Having a very hard time with DS going off to college

[PRINCESS VIJA]

I just finally caught up with everyone's posts. I have been crazy busy putting together a scrapbook for DD, she is starting HS and the theme was how to make it through highschool. I had many people send in their thoughts and it turned out great. I wanted to give it to her before today, it was their "jumpstart" into highschool for Freshmen. For the most part it kept me occupied from worrying about DS, except when I had to dig through pics for her, I came upon many, many of him and it was hard.

This past weekend we had our last "hurrah" with DS. We went hiking in a park, cooked an outdoors meal like they did when they were in the mountains this past summer, went to dinner. Then on Sunday I took him to a nice restaurant for lunch. Just me and DS. I wrote him a card, expressing my thoughts, mostly thoughts on how I know he will succeed, what attributes he has that will help him, and special times we have had and how awesome he is. He did thank me after he read it! He also has been a bit more free with his hugs and "I love you's" to me this past week. I am loving it, but have found myself REALLY crying, certain things set me off. I have to be careful though, because DD has had enough and feels like I'm not giving her the attention she needs/wants as she starts high school.

A few more days, this is not going to be easy.

I think I will wait to check out the link, I don't want to go over the edge.

Hang in there everyone. Sounds like we are some of the last to part. Those that have already parted, you have my hugs, and those of us that are still preparing, well... lets hang on and hope for the best.

 

[mom2rtk]

I just finally caught up with everyone's posts. I have been crazy busy putting together a scrapbook for DD, she is starting HS and the theme was how to make it through highschool. I had many people send in their thoughts and it turned out great. I wanted to give it to her before today, it was their "jumpstart" into highschool for Freshmen. For the most part it kept me occupied from worrying about DS, except when I had to dig through pics for her, I came upon many, many of him and it was hard.

This past weekend we had our last "hurrah" with DS. We went hiking in a park, cooked an outdoors meal like they did when they were in the mountains this past summer, went to dinner. Then on Sunday I took him to a nice restaurant for lunch. Just me and DS. I wrote him a card, expressing my thoughts, mostly thoughts on how I know he will succeed, what attributes he has that will help him, and special times we have had and how awesome he is. He did thank me after he read it! He also has been a bit more free with his hugs and "I love you's" to me this past week. I am loving it, but have found myself REALLY crying, certain things set me off. I have to be careful though, because DD has had enough and feels like I'm not giving her the attention she needs/wants as she starts high school.

A few more days, this is not going to be easy.

I think I will wait to check out the link, I don't want to go over the edge.

Hang in there everyone. Sounds like we are some of the last to part. Those that have already parted, you have my hugs, and those of us that are still preparing, well... lets hang on and hope for the best.

Hang in there! The scrapbook for your DD is a great idea.

And LOL on your DD wanting some attention. Mine did exactly the same thing. There were just so many details to work through leading up to DS leaving that he occupied much of the family conversation. I told her if she didn't chill, every conversation after he left would be about how much we missed him.

Thankfully 2 weeks into it, things are settling into a new normal.

Good luck getting through the last few days.

 

[mom2travel]

Hang in there! The scrapbook for your DD is a great idea.

And LOL on your DD wanting some attention. Mine did exactly the same thing. There were just so many details to work through leading up to DS leaving that he occupied much of the family conversation. I told her if she didn't chill, every conversation after he left would be about how much we missed him.

Thankfully 2 weeks into it, things are settling into a new normal.

Good luck getting through the last few days.

Yes, our new normal... I think I need a couple more weeks and then will feel more stable. Like once DD's fall activity/sports schedule is all set

Funny that a few of us have younger DDs. When ours would ask something while we were in the middle of some college related task or talk for DS, we would just tell her to hold on, we will happily double-parent her once DS is away

 

[HERSEY]

I just finally caught up with everyone's posts. I have been crazy busy putting together a scrapbook for DD, she is starting HS and the theme was how to make it through highschool. I had many people send in their thoughts and it turned out great. I wanted to give it to her before today, it was their "jumpstart" into highschool for Freshmen. For the most part it kept me occupied from worrying about DS, except when I had to dig through pics for her, I came upon many, many of him and it was hard.

This past weekend we had our last "hurrah" with DS. We went hiking in a park, cooked an outdoors meal like they did when they were in the mountains this past summer, went to dinner. Then on Sunday I took him to a nice restaurant for lunch. Just me and DS. I wrote him a card, expressing my thoughts, mostly thoughts on how I know he will succeed, what attributes he has that will help him, and special times we have had and how awesome he is. He did thank me after he read it! He also has been a bit more free with his hugs and "I love you's" to me this past week. I am loving it, but have found myself REALLY crying, certain things set me off. I have to be careful though, because DD has had enough and feels like I'm not giving her the attention she needs/wants as she starts high school.

A few more days, this is not going to be easy.

I think I will wait to check out the link, I don't want to go over the edge.

Hang in there everyone. Sounds like we are some of the last to part. Those that have already parted, you have my hugs, and those of us that are still preparing, well... lets hang on and hope for the best.

What a great memory you made with your son I love the scrapbook idea.

Hang in there! The scrapbook for your DD is a great idea.

And LOL on your DD wanting some attention. Mine did exactly the same thing. There were just so many details to work through leading up to DS leaving that he occupied much of the family conversation. I told her if she didn't chill, every conversation after he left would be about how much we missed him.

Thankfully 2 weeks into it, things are settling into a new normal.

Good luck getting through the last few days.

Yeah new normal is exactly it. Our dog is having a hard time he is still trying to figure out where his boy is

Yes, our new normal... I think I need a couple more weeks and then will feel more stable. Like once DD's fall activity/sports schedule is all set

Funny that a few of us have younger DDs. When ours would ask something while we were in the middle of some college related task or talk for DS, we would just tell her to hold on, we will happily double-parent her once DS is away

It is a good thing some of you have other children at home. That may help keep your mind from saying in one place.

I heard from DS last night. He sounds good but really warm. In my area of the country we are having late summer heat. His Hall is not air conditioned. He said they have 4 fans moving the hot air around. They are discovering places on campus that have air conditioning and hanging out there. I guess he really was listening to the things I was saying to him. He is drinking extra water not just cause he is thirsty. Go figure

 

[marcyinPA]

Well, it's Friday- the end of my DS's first week, and some of your kids 2nd week. How are they doing??

My DS has had good and bad days. He is not as happy as he thought he would be in the dorm he chose. His roommate is nice, but he is never there. He is in the marching band and is a music major, so he has his own friends and whatnot elsewhere. My DS only sees him at like 9 pm. The guys on my DS's floor are super jocks- and my DS is a music/theatre guy. He loves sports, but he doesn't play them as far as organized anyway. But he has not connected with them, and they have been writing rude stuff on his dry erase board on the door. He also is having trouble with his math class. He can't understand a word the professor says. He went to his advisor, who was really not much help. In the end, he has decided to tough the class out, but he is really stressed over it. It is new material- number theory- something that he hasn't learned even though he had math up to and including Calc in HS. I told him to get a tutor. His other classes seem to be going OK.

The positives are that he met two guys in another dorm who are from our area but a different HS. They have been hanging out quite a bit and eat dinner together. They also bought tickets together for a bus trip to go to a Phillies game in two weeks (for $15!) so he is excited about that. He also joined the Christian fellowship group on campus and has been having a great experience with it. He is starting to bond with the people in the group, and I imagine it will only get better. And, he is auditioning for the A Capella group next week, so that is a positive too.

My heart aches when he calls/texts/Face Times me and he says he is lonely. Yesterday was the worst. He was stressed about this math class, and he said he felt he made the wrong decision going to this school. Of course, I felt guilty because it was between this one and a small Christian school, which we could not afford.

I hope it all gets better soon. He is an introvert, so it is hard for him to put himself out there socially sometimes. He is doing it, but it is slow. He also misses his girlfriend, who is having a great experience at her college.

 

[Christine]

Well, it's Friday- the end of my DS's first week, and some of your kids 2nd week. How are they doing??

My DS has had good and bad days. He is not as happy as he thought he would be in the dorm he chose. His roommate is nice, but he is never there. He is in the marching band and is a music major, so he has his own friends and whatnot elsewhere. My DS only sees him at like 9 pm. The guys on my DS's floor are super jocks- and my DS is a music/theatre guy. He loves sports, but he doesn't play them as far as organized anyway. But he has not connected with them, and they have been writing rude stuff on his dry erase board on the door. He also is having trouble with his math class. He can't understand a word the professor says. He went to his advisor, who was really not much help. In the end, he has decided to tough the class out, but he is really stressed over it. It is new material- number theory- something that he hasn't learned even though he had math up to and including Calc in HS. I told him to get a tutor. His other classes seem to be going OK.

The positives are that he met two guys in another dorm who are from our area but a different HS. They have been hanging out quite a bit and eat dinner together. They also bought tickets together for a bus trip to go to a Phillies game in two weeks (for $15!) so he is excited about that. He also joined the Christian fellowship group on campus and has been having a great experience with it. He is starting to bond with the people in the group, and I imagine it will only get better. And, he is auditioning for the A Capella group next week, so that is a positive too.

My heart aches when he calls/texts/Face Times me and he says he is lonely. Yesterday was the worst. He was stressed about this math class, and he said he felt he made the wrong decision going to this school. Of course, I felt guilty because it was between this one and a small Christian school, which we could not afford.

I hope it all gets better soon. He is an introvert, so it is hard for him to put himself out there socially sometimes. He is doing it, but it is slow. He also misses his girlfriend, who is having a great experience at her college.

I'm sure things will get better soon. This is the very rough transition time. I talked to my son last night, really for the first time (a real phone call). He is doing MUCH better than I ever thought. He and his roommate are getting along very well and are very similar. He is in a small dorm so he feels that they all "know each other" in the dorm, which he really likes.

He did say that he's not been involved in the "party" scene and seems very leary of the frat parties. His roommate has a girlfriend at the college, so my son does have his moments alone. He said he hasn't befriended anyone in his classes so he is walking to classes alone, which seems to bug him for some reason, but I told him that this was pretty normal--to actually be alone going to class--it's not like high school!!

He also said that his professors seem pretty mean but, hey, it's early!! He was having some trouble with one of the computer modules in his Calc class. It was not accepting the correct answers. Many of the students complained and the teacher is aware of the problem but didn't give them any clear cut solutions so he was floundering with the next night's homework. I told him that, in college, it's important to just keep contacting the teacher, via e-mail, when you don't know. They have encouraged that at all the orientations/meetings. It's just getting that through his head!

He said some of the kids he knows are homesick and are already planning trips home next weekend (I personally think that's a bad idea--just prolongs the homesickness).

Anyway, I think it does get better, then slips back, then gets better. It's a bumpy transition.

I hope your son feels better soon! I understand about the sports stuff. My son is not into them and it's been a struggle most of his life to find like-minded peers.

 

[mom2rtk]

Well, it's Friday- the end of my DS's first week, and some of your kids 2nd week. How are they doing??

My DS has had good and bad days. He is not as happy as he thought he would be in the dorm he chose. His roommate is nice, but he is never there. He is in the marching band and is a music major, so he has his own friends and whatnot elsewhere. My DS only sees him at like 9 pm. The guys on my DS's floor are super jocks- and my DS is a music/theatre guy. He loves sports, but he doesn't play them as far as organized anyway. But he has not connected with them, and they have been writing rude stuff on his dry erase board on the door. He also is having trouble with his math class. He can't understand a word the professor says. He went to his advisor, who was really not much help. In the end, he has decided to tough the class out, but he is really stressed over it. It is new material- number theory- something that he hasn't learned even though he had math up to and including Calc in HS. I told him to get a tutor. His other classes seem to be going OK.

The positives are that he met two guys in another dorm who are from our area but a different HS. They have been hanging out quite a bit and eat dinner together. They also bought tickets together for a bus trip to go to a Phillies game in two weeks (for $15!) so he is excited about that. He also joined the Christian fellowship group on campus and has been having a great experience with it. He is starting to bond with the people in the group, and I imagine it will only get better. And, he is auditioning for the A Capella group next week, so that is a positive too.

My heart aches when he calls/texts/Face Times me and he says he is lonely. Yesterday was the worst. He was stressed about this math class, and he said he felt he made the wrong decision going to this school. Of course, I felt guilty because it was between this one and a small Christian school, which we could not afford.

I hope it all gets better soon. He is an introvert, so it is hard for him to put himself out there socially sometimes. He is doing it, but it is slow. He also misses his girlfriend, who is having a great experience at her college.

I bet it really is hard to have him text you that he is lonely. It's just his first week, so I'm sure this is the hardest. I would absolutely take encouragement that he is doing the right things so will be thriving soon. He is getting out and getting involved. I think finding a couple kids to do things can make all the difference in the world.

What a bummer his roommate isn't turning out to be someone he can really bond with. At least it doesn't sound as bad as Lisa's daughter is dealing with!

The rude stuff on the dry erase board stinks. What is wrong with people these days? My son had two more fire alarms yesterday. One in the morning where he said he saw smoke on the first floor, so maybe a cooking incident? Then one last night he says had something to do with kids on another floor messing with the alarm. He says that's getting really old.

Both of you hang in there. I bet things will turn around the more he gets to know other kids. He's doing all the right things.

 

[RunDanceSkate]

Well, it's Friday- the end of my DS's first week, and some of your kids 2nd week. How are they doing??

My DS has had good and bad days. He is not as happy as he thought he would be in the dorm he chose.

My heart aches when he calls/texts/Face Times me and he says he is lonely. Yesterday was the worst. He was stressed about this math class, and he said he felt he made the wrong decision going to this school. Of course, I felt guilty because it was between this one and a small Christian school, which we could not afford.

Sounds like a pretty typical start, good and bad. It is hard though we just want to fix everything but we know we can't.

My son does not start class until Tuesday, but he was told his French class was cancelled and he can not get a new course until Tuesday, apparently he was the only student who registered. There are no dorms at his school so he is in a Homestay programs with other international students, but their host went on vacation and none of the other guys can cook so my son has been cooking for everyone since he moved in. He cooks things he likes with the food available in the house and if the other guys want it, they can eat it and if they don't he packages it up as leftovers. I think he really likes having access to a kitchen again, his last place all he had was a fridge and a microwave.

As part of the cost/program he is suppose to get breakfast and dinner everyday. The idea being that they eat meals together and work on their language skills. The 3 other boys are from Hong Kong and speak Cantonese. My daughter is looking forward to going to visit her brother since she is learning Cantonese this year.

He has only been able to get one text book so far, the others he cannot do anything about until classes start. He has been unable to find out about parking passes yet.

On a good note he selected a birthday present for his dance partner all on his own a Lululemon scarf, she liked it and it matches perfectly to the new jacket her mom got her. He has been stressing over a gift for weeks Funny how I am worrying about his classes, driving, eating, training, coordinating transportation for his next couple of international trips, and his biggest concern was a birthday present.

 

[RunDanceSkate]

I'm at a week and two days! I was doing fine, but I was in quite the grumpy mood yesterday and really just wanted her home. I almost had the attitude of, "It was all fun and games, now get home and let's get back to normal." Of course, that isn't going to happen. I'm fine today. It really wasn't about her yesterday, just more like life in general so I was feeling bad for myself.

Hang in there, everyone!

I hit a similar day at a week ad two days. I was cranky, it was not a good day. Glad to hear I am not crazy, unless we both are. The next day was better, although I am sad today, must be the long weekend.

 

[yoopermom]

We dropped DS off last Sunday, and he has only texted since (I'm holding back from calling until at least this Sunday).

I was worried about the first time he got sick and was alone, but, guess what? I woke up sick this am, instead! DH works 12 hr shifts the next three days and then is leaving for 10 days out of state, so all I could picture was that Xfiles episode where the neighbor dies and her cat eats her . I like to think my dogs love me more than that, but I sure wish my boy was here! At least he'd notice when I didn't have his meals made, wash done, etc .

He's doing great, though, and his DGF posts on FB all the time, so at least I can spy on him through her .

Hugs to you all!

Terri

 

[Katy Belle]

Well, it's Friday- the end of my DS's first week, and some of your kids 2nd week. How are they doing??

My DS has had good and bad days. He is not as happy as he thought he would be in the dorm he chose. His roommate is nice, but he is never there. He is in the marching band and is a music major, so he has his own friends and whatnot elsewhere. My DS only sees him at like 9 pm. The guys on my DS's floor are super jocks- and my DS is a music/theatre guy. He loves sports, but he doesn't play them as far as organized anyway. But he has not connected with them, and they have been writing rude stuff on his dry erase board on the door. He also is having trouble with his math class. He can't understand a word the professor says. He went to his advisor, who was really not much help. In the end, he has decided to tough the class out, but he is really stressed over it. It is new material- number theory- something that he hasn't learned even though he had math up to and including Calc in HS. I told him to get a tutor. His other classes seem to be going OK.

The positives are that he met two guys in another dorm who are from our area but a different HS. They have been hanging out quite a bit and eat dinner together. They also bought tickets together for a bus trip to go to a Phillies game in two weeks (for $15!) so he is excited about that. He also joined the Christian fellowship group on campus and has been having a great experience with it. He is starting to bond with the people in the group, and I imagine it will only get better. And, he is auditioning for the A Capella group next week, so that is a positive too.

My heart aches when he calls/texts/Face Times me and he says he is lonely. Yesterday was the worst. He was stressed about this math class, and he said he felt he made the wrong decision going to this school. Of course, I felt guilty because it was between this one and a small Christian school, which we could not afford.

I hope it all gets better soon. He is an introvert, so it is hard for him to put himself out there socially sometimes. He is doing it, but it is slow. He also misses his girlfriend, who is having a great experience at her college.

Your first paragraph made my chest hurt!!! Seriously??? Rude stuff on the white board??? I think a good RA would nip that in the bud! But your second paragraph makes it seem so much better! I do think that the positives will overtake the negatives for your son. I sure pray it will!!

DS has been gone three weeks, finished 2 weeks worth of classes and is now driving home for the long weekend!!! I hear from him daily, via text. I have only spoken to him on the phone once. I have very little details. I will try not to interrogate him all weekend, but I really want to know things!

I'm not sure he's made many new friends. He has been with friends from his High School some, and told me he made a friend in English class. He has talked about 2 boys from the floor. I need more details!!!

His brothers miss him so much. I hope he has energy for all their questions!

Hang in there Moms! We can do this!

 

[mom2travel]

Your first paragraph made my chest hurt!!! Seriously??? Rude stuff on the white board??? I think a good RA would nip that in the bud! But your second paragraph makes it seem so much better! I do think that the positives will overtake the negatives for your son. I sure pray it will!!

DS has been gone three weeks, finished 2 weeks worth of classes and is now driving home for the long weekend!!! I hear from him daily, via text. I have only spoken to him on the phone once. I have very little details. I will try not to interrogate him all weekend, but I really want to know things!

I'm not sure he's made many new friends. He has been with friends from his High School some, and told me he made a friend in English class. He has talked about 2 boys from the floor. I need more details!!!

His brothers miss him so much. I hope he has energy for all their questions!

Hang in there Moms! We can do this!

I feel your pain! I want details!!!! I have heard from DS via texts most days since he moved into his dorm 2 weeks ago. I told myself that it was good to have days when I didn't hear from him at all - that it means he's busy and having fun

We did speak once in the phone the other day - for at least 45 minutes! - he had called w a question and when I called him back, he has figured out his problem but was actually chatty

I know he sort of gets along with his roommate. He said the guy hangs out with friends from high school, not the guys in their hall, and goes out partying every night which is totally not my DS' thing. Some nights he stays in a frat house so DS has the room to himself.

It sounds like DS is making friends. It's so hard to not ask a million questions! He is also coming home this weekend. Hopefully he will have missed us so much he just spews all the info I seek without me needing to ask

Hang in there everyone! I think we're doing great. And our kids are too!!

 

[LisaR]

Well, it's Friday- the end of my DS's first week, and some of your kids 2nd week. How are they doing??

My DS has had good and bad days. He is not as happy as he thought he would be in the dorm he chose. His roommate is nice, but he is never there. He is in the marching band and is a music major, so he has his own friends and whatnot elsewhere. My DS only sees him at like 9 pm. The guys on my DS's floor are super jocks- and my DS is a music/theatre guy. He loves sports, but he doesn't play them as far as organized anyway. But he has not connected with them, and they have been writing rude stuff on his dry erase board on the door. He also is having trouble with his math class. He can't understand a word the professor says. He went to his advisor, who was really not much help. In the end, he has decided to tough the class out, but he is really stressed over it. It is new material- number theory- something that he hasn't learned even though he had math up to and including Calc in HS. I told him to get a tutor. His other classes seem to be going OK.

The positives are that he met two guys in another dorm who are from our area but a different HS. They have been hanging out quite a bit and eat dinner together. They also bought tickets together for a bus trip to go to a Phillies game in two weeks (for $15!) so he is excited about that. He also joined the Christian fellowship group on campus and has been having a great experience with it. He is starting to bond with the people in the group, and I imagine it will only get better. And, he is auditioning for the A Capella group next week, so that is a positive too.

My heart aches when he calls/texts/Face Times me and he says he is lonely. Yesterday was the worst. He was stressed about this math class, and he said he felt he made the wrong decision going to this school. Of course, I felt guilty because it was between this one and a small Christian school, which we could not afford.

I hope it all gets better soon. He is an introvert, so it is hard for him to put himself out there socially sometimes. He is doing it, but it is slow. He also misses his girlfriend, who is having a great experience at her college.

I'm so sorry, but give it some time. I know it must be killing you, though. I know one of the reasons I had so much anxiety before my DD left was the whole fear of wondering if she would love it or hate it. Thankfully she loves it.

One thing we drilled into DD's head during the summer was that she needed to make things happen from day 1. She needed to join clubs, say hi to people she passed in the halls, and get outside of her comfort zone from the very beginning. She did just that and seems to have multiple groups of friends now. It does take a lot longer for some though. The girl across the street from us just started her junior year at a school about 1.5 hours away. She came home every single Thursday night in her freshman year and stayed until Monday morning. I would be so mad that I was paying a housing fee for my kid who was at home more than she was at school! But it finally clicked for her sophomore year and she hardly ever came home. She loves it now! Give it time and hang in there.

DH and I are going to visit DD for the day tomorrow! I can't wait to see her. It has only been just over two weeks, but it seems like it has been much longer. For those of you who have kids coming home this weekend, ENJOY!!!

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

Funny that a few of us have younger DDs. When ours would ask something while we were in the middle of some college related task or talk for DS, we would just tell her to hold on, we will happily double-parent her once DS is away

I have already been teasing DD about how she will have ALL of our attention! She also is a bit funny because one reason she is sad that DS is leaving.... is because she can't blame DS for something that goes wrong... we will KNOW it is her!

My DS has had good and bad days. He is not as happy as he thought he would be in the dorm he chose. His roommate is nice, but he is never there. He is in the marching band and is a music major, so he has his own friends and whatnot elsewhere. My DS only sees him at like 9 pm. The guys on my DS's floor are super jocks- and my DS is a music/theatre guy. He loves sports, but he doesn't play them as far as organized anyway. But he has not connected with them, and they have been writing rude stuff on his dry erase board on the door. He also is having trouble with his math class. He can't understand a word the professor says. He went to his advisor, who was really not much help. In the end, he has decided to tough the class out, but he is really stressed over it. It is new material- number theory- something that he hasn't learned even though he had math up to and including Calc in HS. I told him to get a tutor. His other classes seem to be going OK.

The positives are that he met two guys in another dorm who are from our area but a different HS. They have been hanging out quite a bit and eat dinner together. They also bought tickets together for a bus trip to go to a Phillies game in two weeks (for $15!) so he is excited about that. He also joined the Christian fellowship group on campus and has been having a great experience with it. He is starting to bond with the people in the group, and I imagine it will only get better. And, he is auditioning for the A Capella group next week, so that is a positive too.

My heart aches when he calls/texts/Face Times me and he says he is lonely. Yesterday was the worst. He was stressed about this math class, and he said he felt he made the wrong decision going to this school. Of course, I felt guilty because it was between this one and a small Christian school, which we could not afford.

OMG, my heart aches too for all of you. that is so sad that kids just can't be nice. High school never ends. I am glad he found someone to hang out with, hopefully things will keep getting better and better.

We dropped DS off last Sunday, and he has only texted since (I'm holding back from calling until at least this Sunday).

I was worried about the first time he got sick and was alone, but, guess what? I woke up sick this am, instead! DH works 12 hr shifts the next three days and then is leaving for 10 days out of state, so all I could picture was that Xfiles episode where the neighbor dies and her cat eats her . I like to think my dogs love me more than that, but I sure wish my boy was here! At least he'd notice when I didn't have his meals made, wash done, etc .

He's doing great, though, and his DGF posts on FB all the time, so at least I can spy on him through her .

Hugs to you all!

Terri

Hope you feel better! I felt really warm yesterday and was worried I was getting sick. Today I am better though. I don't watch xfiles, but that doesn't sound like fun to me! LOL. Hang in there when DH goes off on his trip. talk to us, we will be here.

DS has been gone three weeks, finished 2 weeks worth of classes and is now driving home for the long weekend!!! I hear from him daily, via text. I have only spoken to him on the phone once. I have very little details. I will try not to interrogate him all weekend, but I really want to know things!

I'm not sure he's made many new friends. He has been with friends from his High School some, and told me he made a friend in English class. He has talked about 2 boys from the floor. I need more details!!!

Hang in there Moms! We can do this!

PLEASE tell us how your visit went! I am looking forward to hearing some good stories of reconnecting after they head off. Your DS is coming home... this is the weekend I drop mine off... enjoy your time!

We did speak once in the phone the other day - for at least 45 minutes! - he had called w a question and when I called him back, he has figured out his problem but was actually chatty

It sounds like DS is making friends. It's so hard to not ask a million questions! He is also coming home this weekend. Hopefully he will have missed us so much he just spews all the info I seek without me needing to ask

Hang in there everyone! I think we're doing great. And our kids are too!!

Oh, how I long for DS to be chatty on the phone, I doubt it will happen, but I'll hold on to hope. Glad you had a great talk.

DH and I are going to visit DD for the day tomorrow! I can't wait to see her. It has only been just over two weeks, but it seems like it has been much longer. For those of you who have kids coming home this weekend, ENJOY!!!

Enjoy your visit!!! PLEASE give us details!!!

 

[mom2rtk]

My son made it home last night. His friend's car overheated and they didn't use the A/C most of the way home in a heatwave, but they made it. We all just sat and talked and talked. And he's definitely not a talker. (Many of his texts are just one word long.) It was so nice. It's sort of like I've been holding my breath for the last 3 weeks and I can finally let it out. He's loving chemistry (Is this really MY son???? ), feels a little lost in calculus but knows some kids who can help. Mostly I think he just got really lucky in the roommate department. That piece is HUGE.

Hugs to everyone hitting bumps in the road. Do let us all know how it's going and how they work through those bumps.

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

My son made it home last night. His friend's car overheated and they didn't use the A/C most of the way home in a heatwave, but they made it. We all just sat and talked and talked. And he's definitely not a talker. (Many of his texts are just one word long.) It was so nice. It's sort of like I've been holding my breath for the last 3 weeks and I can finally let it out. He's loving chemistry (Is this really MY son???? ), feels a little lost in calculus but knows some kids who can help. Mostly I think he just got really lucky in the roommate department. That piece is HUGE.

Hugs to everyone hitting bumps in the road. Do let us all know how it's going and how they work through those bumps.

That talk sounds wonderful! DS too is a man of few words. I know that unless he is in the mood to talk, it won't happen. texts and phone calls are so short. I am so happy you had a long talk. I hope DS does the same for us. enjoy the rest of the weekend!

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

I think I must be the last one to send DS off to school. Today is our last day with him home. we have so much to do and I know we will be busy. We have our "last supper" planned, his choice of course. We plan to watch a movie together and look at pics from our trip to Anaheim for FBLA nationals.

This morning we had a talk that was very nice. He went to a restaurant with friends last night that had belly dancers. I guess a last hurrah with his friends. Sounds like they had a good time of course!

He also made my day by asking for a pic 5x7 size of the family to take with him. I've got it printing now at walgreens. He picked 2... one from his Eagle scout ceremony and one from our cruise last year. Of course I'm happy he picked a Disney related one!

I did find something to preoccupy my time with when he leaves. it is a book that I found last night. Decided that I won't read it till he leaves, so it gives me something to look forward to. A book about the original astronaut wives. It looks great.

I find myself crying a lot more. One of my patients asked me what I would be doing this weekend. Without skipping a beat I said I would be crying... a lot! Oh this is going to be so hard.

 

[mom2rtk]

That talk sounds wonderful! DS too is a man of few words. I know that unless he is in the mood to talk, it won't happen. texts and phone calls are so short. I am so happy you had a long talk. I hope DS does the same for us. enjoy the rest of the weekend!

Thanks so much!

I bet your DS will open up after he's been gone a bit. There's just so much to talk ABOUT!

You'll appreciate how happy I was that little sister seemed genuinely happy to see brother again.

Hugs on having a successful drop-off. I'll be sending happy thoughts your way this weekend.

 

[mom2rtk]

I think I must be the last one to send DS off to school. Today is our last day with him home. we have so much to do and I know we will be busy. We have our "last supper" planned, his choice of course. We plan to watch a movie together and look at pics from our trip to Anaheim for FBLA nationals.

This morning we had a talk that was very nice. He went to a restaurant with friends last night that had belly dancers. I guess a last hurrah with his friends. Sounds like they had a good time of course!

He also made my day by asking for a pic 5x7 size of the family to take with him. I've got it printing now at walgreens. He picked 2... one from his Eagle scout ceremony and one from our cruise last year. Of course I'm happy he picked a Disney related one!

I did find something to preoccupy my time with when he leaves. it is a book that I found last night. Decided that I won't read it till he leaves, so it gives me something to look forward to. A book about the original astronaut wives. It looks great.

I find myself crying a lot more. One of my patients asked me what I would be doing this weekend. Without skipping a beat I said I would be crying... a lot! Oh this is going to be so hard.

This too shall pass. The book sounds really interesting. What's the title?

I kept threatening to send a huge 16x20 family photo for my son's room, but oddly enough he turned me down. I did send a framed photo of his cat though!

Courage this weekend. And cut yourself some slack. Remember, you don't have to do it well. You just have to do it.

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

This too shall pass. The book sounds really interesting. What's the title?

I kept threatening to send a huge 16x20 family photo for my son's room, but oddly enough he turned me down. I did send a framed photo of his cat though!

Courage this weekend. And cut yourself some slack. Remember, you don't have to do it well. You just have to do it.

Thanks... your words of "you don't have to do it well. You just have to do it" made me tear up a bit. DH hugged me today and said "I will miss him too" that made me tear up and connect with DH more on this painful process. I love the support we are giving each other. Makes me feel not so alone and sad.

http://www.amazon.com/The-Astronaut-Wives-Club-Story/dp/1455503258

I guess in a way we have formed our own club here too... "the college KIDS mom's club"


The book looks awesome. It has pics of the wives and gatherings when they watched landing on the moon, etc. Remember the scene in Apollo 13 when the wives are being practically run over by the press... "Remember we are proud, happy and thrilled" They have a pic regarding that slogan in it. Just makes me smile. I LOVE all that stuff and can't wait to read the book.

Here is the front cover preview:

As America's Mercury Seven astronauts were launched on death-defying missions, television cameras focused on the brave smiles of their young wives. Overnight, these women were transformed from military spouses into American royalty. They had tea with Jackie Kennedy, appeared on the cover of Life magazine, and quickly grew into fashion icons.

Annie Glenn, with her picture-perfect marriage, was the envy of the other wives; platinum-blonde Rene Carpenter was proclaimed JFK's favorite; and licensed pilot Trudy Cooper arrived on base with a secret. Together with the other wives they formed the Astronaut Wives Club, meeting regularly to provide support and friendship. Many became next-door neighbors and helped to raise each other's children by day, while going to glam parties at night as the country raced to land a man on the Moon.

As their celebrity rose-and as divorce and tragic death began to touch their lives-they continued to rally together, and the wives have now been friends for more than fifty years. THE ASTRONAUT WIVES CLUB tells the real story of the women who stood beside some of the biggest heroes in American history.

I guess in a way we have made our own club here too... "The SAD MY KIDS ARE LEAVING FOR COLLEGE MOM'S CLUB"