Hold on tight to your kids!

Lilsia

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Feb 17, 2018
When I was a kid in Disney World I was coming off a ride with my mother. She reached for my hand, and I reached for hers, but what she didn’t realize at first was that she actually took the hand of another nearby girl who had the same color hair as me, and THAT little girl’s mother took MY hand. They’d all gotten a few steps away before they realized their error. By your logic, my mother doesn’t love me, which is the absolute farthest thing from the truth. My parents are wonderful human beings and I’ve never questioned their love for me.

I’m sure you’re right that there are some parents who don’t put in the effort. But even then, tired stressed out parents make mistakes. Even parents who aren’t tired of stressed out make mistakes. I’ve never even come close to losing either of my kids but I don’t think it means I love my kids more than the next person. Nor do I assume I am flawless, or that it could never happen to me. Which is why I don’t judge people I don’t know for a mistake that may very well be a one-off HOLY CRAP moment. I mean if it’s a repeated thing then yeah there’s a problem but when I see a panicked parent searching for a child I don’t think, jeez they must not love that kid.

That is not what I said at all. But kudos for twisting everything around as per usual here. The post about the parents not loving their kids was about those who clearly have no care about where their child is or if they are OK. The ones that let their kids run freely, even if it is dangerous to do so. Nothing about your situation says that and you know it. Everyone gets tired, but it is like anything else, you have to make the decision to pay attention. Like I said, it is a lot of hard work to be focused all the time, but it is not impossible. You can do things to make it easier, like don't set your alarm for 6am to be at the park at rope drop so you are not so tired. People make a lot of bad choices and then blame it on everything but themselves. I know that people don't want to lose their kids, but in all situations, you can ask yourself, "what could I have done differently". And that is the point that I am making. All of these situations could be avoided in some way.
 

Lilsia

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Feb 17, 2018
I left my first baby in the car once. We drove to the store, I thought my husband was getting her, he thought I was getting her, and we both started walking into the store intent on getting what we needed and getting out. We were about two steps into the store before we both looked at each other and were like "Where's the baby?!" and then we ran back out to the car. Until that moment I'd never realized how easy it could be to leave a child in the car. She was fine--it was maybe two minutes and she was asleep, but it scared me to death and after that we developed a system of 'make sure we have the baby/check in with the person dropping the kids off at daycare.'

Parents can be stupid. Kids can be stupid. Whenever we're out we established early on now that they're older "if I can't see you that's a problem" but my 8 year old at Disney kept insisting she was too old to hold hands and 'could keep up in a crowd on her own' and let me tell you how that didn't work out very often. But we'd also worked on 'if you get separated from us DO NOT MOVE FROM WHERE YOU ARE because I will come back there and look for you' and that worked well for us. But especially at Disney the crowds are awful and there are so many fun things to go look at. I love the Winnie the Pooh play area in line but man there are so many places you can lose sight of your kids as you also try to keep up with the line. It's like a constant symphony of parents yelling their kids names over and over there.

So yeah while I certainly have seen my share of awful Disney parents screaming at their kids or dragging them around, being separated from them or losing sight of them for a few minutes as they bolt isn't something I'm very parent-shame-y about.

That must have been scary. To be clear, I am not shaming anyone. I am just pointing out that, as you learned, there are things that parents can do to make sure that these things don't happen. If all parents are just a bit more diligent, so many tragedies could be avoided.
 

DisneyMama811

🇨🇦 Disney Dreamin'
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Feb 16, 2021
That is very interesting. I would think holding the child's hand would be acceptable and effective, also a bit of a comfort until their parent is found. I wonder if they coach them not to touch a lost child so as not to be accused of anything inappropriate. That's sad, but I could see that being the reason.
that's definitely the reason why. It's the same reason the wiggles don't hug their little fans or touch them at all in photo ops, if there's no physical contact it's a lot easier to avoid accusations
 

nancipants

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Nov 18, 2013
My toddler is a runner and hates holding hands. I usually hold on to his shirt or shoulder when we are walking through a crowd, but he’s strong and sometimes breaks away. I wonder how many people have assumed I’m yelling at them to watch where they’re going, when I’m actually yelling at my toddler to watch where he’s walking. 🤣
 

Lilsia

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Joined
Feb 17, 2018
My toddler is a runner and hates holding hands. I usually hold on to his shirt or shoulder when we are walking through a crowd, but he’s strong and sometimes breaks away. I wonder how many people have assumed I’m yelling at them to watch where they’re going, when I’m actually yelling at my toddler to watch where he’s walking. 🤣
Some kids are just runners at that age. I don't understand how they can be that fast. LOL These are the kids that the child leashes where made for. 🤣
 


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