How handle other familymembers not understanding our joy?

[cnids00]

This is our thrill and joy to be able to save up and go to DW and the rest of our family doesn't understand this, HAS to have input on our vacation choice and voices their opinion very freely It shouldn't bother us, as we are adults and make our own choices, but how do we not let this bother us?

We're going back for a holidaytrip in December and we can't tell any of our other family members as it will turn into "here we go again" etc

It's just terrible of them to interfere and it IS hard not to let it bother us a bit, why can't they be happy for us? It's our time and money, they aren't paying for it?

It just makes me really sad & mad too

P.S Then none of them have been to DW, maybe that would be it, they don't UNDERSTAND the feeling of being there

 

[momof2minnies]

Yes it is absolutely the reason they are like that- they have not been and they have no idea what it is really all about. Not an amusement park. They could also be jealous! Good Luck!

 

[cnids00]

Thank you, I so needed to vent, maybe others have the same problem and it's just SO hard to be this excited and having to deal with ..jealousy?! The rest of them travel on here and there and we are always happy for them!

It's also very hard not to be able to talk about it haha, I do that at work instead Nobody there judges us

AND

Nobody judges us here on the DIS boards If anything everybody here knows exactly what you feel when you're able to go back, even if 9 months away, the butterflies are there

Thank you!

 

[stahshee]

My dh is NOT happy about going, he dose not love Disney as much as me however we were going to go to Hershey park and that cost the same as Disney. So I talked him into it. we are driving dh hates airpalnes with the 4dd ( to stressful on him ) so we are driving and visiting family on the way down!

 

[cnids00]

Sorry that I didn't specify family properly, MY immidiate family, me, DH and DD (she doesn't know it's booked yet) are and will be thrilled to go back. It's my husbands family I'm referring to who don't and won't understand our joy, therefor venting here...sorry

 

[MickeyMouth]

I totally understand. My sister always has a comment when she hears we are going to disney AGAIN. However, it doesn't bother me one bit. She has never been there and has no desire to go. Our disney vacations are very special to me, my DH and DD. Try not to let it bother you and keep on going to WDW if that's what makes you happy!

 

[helenm29]

I know how you feel! everyone else in the family does not understand how we could spend so much money going to WDW when you could do other things. Our kids are 13,13 and 18 and they LOVE it! even my 18 year old has a good time when we go to Epcott, Mgm and Downtown Disney. Seems like everyone has a comment or has a smerk on their face when we tell them we are going. My husband and I had our Honeymoon at WDW over 20 years ago and my kids were raised Disney so maybe that's the connection for us?

 

[Shelly F - Ohio]

We just took a 7 day WDW vacation and did not tell our family that we were going. It was so enjoyable. We did not have to hear our family's badgering about us going again. Plus since no one knew we were going we did not feel obligated to bring back gifts for our nieces and nephews.

Unless someone has been to WDW they have no clue why we are drawn back there year after year.

If your family starts bugging you, you should say to them. "I am sorry you don't understand our love for vacationing at WDW but our family really enjoys going back every year".

Don't let it bother you. It is their problem that they just don't understand the joy that you get no matter how often you go. Weather it is your 3 time or your 103 time of going to WDW there is always something magical about a trip to see the mouse in the south!
Now start planning you have lots to see and do. Be sure to ride Everest it was a great thrill for us.

 

[YorkieMom]

You don't have to justify your actions to anyone !!!!!!!!! As long as you and your dh agree on DW, don't worry about anyone else. We go to DW whenever we want to and I could give a flying fig about anyone else's opinion of our vacation plans.

 

[cnids00]

It is very comforting to hear from you and knowing it shouldn't bother me, now I know it really won't bother me to the core

I guess when time comes to tell them, they feed our cats and take of the house while we're gone (they live close by)...I'll just be extra happy and excited when talking about it

Thanks!!!!

 

[simba928]

There are alot of threads about this over on the CB. I always reply with a quote that my friend has about color guard. I think it is the same thing for Disney. "Disney. For those that get it, no explanation necessary. For those that don't, no explanation possible." I think that pretty much sums it up. Anytime someone makes a comment like that, I just say that quote to myself and ignore them. It is YOUR vacation, YOUR money, YOUR time. I see nothing in that sentence that has anything to do with them. You just do what YOU enjoy and pity them that they don't understand the magic.

 

[Ghost]

Yeah, I guess we all have one or more of them in our family...

it comes with the "isn't Disney for Kids" and a look if you hadn't grown up (and I hope I never will ).... I really let not get that to me.

People at work already know I am a total Disney addict and ask me all the time when my next trip is planned...

even in my last job interview it didn't take more then 5 minutes before Disney was mentioned (related to the Disney web I am a team member of)...

 

[my3princes]

We get the Disney badgering from family and friends. They simply can't understand why we would want to go to Disney year after year. Many of them have been, but they simply didn't open themselves up to the magic. Now when people make comments I simply point out that I don't comment on what they spend their money on so why do they feel they should comment on how we spend ours. That will usually stop all comments in their tracks. We recently bought DVC and no one dared comment.

Deb

 

[bsusanmb]

You have to be young at heart, appreciate the imagination and dreams of Disney, the beauty, the music, the MAGIC that is Disney. It is all so wonderful and it never fails to bring tears to my eyes thinking of Walt Disney, his creativity, his vision, and the fact that the dear man didn't live to see his World.
DH and I are empty nesters now. We have been to WDW 4 times a year for probably 10 years, and when our kids were teens, they didn't want to come with us - ok, we enjoyed it without them.
DH served 32 years in the military and says that for him, WDW is the only place for now that is safe, is here in our country, and offers us everything we need.
My family and friends and co-workers make fun of us. I don't care. I proudly display my WDW souvenirs in my office, including my autograph Pluto.
Our friends tell us that there are support groups for people like us.
This year we finally bought into DVC, securing our vacations for years to come.
Just laugh at those folks who can't appreciate the magic of WDW, and enjoy every minute of it!

 

[WaltD4Me]

For those that get it, no explanation necessary. For those that don't, no explanation possible."

ABSOLUTELY! Don't knock yourself trying to explain it OR .... JUSTIFY it! If they don't "get it" they probably never will and no amount of explaining will do a bit of good.

I had a casual business lunch the other day, when I mentioned I was going to Disney.. AGAIN .. in May, the one girl looked at me like I was nuts. She said "Didn't you just go there?" I smiled and said "Yep." then the guy, who I had just met and who I would NEVER have imagined as a Disney fan, got all excited and started talking about his trip...he is going 2 weeks after me and goes every year and totally GETS it. It was a great lunch after that, we gabbed away about Disney, while the "I Don't Get it Girl" just sat there. It was so great!

 

[bopper]

How about: "If you would like us to go some place else, we would be happy to accept an all-expenses paid trip there :"

 

[MickeyHereWeCome!]

We have the same problem with my mother. She thinks we are being totally ridiculous, especially because our kids are young. She hasn't hesitated to let us know her views and that she thinks we should just take one big trip when all the kids are old enough to "enjoy" it (as if they don't enjoy it now). I seriously think she plans to disown me since we're taking the kids out of school for a few days in October....she doesn't understand why we couldn't just go in the summer (with the rest of the world).

I've actually gotten over it now, and don't talk details with her. She knows we are going and when. I just don't let it get to me anymore.

Unless you've been and *really* understand the magic of Disney, you just can't possibly justify the love of WDW.

 

[jmminarik]

even in my last job interview it didn't take more then 5 minutes before Disney was mentioned

Not that i've had many job interviews, but "CEO of Disney" is my stock answer to 'Where do you see yourself in 5 years?'. It could happen.

-Joe

 

[Our2Girls&Disney]

My parents have been to Epcot and Animal Kingdom and they were not impressed. Maybe because they were not there with children. I think that if they saw the excitment and thrill in the eyes of my kids, they would think differently. They don't seem to understand why we find it so exciting. I just let it go in one ear and out the other. My DH and I thought it was the best vacation ever, so we will continue to go. Enjoy your vacation, we are all happy for you.

 

[bdg100]

"It's a Disney thing, you wouldn't understand"