Go get a room.
Thats exactly what I feel like yelling this time every year as Gay Days descend upon Orlando. I know that during the first week in June, unsuspecting families and otherwise good and reasonable people will, at times, be confronted with images and events they would probably rather not see or experience on their family vacation. These people paid to visit Disney World, but during the first week in June, it looks a lot more like South Beach.
For the record, Im a 42 year old gay man living in Orlando. Ive been to Gay Days before, and thought it was a little bit over the top, but always bit my lip. This year though, it just seems completely out of control, and I wanted to get this off my chest.
Ive watched over the years as Gay Days has grown in scope and size. What once was a small group of well meaning gay men and lesbians has grown and in my opinion, deformed into what is now nothing more than a vile spectacle of self indulgence and indecency.
No matter how prudish that last sentence may sound, trust me Im no prude. I have a liberal streak that cuts through me like a hot knife through butter, but I like to think that I was raised with a certain sense of decency and a pretty good sense of right and wrong. There is a time and a place for everything, and Disney World is neither in this instance.
Over the years I have heard about, and have witnessed, what is commonly referred to as PDA (public displays of affection) during gay days, and almost always its done in full view of a family, or at least children. I dont care if youre straight or gay, there are some things kids dont need to see and trust me, two queens frenching outside Cinderella castle is really high on that list.
I cant help but think of, and feel sorry for the unsuspecting family who saved for years for a once in a lifetime trip only to arrive and find that Disney had in fact, been invaded by he-women and shaved down muscle boys. By itself that would not be a problem, but the sheer number of people who seem to go out of their way to rub their sexuality in everyones face during this event is nothing short of disgraceful. Is the Magic Kingdom REALLY the place for a 5 year old to ask his father why those two men are kissing? Is it really up to any person to decide for that parent when, or if, they will have that conversation with their child? Ive always believed the best way we, as gay men and lesbians, could further our cause was to simply live our lives openly, and with dignity. Not hide in shame, and not force our beliefs or lifestyle down anyone elses throat. I dont like it when I hear pompous windbags telling me Im going to burn in hell for being gay, and Im sure most of the free world would appreciate a visit to Disney World that did not include the vision of grown men in go-go shorts, and ads for lubricant prominently displayed throughout the host hotel. Oh, and while were on the subject of image at the host hotel (the Sheraton World on International Drive) the line of beer trucks outside the resort was a nice touch, and the liquor kiosks and condom ads every 5 feet will certainly not further the image of us as a bunch of drunken sex fiends.
The argument is often put forth that since Christian groups congregate at Disney World, why not us? Fair enough, except that the Night of Joy (the Christian concert that takes place at the Magic Kingdom each year) is a hard ticket event meaning that its not open to the public, and requires separate admission. The Magic Kingdom is closed down to the public at a certain time, and only those people that CHOOSE to be there are allowed in. Families that come to the Magic Kingdom on Gay Days are not afforded the luxury of choice. Since Disney does not sanction the event, its not mentioned anywhere, or to anyone booking a reservation during that week. If Gay Day at the Magic Kingdom was a hard ticket event like the Night of Joy, sign me up. But its not its far from it. Trust me, if a religious group organized 100,000 Christians to go and make yourself known in the Magic Kingdom one day a year and began rubbing their lifestyles in the faces of visitors by preaching to them as they tried to ride Space Mountain plenty of people would be up in arms.
Then there is the issue of drugs. It is widely known throughout the gay community in Orlando that if you want good drugs and great sex, the first week of June is a great time to visit. So much so, that the Orange County Sheriffs office found it necessary to station deputies and drug sniffing dogs in the lobby of the host hotel. And before the oppression chorus starts warming up, just get real we all know that it goes on in droves during gay week and its not oppression if its justified. I dont mean to imply that every person attending gay days is a drug crazed lunatic the vast majority are not but no one in the gay community can deny how pervasive this problem is, and the problem travels with us.
Now, I have to tell you Im uncomfortable writing this. In the 8 years Ive had the site, Ive never used it to espouse my beliefs political or otherwise, and I doubt seriously I ever will again. But, I know a little something about Disney, and as a gay man I feel I had something to say on this issue something that should be said, something that many good, decent and reasonable people feel but will never openly express for fear of political incorrectness.
Im also more than a little fed up. Im fed up with the world thinking that this is what being gay in America is all about its not. Im fed up that those of us with some sense of ourselves outside of circuit parties and body building are painted with this tawdry brush. But most of all, Im fed up with watching a place I love get defiled by the kind of twisted nonsense that routinely takes place during Gay Days. The Magic Kingdom is not the place to make a stand, or to further an agenda. While Disney does not openly promote or discourage the event, I know that many inside the mouse house dread its arrival every year. Its a political land mine and Disney does their best to walk it very carefully. In my mind, Disney already does it right. Ive stayed at Disney hotels, sailed on the
Disney Cruise Line and probably eaten in every restaurant on Disney property on both coasts and done all of it with my male partner. NEVER ONCE was I treated any differently than any other guest it was a non issue the way it should be. Thats Disney's policy and its a good one. In return for that, my partner and I act appropriately when were in public the way any couple should straight or gay.
And before I get any emails from my gay brethren calling me a self loathing aunt tom (someone actually called me that once), let me be clear Im proud of who and what I am. I just dont feel the need to force feed it to the world in that way. Disney is a place where reality is suspended, at least for a time. Its not a place for anyones political agenda right or left. Keep Key West in Key West and let Disney be Disney.
