How handle other familymembers not understanding our joy?

[mom2my3kids]

I have had my sister in law say. " Why dont you just buy new furniture instead of spending your money on vacations". For one my furniture is just fine, but material things we will never remember, but vacations will last in our memory for a lifetime.

 

[dulluth]

We have been to WDW 4 times and DL once, and we are currently planning a Dec 06 trip. One of my friends who travels rarely asked why I would keep going back after having seen so many other parts of the country ... I just said, "You only have to go there once to know why I keep going back." And it's true!!!!

 

[JPN4265]

You don't have to justify your actions to anyone !!!!!!!!! As long as you and your dh agree on DW, don't worry about anyone else. We go to DW whenever we want to and I could give a flying fig about anyone else's opinion of our vacation plans.

 

[Rosco'sjamma]

DH and I are going to WDW on Tuesday for a week. It will be our 7th trip....but...this time we're going alone! Just the 2 of us! (We're in our early 60s) Do others look at us like we're crazy? Yes! Do we care? NO!

My youngest daughter (27) has been there so many times I can't count...including her honeymoon. She thinks it's wonderful...except for the fact that she can't go with us. We are so looking forward to doing Disney this time at our own pace and our own itinerary. Even after being there 7 times, we haven't seen nor done half of what we've always wanted to do. This is our chance and I'm sure I'm not the only one who thinks this way.

5 days and counting! Rosco's Jamma

 

[RumpleMom]

If you are going to WDW at least every 3 years, and it sounds like people here are going a lot more often than that, buy DVC and tell the relatives it's your second home.

 

[AshAlytwins]

This is our thrill and joy to be able to save up and go to DW and the rest of our family doesn't understand this, HAS to have input on our vacation choice and voices their opinion very freely It shouldn't bother us, as we are adults and make our own choices, but how do we not let this bother us?

We're going back for a holidaytrip in December and we can't tell any of our other family members as it will turn into "here we go again" etc

It's just terrible of them to interfere and it IS hard not to let it bother us a bit, why can't they be happy for us? It's our time and money, they aren't paying for it?

It just makes me really sad & mad too

P.S Then none of them have been to DW, maybe that would be it, they don't UNDERSTAND the feeling of being there


We have been where you are now....my in-laws say the same thing year after year when we go...."Why do you waste your money going there every year?" They went with us once... and say they won't go again! I just ignore them..we have the money to do it, so we do....life is too short....do what you want to when you can. They never do anything are always miserable!!! We have fun and go....remember..you can take the money with you!!!
Enjoy and make memories!!!

 

[Silverbelle990]

OMG..I feel the same way!!!! My fam got mad that me and DH are going and not taking the kids....they are 5 and 2. There were like can you afford it and blah blah blah.

How do i tell them i am now doing another trip for my oldest DS!!!! I can't even tell them cause they will berate us.

 

[Can'twaittogo]

I joined the dis today for exactly what everyones talking about. This will be our 3rd Disney trip in as many years and I can't talk about it around family anymore because they think I'm crazy. Here at the Dis I think I've found a group of like minded people who understand. I can freely ask questions or discuss all things Disney without being judged. I loved that quote.

 

[Joann]

When I say yay we are going away in May people always say to me oh where you going? When I say disney world they just stop and look at me like I am nuts! I had one mother tell me it was a waste of money there why not just go somewhere else! I looked at her and asked her have you been there ? She said no I don't like rides... I proceeded to say well mabey your kids do and I feel sorry for them as because of your selfishness you won't let them experience the magic of disney, its like a totally different world there and the rides are not your ordinary rides ...she still thought I was nuts for WASTING my money to take my family there ... to each thier own people don't understand it unless they experience it. My husband never went as a child till he met me and now its the only place he wants to go when we vaction and he use to be a caribbean kinda guy, but now NO way he wants to go to disney!

 

[aka-mad4themouse]

I find that some people just can't be happy for someone else no matter what. We have friends who would make remarks about our frequent visits to WDW that were really cutting. Last year we went to other destinations (a long weekend in the Bahamas, two weeks in Italy) and guess what? They made snide comments about those trips, too. I've decided that it's jealousy that drives them to say such things and I refrain from telling them about our travel plans anymore.

 

[rockinken]

I fully understand your problem with the family. I have a friend who comments every time I tell him we have booked another trip to WDW. We just got back from a stay at WL last month, and upon making reservation for POFQ this September the first one I told was him.
At the end of this month he is going to the CR for a shot stay. Maybe them he will realize "Life is Good" at the most magical place on earth.

 

[cnids00]

It is comforting to know that others have the same problem and I totally agree, they just don't get it (maybe lost the child within them?).

Thank you all for such positive and smart comments and sharing your "families" problems with you going to DW, I really appreciate it! LOL I think we're all in a better place knowing the thrill and joy it so gives you going to DW!!

I think what bothers me the most with their comments is that it puts a lid kind of on our excitement and happiness, looking forward to and planning our stay/trip, but hey, we keep it to ourselves this time and we are SO excited

This is the perfect place to be!

 

[pepperw23]

This is our thrill and joy to be able to save up and go to DW and the rest of our family doesn't understand this, HAS to have input on our vacation choice and voices their opinion very freely It shouldn't bother us, as we are adults and make our own choices, but how do we not let this bother us?

We're going back for a holidaytrip in December and we can't tell any of our other family members as it will turn into "here we go again" etc

It's just terrible of them to interfere and it IS hard not to let it bother us a bit, why can't they be happy for us? It's our time and money, they aren't paying for it?

It just makes me really sad & mad too

P.S Then none of them have been to DW, maybe that would be it, they don't UNDERSTAND the feeling of being there

I feel your pain. I can't even discuss our trip around my SIL or MIL because they just get snippy. I know they are upset because we did not offer to take my SIL's three teens, but we can't afford it, and besides, my parents gave us the trip (all paid w/dining plan) for Christmas.

I soooooo know how you feel. It is sad really that our families can't just be happy for us. No one is stopping them from saving up and going. If I had the money, I would take the whole dang bunch, but I don't and I refuse to feel guilty, and so should you.

 

[aterriq]

Our friends tell us that there are support groups for people like us.

Yes the DIS Boards and thats why the rest of us our here.

I guess I'll start.

Hi,

My name is Alfred and I am a Disneyholic.

 

[swillis]

My name is Sunni

I'm addicted to the DisBoards!!

My kids are now starting to make comments about all the time I spend here

Hopefully they will eat their words after our totally, fantastic, well planned, want for nothing Disney trip in May!!

 

[MrsRyan]

Hi everyone! This is my first posting and I'm very excited! When I read this thread, I realized that's exactly the reaction I get when I tell people we're going to WDW for our honeymoon.

Since I was a child, my parents brought my family every other year. Since I've moved out and have gotten married, I have gone back every few years! My latest trip was with an aunt, a cousin, and a sister! A real girls week! Now that I'm going for my (belated) honeymoon, all my friends think I'm crazy for going back and think I should go somewhere I've never been!

Doesn't everyone know that you can go around the world! Paris, London, Japan, China, Moracco!?!?

P.S. I'm so excited to be a part of the forum! You all are great!

 

[mrf777]

I work for an airline, I can fly free all over the world.. But I just keep going back to Orlando and that magical place that is Disney World!!

 

[mickeymousemom]

To the OP...We also have the same problem with DH's family. Of course, nothing we do around them is right, but the Disney thing irks them to no end. My FIL even suggested we pack up and take the girls to Branson. BRANSON??! Ummm.....I think NOT! We dread it everytime its time to talk about our vacation plans. My MIL is a very controlling woman, and still seems to want to dictate what her children do, esp. my DH(he's a middle child and extremely easy going).
My BIL and his family vacation at some beach in FL or AL...it depends on what kind of deal they get. Yet they are never chatised for not doing something different. When we talk about going back to WDW , boy do the eyes start rolling. I am so sick of it I can't see straight. I have no idea what advice to give, other than to just ignore it. As another poster put it, there is just no explanation for people who don't get it.
DH's older brother has even been to WDW recently, but they don't think of it as anything special. It's just someplace you might take your kids every couple years or so. Oh well.....


.....just leaves more room for the rest of us

 

[budbeerlady]

Why does family feel they have the right to input their opinion. I agree "You either get it or you dont". I figure if they dont go its less of a wait for me for the rides and food.

 

[Sokay]

I have had my sister in law say. " Why dont you just buy new furniture instead of spending your money on vacations". For one my furniture is just fine, but material things we will never remember, but vacations will last in our memory for a lifetime.

I may be wrong, but I believe when I leave this Earth, all I will take is my memories.