Homecoming proposal idea

[MomToOne]

Well since she's alread his gf "I think we've got this COVERED but will you go to homecoming with me?"

This! This! It's totally CUTE!

 

[Katy Belle]

Will you warm up to the idea of going to Homecoming with me?

Doesn't Linus, say Happiness is a warm blanket? Do kids know that? He could do a Peanuts themed sign, "Happiness is a warm blanket, and you as my date to Homecoming". Or something like that.

Maybe something with School Spirit? Hmmmm

Let us know what he does!

 

[Lavitz]

This thread has been good for a few laughs, all from people's reactions to a simple request for advice.

Listen, the kid has to do what he has to do. I'm sure my wife's world wouldn't end if I didn't do anything special for her on Valentines day (a made up holiday I don't particularity like... I digress), but it would hurt her feeling seeing everyone she knew enjoying something she wanted to be part of. For this reason I play along with the made up holiday. Much like OP's son is playing along with the requirement of asking his already GF if she wants to go to homecoming. Everyone knows she's going with him already, but it would probably suck for her if he didn't make the effort, and both of them might have fun going through the motions. While I hate Valentines day in theory based on principle, celebrating it is actually a lot of fun.

Also I have no suggestions because it's 2am and I should be sleeping. Also also I think proposals for homecoming are dumb like Valentines day is. But they're probably a bit of fun.

 

[QueenIsabella]

Well, since the date is a "sure thing", I would go sweet and simple. I like the idea of using the blanket for a picnic--bonus points if he assembles it himself (doesn't have to be fancy). Is there a place where they could picnic at school or before/after practice?

 

[Baklava]

Homecoming and Prom proposals are the norm Do I like it, no but it is what it is! My son is dating the girl so there are no concerns of her saying no.

If you don't like it, stop encouraging it. These things get crazy because the parents indulge them, pay for them, ask strangers on message boards to help them plan... this is not an unavoidable thing. You're choosing to indulge it and if you don't like it, take back your power.

Well since she's alread his gf "I think we've got this COVERED but will you go to homecoming with me?"

Or, "I am looking forward to spending Homecoming with you. What color flowers would you like? Can I pick you up at 7?"

Listen, the kid has to do what he has to do. I'm sure my wife's world wouldn't end if I didn't do anything special for her on Valentines day (a made up holiday I don't particularity like... I digress), but it would hurt her feeling seeing everyone she knew enjoying something she wanted to be part of. For this reason I play along with the made up holiday. Much like OP's son is playing along with the requirement of asking his already GF if she wants to go to homecoming. Everyone knows she's going with him already, but it would probably suck for her if he didn't make the effort, and both of them might have fun going through the motions. While I hate Valentines day in theory based on principle, celebrating it is actually a lot of fun.

Also I have no suggestions because it's 2am and I should be sleeping. Also also I think proposals for homecoming are dumb like Valentines day is. But they're probably a bit of fun.

No. The kid does not have to. The kid chooses to. The mother does not have to egg him on. The mother chooses to. It's certainly their right to do it, but let's not pretend they are helpless pawns. The kid wants to do it and the mom wants to be involved and help perpetuate the practice. Bare minimum, the kid should do his own planning. Am I the only one who would be a little skeeved if I knew a guy's mom helped him plan how to ask me on a date?

 

[Disney_traveler]

If you don't like it, stop encouraging it. These things get crazy because the parents indulge them, pay for them, ask strangers on message boards to help them plan... this is not an unavoidable thing. You're choosing to indulge it and if you don't like it, take back your power.



Or, "I am looking forward to spending Homecoming with you. What color flowers would you like? Can I pick you up at 7?"



No. The kid does not have to. The kid chooses to. The mother does not have to egg him on. The mother chooses to. It's certainly their right to do it, but let's not pretend they are helpless pawns. The kid wants to do it and the mom wants to be involved and help perpetuate the practice. Bare minimum, the kid should do his own planning. Am I the only one who would be a little skeeved if I knew a guy's mom helped him plan how to ask me on a date?

Bless your heart

 

[Baklava]

Bless your heart

Aren't you the sweetest thing?

 

[Disney_traveler]

Aren't you the sweetest thing?

Nope just seemed like you needed something to hopefully bring you some happiness and joy.

 

[TALB]

Love it! "I think we've got this Covered, but will you go to Homecoming with me?"

 

[disneychrista]

Nope just seemed like you needed something to hopefully bring you some happiness and joy.

So you post a condescending remark?

 

[Disney_traveler]

So you post a condescending remark?

Nope, I meant it sincerely. Welcome to the written word where it is hard to tell emotions and tone of voice.

If I wanted to be condescending I would have said something like "who whizzed in your cornflakes?" Or "aren't you just a ray of sunshine."

 

[mjkacmom]

People, this is just s trend (for several years now). It's harmless. Dd20 and ds18 have participated in the "promposal" with both long term relationships, and with "just friends." If you don't have a teen, you probably don't get it.

I don't know why it seems to bother some so much. Ds did two this year, the first time his girlfriend of over a year, and then a month later with a friend, after his girlfriend dumped him.

 

[disneychrista]

People, this is just s trend (for several years now). It's harmless. Dd20 and ds18 have participated in the "promposal" with both long term relationships, and with "just friends." If you don't have a teen, you probably don't get it.

Yes PROMposals have been a thing for several years but this is HOMECOMING - proposals. That is where I say enough is enough. Not everything has to be over the top.

 

[skysmom99]

I liked the idea of "I've think we've got this covered..." but you can look on Pinterest for more ideas. My dd has shown my me a bunch of ideas from there.

 

[VillainFavs]

Yes PROMposals have been a thing for several years but this is HOMECOMING - proposals. That is where I say enough is enough. Not everything has to be over the top.

Oh, but wait! Now it's a thing for the 8th grade dance at our school!! Boys trying to outdo one another. Girls feeling obligated to say yes because the boy went through some huge public "promposal" then not wanting to go. Boys not asking someone they wanted to because they were to embarrassed to do the whole be sh-bang. And this is 8TH GRADE!

 

[kymom99]

Oh, but wait! Now it's a thing for the 8th grade dance at our school!! Boys trying to outdo one another. Girls feeling obligated to say yes because the boy went through some huge public "promposal" then not wanting to go. Boys not asking someone they wanted to because they were to embarrassed to do the whole be sh-bang. And this is 8TH GRADE!

Do you think 8th grade kids came up with this idea? Neither do I. Just sayin

 

[mjkacmom]

Do you think 8th grade kids came up with this idea? Neither do I. Just sayin

Social media.

 

[TALB]

thanks for the cute ideas! Keep them coming!!

 

[kymom99]

Social media.

I'm saying that a 13 year old boy isn't going to think about doing this. I'd bet my right arm it was encouraged by parents who thought it would be cute. I wouldn't encourage my 8th grader to even take a "date@ to a dance in the first place but some people think it is cute. I had 3rd grade students "going together" and on Valentine's Day mom shows up with candy and a bear holding a heart for her son to give his "girlfriend". So then what happens when they get to be teens?

 

[disneychrista]

Do you think 8th grade kids came up with this idea? Neither do I. Just sayin

I think they want to be more grown up then they are. And since their older brothers/sisters are doing it, they want to too.

Social media.