Ellester
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Socialization is not learned at school. Think about it - if you compliment a parent for their child's behavior and manners, what is going to be the response? It will certainly not be "Thank you. The school is doing a wonderful job, don't you agree?" The response will be something like "Thank you, we work hard to teach our children to be kind and considerate."
Oh, when traditionally schooled children receive a report card and maybe their conduct grade isn't so good, shouldn't the school be punished (rather than the child)? After all, if socialization occurs at school and a child's grade doesn't indicate they're doing very well socially, shouldn't the school be penalized for doing a poor job? I don't know, but I'm just saying...
You can not convince me that people that are opposed to hsing because of "socialization" would ever give the school credit for their children's manners.
Children that are well behaved and get along well with others have parents that teach them social skills.
My experience has been when discussing hsing is that when "socialization" is one of the first aspects brought up, I know I'm speaking with someone who really knows nothing about hsing. I'm not speaking negatively about such a person, I'm just saying that concern of socializing is an indicator of someone without much exposure/experience with the concept of hsing. This signals me as to how I need to handle the conversation (without defensiveness). I know I need to spend a little extra time explaining the ins and outs so that the person might have the opportunity to learn a bit about the entire lifestyle that hsing brings with it.
Coming down from the soap box...
Totally, totally agree.
But that's an idea she developed on her own, without prompting from us, church, other family, etc.
About the priest thing! At first I did a double take then figured you were Episcopalian and then read the Eastern Orthodox part. You are right, I think most people automatically jump to Catholic though. We did have a priest who used to serve summers in our Catholic church that had kids. He had been widowed and went to the seminary later in life.
I don't think so. Sorry for venting. Tracy, our prayers are with your family and your son's friend's family. So, so sad. 
Wow.
I can only imagine what was said to my daughter behind my back. I took my daughter to Sylvan to have her tested and it was determined that the school had not given her the building blocks she needed to understand the work she was being given. There was nothing wrong with her. The school was livid that I took her to an outside testing facility and they pulled her and put her into remedial classes. 
