Homecoming proposal idea

[mjkacmom]

I'm saying that a 13 year old boy isn't going to think about doing this. I'd bet my right arm it was encouraged by parents who thought it would be cute. I wouldn't encourage my 8th grader to even take a "date@ to a dance in the first place but some people think it is cute. I had 3rd grade students "going together" and on Valentine's Day mom shows up with candy and a bear holding a heart for her son to give his "girlfriend". So then what happens when they get to be teens?

Totally disagree, and I've had 2 teen boys and 3 teen girls. At best, the moms tolerate this stuff, and no 13 year old boy is getting relationship advice from his mom. Ds18 did take a date to the 8th grade dance, his girlfriend. The only reason he had a girlfriend was peer pressure, mostly from girls! Finally he had enough of all the girl drama, caused by the girls, and broke up with her (although they are good friends today). I have a 13 year old ds and a 13 year old dd right now - I totally blame the girls!

 

[kymom99]

Totally disagree, and I've had 2 teen boys and 3 teen girls. At best, the moms tolerate this stuff, and no 13 year old boy is getting relationship advice from his mom. Ds18 did take a date to the 8th grade dance, his girlfriend. The only reason he had a girlfriend was peer pressure, mostly from girls! Finally he had enough of all the girl drama, caused by the girls, and broke up with her (although they are good friends today). I have a 13 year old ds and a 13 year old dd right now - I totally blame the girls!

You are probably right. My 17 year old son stays away from girls. Too much trouble for him. He's very low key.

 

[descovy]

Well since she's alread his gf "I think we've got this COVERED but will you go to homecoming with me?"

Yes, this is perfect!

Sorry OP you are getting so skewered about this.

Homecoming is a big deal where we live. None of it is necessary, or how we did it when I was in school.

But at the same time no harm no foul. For our school it is the only dance of the year, unless you are also going to senior prom. I don't see the harm in a little extra here.

My daughter got asked to Homecoming last year. The boy asked her out for a bike ride and they rode all over in near 100 degree heat. She wanted to barf from the heat. Then he showed her is map of their ride and it loosely spelled out HOCO. That's how he asked her. As she hot sweaty and nauseous.

I got a kick out of it because it proved he wasn't overly experienced with girls, lol. And here, nearly a year later are still dating.

Oh and my daughter expects him to ask her to Homecoming this year, even though its probably "covered"

 

[scrapquitler]

People, this is just s trend (for several years now). It's harmless. Dd20 and ds18 have participated in the "promposal" with both long term relationships, and with "just friends." If you don't have a teen, you probably don't get it.

I don't know why it seems to bother some so much. Ds did two this year, the first time his girlfriend of over a year, and then a month later with a friend, after his girlfriend dumped him.

I have a teen, and I don't get it, and she told me that she doesn't get it, either. She thinks is even more silly than I do.

 

[mjkacmom]

I have a teen, and I don't get it, and she told me that she doesn't get it, either. She thinks is even more silly than I do.

When I said "don't get," I mean don't get that it is a huge popular trend. I think this whole Pokemon thing is silly, but I get that it's a huge trend.

 

[Dakota731]

This whole thing makes me sad. All I can think of is that poor John's girlfriend doesn't think his "proposal" was as amazing as Alec's was to his girlfriend. So she's mad at him for not living up to her expectations. Don't kids have enough pressure nowadays - they have to be amazing athletes or musicians and get a full ride scholarship for academics. It seems to me that moms are watching too many episodes of the Bachelor or the Kardashians.

 

[seashell7290]

I think the promposal trend makes people think outside of the box. There is no need to always keep with tradition. Girls can ask guys too. My brother was asked by a girl with his favorite snack and a note on his car. No need to spend tons of money either. I decorated my then boyfriends parking spot with chalk asking him to a dance. It can be done on a budget!

 

[penn19]

It's big around here also. Drives me nuts. It's a dance! Why does everything have to be a big production? There was it at my sons school who did the whole proposal thing and the sign(HAVE to have a sign) said something like it would Ruff for me if you didn't go to homecoming. Something like that. The boy gave the girl a DOG to go along with the proposal. I'm sure her parents were thrilled. And it wasnt a boy friend girlfriend thing.
It was a boy who wanted to just ask her.

 

[MaryLovesPoohBear]

It only "is what it is" because people accept it. Or even encourage it.

If parents would say, "you are already boyfriend and girlfriend. Just ask her," instead of helping the boy think up some grand plan for the "proposal," then this craziness might end.

When I got married, there were a lot of things that were "all the rage." My husband and I didn't do any of them. And we are still married after all this time. It is actually better to not go along with the crowd.

 

[mjkacmom]

This whole thing makes me sad. All I can think of is that poor John's girlfriend doesn't think his "proposal" was as amazing as Alec's was to his girlfriend. So she's mad at him for not living up to her expectations. Don't kids have enough pressure nowadays - they have to be amazing athletes or musicians and get a full ride scholarship for academics. It seems to me that moms are watching too many episodes of the Bachelor or the Kardashians.

Again, the majority of kids do not involve their parents regarding these things. These kids are on Instagram, snap chat, and even Pinterest. This has nothing to do with adults! And no one is getting mad! I think it's also rare for a promposal t come as a surprise - I think they know the answer ahead of time. It's just a silly custom, nothing to get upset over.

 

[mjkacmom]

When I got married, there were a lot of things that were "all the rage." My husband and I didn't do any of them. And we are still married after all this time. It is actually better to not go along with the crowd.

Why? Do you think your marriage would be over if you followed the crowd? We had a pretty traditional wedding and have been married for over 20 years.

 

[disneychrista]

It's just a silly custom, nothing to get upset over.

It is not a custom; it is a FAD.

 

[Dread Pirate]

If the son is so interested in this, and it's not the parent, then why is the PARENT looking for the ideas?

 

[mjkacmom]

It is not a custom; it is a FAD.

Yes, but if it's still going on decades from now...

 

[mjkacmom]

If the son is so interested in this, and it's not the parent, then why is the PARENT looking for the ideas?

Just because the OP is looking for ideas doesn't mean that's common. I think most teens would automatically nix an idea that came from a parent. The OP didn't say her ds was asking her for ideas.

 

[disneychrista]

Yes, but if it's still going on decades from now...

Then it will be a custom (for now it is still a FAD)

Just because the OP is looking for ideas doesn't mean that's common. I think most teens would automatically nix an idea that came from a parent. The OP didn't say her ds was asking her for ideas.

Depends how you read the post.

Homecoming is early this year and my son needs help coming up with a proposal idea. He bought a blanket with our school logo on it and would like to give it to her as part of the proposal. Does anyone have any ideas of a cute saying or a way to use it? Thanks

 

[MaryLovesPoohBear]

Why? Do you think your marriage would be over if you followed the crowd? We had a pretty traditional wedding and have been married for over 20 years.

No, of course not. (There was actually suppose to be a space between the two sentences.)

We didn't follow the crowd with all of the new fads. Sounds like you didn't either.

This is a fad. A fad, that in this instance is being fully supported by the parents.

Sorry but this is a dance. Just a dance. Ask her or don't.

Imagine, if you need to come up with some elaborate way to ask her to a dance, what will you have to come up with if you want to ask her to get married? I really see this as the beginning of destination birthday parties for teens and later, baby-moons.

 

[disneychrista]

Imagine, if you need to come up with some elaborate way to ask her to a dance, what will you have to come up with if you want to ask her to get married?

Guess I am just a simple girl. I don't think being asked to get married should be an over the top thing either. I always feel sorry for those that get asked in a big public setting. It would seem to put so much pressure to say "YES," regardless of how you truly feel. Somethings are just better off being private affairs between a couple.

 

[rigs32]

If you read the message boards on various wedding sites, there are a lot of women in their 20s who are crying, devastated, etc because their proposal wasn't "good enough". Me thinks they might have been part of this prom/homecoming proposal trend in high school and just expect things to get bigger and better.

 

[kymom99]

I think the promposal trend makes people think outside of the box. There is no need to always keep with tradition. Girls can ask guys too. My brother was asked by a girl with his favorite snack and a note on his car. No need to spend tons of money either. I decorated my then boyfriends parking spot with chalk asking him to a dance. It can be done on a budget!

Those examples are really nice. Just enough to make someone feel special without a lot of pressure on either party