone for the comforting words & positive thoughts & prayers. Party prep is still going full force (including 2 hours yesterday spent trying to get a 4 foot black snake out of the garden I was working in!!!)

Weather keeps getting hotter & more humid for Sunday, which I hate, but hey what are you going to do. Last week the weather channel said 80 and partly sunny, no humidity which is perfect, now we're up to 87, hot & humid!

Not another word from my cousin, I think the conversation is done. Now just to wait & see who she brings on Sunday, if she comes at all!

 

[TaraPA]

T minus 5 hours & counting!!!!!

 

[Ceila]

T minus 5 hours & counting!!!!!

Just saw your update about your mom. My prayers are with you. Good luck today, and let us know how everything turns out!

 

[leebee]

Oh, gosh, Tara, I don't know what to say. I am so sorry to hear about your mom, but as everyone has said, medicine and science are amazing and people beat cancer every day. You and your mom are in our thoughts.

T-minus 40 minutes and counting! DO let us know how the day turns out, and have a WONDERFUL time! (gee, didn't Mr. Black Snake know he wasn't on the guest list??)

 

[TaraPA]

We're an hour in & happy to say NO KIDS so far!!!

 

[phorsenuf]

We're an hour in & happy to say NO KIDS so far!!!

Is the cousin there?

 

[honeydiane1953]

great

 

[Erin1700]

We're an hour in & happy to say NO KIDS so far!!!

I'm up the street sending people who brought kids home. just kidding!

 

[Caropooh]

Add in my prayers for your Mom.

 

[cornflake]

No need to release the lion cubs into the arena? Darn. I made popcorn and everything.

 

[suzimar57]

guess this means your yard will go unweeded, huh?!

it's still early - don't give up hope - there's a chance some kid will show up and can pick those rocks out of the dirt for you!

 

[Janepod]

Hope you had a wonderful, stress-free party!

 

[sue and co]

We are a totally different time zone but by my calculations you are still going on - hope no unexpected 'pests' turned up to spoil the day.

I have three children so am not child unfriendly but there are times for them to be included and times for them to not be included.

 

[TDC Nala]

Really did enjoy the story of the cousin who wants to use her uncle and aunt's anniversary party to introduce the family to her boyfriend's children, whom he has custody of two days a month. and then she asked again if she could bring them, because her boyfriend didn't know what else to do with them. Two days a month, he has custody of them...i guess it wouldn't look too good to have a babysitter for them, but can't she go to the party without him?

Not even going to get into the debate over whether one should or shouldn't include children in invitations to events. It's up to everybody what they prefer.