Having a very hard time with DS going off to college

[marcyinPA]

DS snap chatted his brother this evening. It said , I'm bored, I guess I will give blood. And had a photo of him with the tube of blood coming out of his arm! maybe he needs to join some clubs!

Oh my!! Lol!!

 

[marcyinPA]

Replying to Katybelle's post but I can't find it on this app on my phone! Meal plans:

We bought my DS the 14 meal plan, which is essentially 2 meals a day. He also gets $200 flex with that plan. His university has a traditional dining hall, which is all you can eat for one meal credit. The dining hall is located on the south end of campus near the dorms, and is inconvenient for lunch if you have back to back classes on the other side of campus. There are several a la carte options on the north side of campus including chick Fil a , but those options only take up to $4.85 from the meal credits, and they have to pay the balance with either flex dollars or cash. My DS has been eating lunch over there every day, and dinner sometimes too, depending on what he is doing. It seems like he is eating a lot of crap (cheese steaks, chick Fil a, burgers) and hardly any fresh fruit or veggies. In his defense , he needs the calories because he is under weight and has been losing weight, but I certainly don't want him malnourished! We eat healthy at home - I am hoping he tires of the junk soon and grabs a salad!

 

[clh2]

Ok so in the future (and for others) instead of texting or messaging them here is what I did last year and it worked well.
My DD loves animals..reptiles are her favorite. So..I am facebook friends with her..I never message her. instead, I will post a link to a very cute baby animal or text her ONLY a picture of her cat or snake she had to leave home.
It ALWAYS gets a response of AWW...... or my baby....or something else. Even if she only *likes* it facebook..I know she is OK.
I don't do it everyday (unless I happen to come across very, very cute pictures) these are the type of stuff, if she were home..I would call her into the room to view.

By doing this...I know she is OK..because she answered...and I am not asking her anything and she knows I am around and if she needs something she calls.

I will admit, if she doesn't answer within 6 hours I do start getting anxious..but I think that only happened once.

I second this approach. Our DD (now a sophomore) LOVES to get a silly picture of our dog. She will generally respond AWWW. One day (we had a closet emptied due to an electrician doing some work. Our dog went in there when I was vacuuming. I captioned the picture: SIS - PLEASE MAKE THE MEAN LADY TURN OFF THE VACUUM! Most pics we send do not need a caption.

I do agree - the speed on a response from this sort of contact is quick!

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

At orientation they played Philip Phillips song Home. I totally lost it. I really liked that song before now I can't listen to it without crying. I have to turn it off in the car, people are staring at me.

Doesn't it feel good to hear how our kids are making a niche for themselves? I felt so much better that DS was actually out and about. Instead of hole himself up in his room. I too have 2 1/2 weeks till I can see my boy and hug him. Next long stretch will be till Thanksgiving, not going to think on that.

I am going to feel that way about the Halleluja song. We listened to his music before he left and I completely lost it with that song. Very much will be associated with him from now on.

I know what you mean about them making a niche for themselves, as much as we miss them, we want them to be happy and well adjusted. thanksgiving is too far away, I don't even want to think of my next long stretch.

We went to the movie "The Butler" with DS18 right before he drove himself back to school on Monday. Sheesh! Their son goes off to college!!! I was sobbing when they were putting him on the bus!!! And I was sobbing in other parts of the movie, but I think I was the only one so upset with him just going away!

I'm so glad your son is doing so well!!!

Oh, that stinks about the movie, I think I will wait to watch that one.

Thanks!

The most interesting thing though was a conversation we had this weekend, which went like this "Mom, you need to stop texting me and Facebook messaging me. You message me way too much. It makes me homesick sometimes. Please, let me message you instead, OK?"

Well, I guess I was messaging him too much! I told him he needs to throw me a bone though and call or message once a week. Sigh.

That part made me sad for both of you. the homesickness is sad, hang in there!

Glad you were able to Skype!!

My DD said the same thing as your son on the first few days of making conversation. She said it was a bit awkward after the basics were out of the way, but she said she would continue to see the same people at the different events and they would have more and more to talk about each time. You have to figure that most of our kids have had the same friends for years and years. If they meet someone new, it is generally one person at a time and it doesn't happen daily. Now they are with thousands of people and they are all new. It takes time.



That is one thing DH and I have made a point of watching. We rarely text DD first. If she initiates it, we will jump at responding, but I don't want to inundate her with messages and make her feel like she needs to respond. If I truly need something, I won't hesitate to text, but if it can wait, I will just hold off until I hear from her. Of course, that might be easier for me because I have a great communicator. I'm sure I will be playing by a whole different set of rules when DS leaves! It is all part of this new life we are trying to figure out and adjust to.

Interesting that your DD said that about making friends too, I know it will take time, I just hope of course he makes the right friends!
I've been holding off on texting him, I usually wait till he texts me. Yesterday I did say good luck for his first day of classes and then we texted back and forth. bad timing though... I was so close to being late for work! But had to get those texts in!

You all would be proud of me! I did not message him at all yesterday!! Today, he messaged me "guess what day it is???" Because it is Wednesday and we love that commercial. And then he texted me after his A Capella audition to tell me it went really really well!! And THEN he asked me if we could Skype. It was a good day, on his terms!! Yes!!!

Great job on holding back the texts!!!! And then he rewarded you with Skype! So glad his audition went well. Keep us posted!

DS snap chatted his brother this evening. It said , I'm bored, I guess I will give blood. And had a photo of him with the tube of blood coming out of his arm! maybe he needs to join some clubs!

that is quite a visual!

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

so 2 days ago after the Skype, in the evening we texted just a bit, I just asked what email to use for him and texted a bit and he ended the texts with "I love u too"!!!! My man of few words!!!

Remember with the Skype call I wasn't sure if he was tired or homesick or what, so I just waited to see, didn't want to bug him. Yesterday just texted to say good luck in classes and he texted back he had just gone to the gym and "I love it here". OK, so that makes me happy!

Only thing I am now worried about is that he is looking to join a fraternity. Before he left he had no interest in joining one, now he is serious about it and went to an event last night with other possible pledges. I really don't know anything about fraternities, except for what I've seen in movies and on the news about hazing incidences. Someone PLEASE tell me it isn't like that.

And I've found myself keeping busy at home, cleaning and getting things done. I feel pretty good about that. DD of course is very chatty and keeping us very well informed about high school life.

Anyone else doing things to keep their minds preoccupied?

 

[HERSEY]

PRINCESS VIJA I don't know about fraternities but I remember the school saying something that have strong antihazing policies. I hope that is true. Your son maybe looking for a family like environment. I heard that some jobs are obtained through fraternity connections, so that may not be a bad thing.
All I can think of is the movie Animal House

I am doing all kinds of decluttering. I saved these projects cause I knew I would need something to do later. I also am thinking about taking a part time job, I need to fill the nights with something.

 

[luvavacation]

Regarding trying to keep in touch with our college kids, we all know to give them space, but it is so darn hard! To go from having them around every day (even if it is just seeing a cup and plate on the table knowing they ate on the way to this or that activity!) to not knowing how they are now, it is just such a difference.

What's funny is, I have a friend who used to think I was so weird because I would mention concern when I hadn't heard from my eldest in a few days, and she thought it was just so easy to let them go away. Well, she now has her eldest in college, and he has called her twice in 3 weeks, very short conversations, and only answers texts with "yes", "no", or "fine". She is beside herself, not knowing anything. Lucky for her, I understand when she complains about it!

My youngest called last night, in tears. It has been 3 weeks now since she left, and the breakdown has happened. She is feeling the pressure, too much homework, too many classes (17 credit hours, 3 of those classes are honours classes), and she failed an online test, in her strongest subject, that she took in her dorm room due to not being able to concentrate (dorm activity, you know). She asked if it was ok to skip her Honours Forum class that evening so she could keep doing her homework. The shock isn't from skipping the class, it is that she is at college and still wanted my opinion on whether this was ok to do, and did I approve!?!

My youngest, she puts so much pressure on herself to do well, to do better than her sister did in college, and I guess the pressure hit her last night.

So what did I, as her mother, do to make her feel better after we hung up the phone? I sent her multiple pictures of her cat being adorable, and then some pictures of her favorite celebrities looking "hot" (hey, might be weird for some of you to do, but I am from Europe, and we find nothing wrong with admiring the living works of art God has placed on this earth ). She texted later that she was feeling better, thanks for the pictures, and when can she come home again? I wanted to say "right now!" but had to be an adult and tell her to try to make it through two weekends and try to feel like a real Panther (EIU Panthers). Darn, hate being an adult sometimes.

In the mean time, my daughter's cat is driving us all nuts! Constantly meowing at the top of the stairs, calling my daughter the way she would when she was home, bugging DH and I for attention whenever we go upstairs, and wailing in the middle of the night on my daughter's pillow. Poor kitty. Hopefully next year my daughter will move off-campus so she can have her cat with her!

And if my dog doesn't stop barking at the birds early in the morning, I might just send him to live with her, too!

 

[mom2rtk]

Update: DD19 called today to tell me she had spoken to the mechanic at the dealership where her car was towed. Bad coolant pump = $550 including labor. She will drive back to Georgia on Friday and return the rental car, then get her car and drive back to Florida. Her friend's mom will get her from one dealership to the rental car dealership.

I was tempted to ask her to give me the number and in fact texted to ask for it but she had already spoken to the mechanic so she just called and updated me and I had her deal with the mechanic totally. Might as well learn that life skill, too .

The only thing I'll be in charge of is paying for it, but I think I'll just transfer money into her account and let her take care of that, too.

Glad to have a (so far) happy ending!!

YEAH on the happy ending! And now you and she both have confidence that she can handle situations like that.

So yesterday we decided to try and fill the day so we would be busy and not sad and make memories for us with DD. AND we rented a movie at night... Parental Guidance... WHAT WAS I THINKING?????? It was a funny movie but the end had me crying, ESPECIALLY when the credits rolled... they had pictures of all the actors/ directors/ etc with their real life families... all while Home by Philip Philips played... Oh yes, the tears were flowing again...

The good news was that DS did text us a little bit yesterday.

BUT TODAY.... OH HAPPY DAY!!!!!

DD started Highschool, we did our picture and I made her favorite cookies which she totally loved and "ahhhed" over!

BUT.... not the best part.......

DS and I were on SKYPE for 50 minutes!!!!!!
He said it was the first time he had any free time, he has been going to parties, dances,campus parties, corn roasts, met fraternity brothers and was invited to go to a party (little nervous about that one, but DS assures me it will be OK), he signed up for clubs, has been out scouting the dorms and the school, and all the rest of the orientation meetings. He did say it was hard to make friends because after the 4 questions (name, major, dorm, and where are you from) he said that most people seemed unsure of what to say next and didn't go further with conversation.

He did look tired, because he has been busy. I was a little sad because of the friend thing, but I know it takes time at college. And just wondering what I saw in his eyes... was it just "tired feeling" or home sick feeling. Couldn't really tell. He has been away from home before (scouts, etc), but this is different as he isn't with "his group". that might be sinking in now that he is more on his own than he thought he was going to be, his room mate who he knows from high school apparently isn't around much. Not sure if he thought he would be hanging out with him a lot or not. But I was so glad he called. And so happy that he was signing up for the clubs, etc. When DH said there was a message on Skype I practically sprinted up the stairs to talk to him!

Now I wait until I see him in 2 1/2 weeks. long wait, I know, but so happy I got to hear from him!

How awesome that you got to have a lengthy chat with him on Skype! If he's doing all those things, I wouldn't worry. He's going to make some friends.

I did chuckle over the thing about asking 4 questions then having nothing left to say. Maybe it's because they are guys and just don't have much to say? Heck, most of the texts I get from mine are one word long. I didn't even think about how that would translate into social situations!

At orientation they played Philip Phillips song Home. I totally lost it. I really liked that song before now I can't listen to it without crying. I have to turn it off in the car, people are staring at me.

Doesn't it feel good to hear how our kids are making a niche for themselves? I felt so much better that DS was actually out and about. Instead of hole himself up in his room. I too have 2 1/2 weeks till I can see my boy and hug him. Next long stretch will be till Thanksgiving, not going to think on that.

I think many of us start off with a fear that our kids will go away and just hole up in their room. I'm also happy every time I hear about my son leaving to go shoot some baskets, play some ping pong, or whatever. Not because I know he enjoys those things, but because I think it says they are adjusting and settling in.

Hugs to everyone still feeling "sobby" and high fives to everyone adjusting!

My DS was home for the weekend. It was good to have him home. I think he needed time to chill- spent some time in his room just relaxing. Did I mention he is introverted?! He does like to be with people, but he needs time to be alone, which is hard to get in a dorm ( and when you are trying to make friends).

He is planning to stay at school now for the next three weeks. He is doing ok- making more friends and active with the fellowship group. Tonight he auditions for the a Capella group. I am praying it goes well!! This group opens for the Pentatonics in October, so that would be a cool experience.

The most interesting thing though was a conversation we had this weekend, which went like this "Mom, you need to stop texting me and Facebook messaging me. You message me way too much. It makes me homesick sometimes. Please, let me message you instead, OK?"

Well, I guess I was messaging him too much! I told him he needs to throw me a bone though and call or message once a week. Sigh.

Oh my. I can totally see a kid feeling that way. But it would be so hard to hear it. Hang in there. The homesickness thing does die down.

I feel like I just don't know what the right amount of communication is. If I call or text, I worry that maybe he was doing fine, but hearing from me will make him homesick. If I don't call or text, I worry that he'll think I don't care or wasn't thinking about him. It seems no matter what I do, I'll think it was wrong! Mostly I have been waiting for him to initiate communication.

Good luck to your son with the audition!

Glad you were able to Skype!!

My DD said the same thing as your son on the first few days of making conversation. She said it was a bit awkward after the basics were out of the way, but she said she would continue to see the same people at the different events and they would have more and more to talk about each time. You have to figure that most of our kids have had the same friends for years and years. If they meet someone new, it is generally one person at a time and it doesn't happen daily. Now they are with thousands of people and they are all new. It takes time.



That is one thing DH and I have made a point of watching. We rarely text DD first. If she initiates it, we will jump at responding, but I don't want to inundate her with messages and make her feel like she needs to respond. If I truly need something, I won't hesitate to text, but if it can wait, I will just hold off until I hear from her. Of course, that might be easier for me because I have a great communicator. I'm sure I will be playing by a whole different set of rules when DS leaves! It is all part of this new life we are trying to figure out and adjust to.

I have to say I have been pleasantly surprised at how readily our DS has picked up the phone and called. He's a pretty quiet sort, so it has shocked me to hear so many words coming out of his mouth! The really hard part is knowing if it's all going OK as he says, or if he's just putting on a good face. He's never been one to let his feelings known. It's been a running joke here for years that you could ask if he wanted a million dollars and he'd just say "I'm good" (turning it down with no explanation). He's just a hard kid to get a read on. I was worried about him coming home last weekend for fear it might just be harder to go back and start over again. But I do think it was good for all of us to see him and get a better read on how he was doing (great..... I think ).

Ok so in the future (and for others) instead of texting or messaging them here is what I did last year and it worked well.
My DD loves animals..reptiles are her favorite. So..I am facebook friends with her..I never message her. instead, I will post a link to a very cute baby animal or text her ONLY a picture of her cat or snake she had to leave home.
It ALWAYS gets a response of AWW...... or my baby....or something else. Even if she only *likes* it facebook..I know she is OK.
I don't do it everyday (unless I happen to come across very, very cute pictures) these are the type of stuff, if she were home..I would call her into the room to view.

By doing this...I know she is OK..because she answered...and I am not asking her anything and she knows I am around and if she needs something she calls.

I will admit, if she doesn't answer within 6 hours I do start getting anxious..but I think that only happened once.

I love that idea! And I have texted my son some cute pictures of his cat, and so far he hasn't responded to any of them. If I text a question of some sort, he answers right away. I guess he just thinks cat pictures don't need a response! I had also sent him a framed photo of his cat, and he didn't say a word about it. I thought maybe the cat pictures made him sad or something, but when I asked if he got the photo, he seemed genuinely happy and said it was sitting on his desk. I think I'll just have to ask if he'd rather not send any more since I honestly can't tell.

You all would be proud of me! I did not message him at all yesterday!! Today, he messaged me "guess what day it is???" Because it is Wednesday and we love that commercial. And then he texted me after his A Capella audition to tell me it went really really well!! And THEN he asked me if we could Skype. It was a good day, on his terms!! Yes!!!

LOL, we have a thing for that commercial too! How fun that he sent you a text about it! Sounds like a great day at your house. Glad the audition went well.

DS snap chatted his brother this evening. It said , I'm bored, I guess I will give blood. And had a photo of him with the tube of blood coming out of his arm! maybe he needs to join some clubs!

LOL! and YIKES! Maybe there's a blood donor's club???? Just remind yourself.....it's better than holing up in his room.....

Replying to Katybelle's post but I can't find it on this app on my phone! Meal plans:

We bought my DS the 14 meal plan, which is essentially 2 meals a day. He also gets $200 flex with that plan. His university has a traditional dining hall, which is all you can eat for one meal credit. The dining hall is located on the south end of campus near the dorms, and is inconvenient for lunch if you have back to back classes on the other side of campus. There are several a la carte options on the north side of campus including chick Fil a , but those options only take up to $4.85 from the meal credits, and they have to pay the balance with either flex dollars or cash. My DS has been eating lunch over there every day, and dinner sometimes too, depending on what he is doing. It seems like he is eating a lot of crap (cheese steaks, chick Fil a, burgers) and hardly any fresh fruit or veggies. In his defense , he needs the calories because he is under weight and has been losing weight, but I certainly don't want him malnourished! We eat healthy at home - I am hoping he tires of the junk soon and grabs a salad!

Well, that totally stinks. I wouldn't have even considered the size of school when choosing food options. But I can see having trouble getting back to a designated location. My son is at a somewhat small school so at least he can make it back to the dorm, eat, and get to the next class on time. (Barely, but he makes it). He had trouble the first week figuring out the logistics, but I think has finally settled in and even decided to change his plan to add more meals. I think he has been eating better since leaving because he's sort of picky and they have something he likes every meal, plus salad and fruit. Mine is also a little underweight and is hoping to bulk up a little.

so 2 days ago after the Skype, in the evening we texted just a bit, I just asked what email to use for him and texted a bit and he ended the texts with "I love u too"!!!! My man of few words!!!


That is awesome. Definitely a keeper.

Remember with the Skype call I wasn't sure if he was tired or homesick or what, so I just waited to see, didn't want to bug him. Yesterday just texted to say good luck in classes and he texted back he had just gone to the gym and "I love it here". OK, so that makes me happy!

Now that would totally make my day. YEAH!

Only thing I am now worried about is that he is looking to join a fraternity. Before he left he had no interest in joining one, now he is serious about it and went to an event last night with other possible pledges. I really don't know anything about fraternities, except for what I've seen in movies and on the news about hazing incidences. Someone PLEASE tell me it isn't like that.

I'm not an expert on greek life. But I really don't think hazing goes on in the sensational way it did before. One of the friends my son has at school is a kid he has known from home for years. So he's one of his small group of buddies so far. Anyway, this kid joined a frat before starting school (not sure how that works. Maybe he was a legacy or something??) But he has gotten a taste of frat life from nearby without joining one for himself. I don't care if he does, but am not actively encouraging it either. It is entirely his choice. But I don't think he will just from the little bit he has seen and what I know about his personality. Just silly stuff about having to get up at 6 AM and walk to Wal-Mart (a ways away) to get the stuff the other frat members needed that day. Or having to stay up late or get up early to clean up after a party. So nothing shocking or illegal, just stuff I'm pretty sure my DS won't want any part of.

But I have no idea how it is at other schools. My son is at an engineering school, so not a broad range of personality types either.

And I've found myself keeping busy at home, cleaning and getting things done. I feel pretty good about that. DD of course is very chatty and keeping us very well informed about high school life.

Anyone else doing things to keep their minds preoccupied?

 

[marcyinPA]

so 2 days ago after the Skype, in the evening we texted just a bit, I just asked what email to use for him and texted a bit and he ended the texts with "I love u too"!!!! My man of few words!!!

Remember with the Skype call I wasn't sure if he was tired or homesick or what, so I just waited to see, didn't want to bug him. Yesterday just texted to say good luck in classes and he texted back he had just gone to the gym and "I love it here". OK, so that makes me happy!

Only thing I am now worried about is that he is looking to join a fraternity. Before he left he had no interest in joining one, now he is serious about it and went to an event last night with other possible pledges. I really don't know anything about fraternities, except for what I've seen in movies and on the news about hazing incidences. Someone PLEASE tell me it isn't like that.

And I've found myself keeping busy at home, cleaning and getting things done. I feel pretty good about that. DD of course is very chatty and keeping us very well informed about high school life.

Anyone else doing things to keep their minds preoccupied?

I was a late bloomer and pledged a sorority in my junior year. I had to quit because it was sooooo time consuming and my classes were intense by that point. Now this was 25 years ago, and there were late night "kidnappings" and pitchers of beer to be chugged at mixers- so I am not sure how it is these days. I would imagine that the service frats involve quite a bit of partying still, which I know my DS would not be interested in. There are also honors frats that are based on academics. Not that they never drink, but at least when I went to college, were a bit more tame.
I am sure your DS is looking for a group to be a part of. I hope he finds the right fit for him!

 

[mom2rtk]

Regarding trying to keep in touch with our college kids, we all know to give them space, but it is so darn hard! To go from having them around every day (even if it is just seeing a cup and plate on the table knowing they ate on the way to this or that activity!) to not knowing how they are now, it is just such a difference.

What's funny is, I have a friend who used to think I was so weird because I would mention concern when I hadn't heard from my eldest in a few days, and she thought it was just so easy to let them go away. Well, she now has her eldest in college, and he has called her twice in 3 weeks, very short conversations, and only answers texts with "yes", "no", or "fine". She is beside herself, not knowing anything. Lucky for her, I understand when she complains about it!

My youngest called last night, in tears. It has been 3 weeks now since she left, and the breakdown has happened. She is feeling the pressure, too much homework, too many classes (17 credit hours, 3 of those classes are honours classes), and she failed an online test, in her strongest subject, that she took in her dorm room due to not being able to concentrate (dorm activity, you know). She asked if it was ok to skip her Honours Forum class that evening so she could keep doing her homework. The shock isn't from skipping the class, it is that she is at college and still wanted my opinion on whether this was ok to do, and did I approve!?!

My youngest, she puts so much pressure on herself to do well, to do better than her sister did in college, and I guess the pressure hit her last night.

So what did I, as her mother, do to make her feel better after we hung up the phone? I sent her multiple pictures of her cat being adorable, and then some pictures of her favorite celebrities looking "hot" (hey, might be weird for some of you to do, but I am from Europe, and we find nothing wrong with admiring the living works of art God has placed on this earth ). She texted later that she was feeling better, thanks for the pictures, and when can she come home again? I wanted to say "right now!" but had to be an adult and tell her to try to make it through two weekends and try to feel like a real Panther (EIU Panthers). Darn, hate being an adult sometimes.

In the mean time, my daughter's cat is driving us all nuts! Constantly meowing at the top of the stairs, calling my daughter the way she would when she was home, bugging DH and I for attention whenever we go upstairs, and wailing in the middle of the night on my daughter's pillow. Poor kitty. Hopefully next year my daughter will move off-campus so she can have her cat with her!

And if my dog doesn't stop barking at the birds early in the morning, I might just send him to live with her, too!

Just wanted to offer to both you and your daughter. I'm sure she'll be fine. I think it's common for high achieving kids to get a "slap in the face" when they go to college. They are just used to the work being easy for them. Sounds like hers came early, and I bet she'll recover quickly and do just fine.

Until then........



Tell her we're all pulling for her on her next test!

 

[marcyinPA]

I just teared up at the Jiff commercial with the mom calling her daughter at college. OMG, I have no life!!! Lol

 

[HERSEY]

In the mean time, my daughter's cat is driving us all nuts! Constantly meowing at the top of the stairs, calling my daughter the way she would when she was home, bugging DH and I for attention whenever we go upstairs, and wailing in the middle of the night on my daughter's pillow. Poor kitty. Hopefully next year my daughter will move off-campus so she can have her cat with her!

And if my dog doesn't stop barking at the birds early in the morning, I might just send him to live with her, too!

This sounds like my house the dog is driving me crazy. I told my son to be careful of any boxes the dog might be stuffed in there

Just wanted to offer to both you and your daughter. I'm sure she'll be fine. I think it's common for high achieving kids to get a "slap in the face" when they go to college. They are just used to the work being easy for them. Sounds like hers came early, and I bet she'll recover quickly and do just fine.

Until then........



Tell her we're all pulling for her on her next test!

I am wondering how DS is doing gradewise he has not shared. I know he was complain about too much free time. I wonder if the homework and studying has caught up with him.

 

[HERSEY]

I just teared up at the Jiff commercial with the mom calling her daughter at college. OMG, I have no life!!! Lol

Yeah that one get me too. There is one I forget for what Bank or credit card company it is, the daughter is moving in a dorm and the dad is giving the boys the evil eye.

Is it just me or is there more college related commercials around. Maybe my focus is different this year

 

[yellowjacketfan]

Yeah that one get me too. There is one I forget for what Bank or credit card company it is, the daughter is moving in a dorm and the dad is giving the boys the evil eye.

Is it just me or is there more college related commercials around. Maybe my focus is different this year

It does get easier! My dd is in her Sophomore year. I still miss her like crazy and tear up but nothing like last year.

I haven't seen the bank commercial, but had to chuckle. You don't think those things happen in real life- they do. When moving dd into her off campus house last month my dh caught a glimpse of her neighbors. It seems as though next door lives a house full of baseball players. Dad was full-on mean mugging, lol.

 

[LisaR]

It has been three weeks today since DD left for college. I think it is really odd that I have had two days in that time where I was in a total funk the entire day, but the rest of the time I am completely fine. I miss her on those other days, but I don't cry, I'm not feeling down, and I am really doing fine. Strange!

DS is talking to DD on the phone right now. He has a paper that he needs help with. Honestly, I think they are closer now that she is gone than the entire time they lived together. In their case, distance has actually improved their relationship!

 

[ILUVALASKA]

One of the worst things about your child attending college 3000 miles away...son called yesterday. Feeling really sick, sore throat, trouble breathing. Got a text this morning that he is at the health center hooked up to breathing treatment machine. Kind of want to hop on a plane right now....

 

[Christine]

One of the worst things about your child attending college 3000 miles away...son called yesterday. Feeling really sick, sore throat, trouble breathing. Got a text this morning that he is at the health center hooked up to breathing treatment machine. Kind of want to hop on a plane right now....

Oh, that's awful. I hope he's better soon. 3,000 miles is a long way when that happens. I thought it was bad when my DD was 4 hours away. Does he have a history of asthma or is this part of whatever is making him sick?

 

[LisaR]

One of the worst things about your child attending college 3000 miles away...son called yesterday. Feeling really sick, sore throat, trouble breathing. Got a text this morning that he is at the health center hooked up to breathing treatment machine. Kind of want to hop on a plane right now....

That has to be so hard on you. I've spent years threatening to remove both my children from our will if they ever move more than a five hour drive away. Kidding, of course......sort of. I hope your son feels better quickly. My DD said everyone at school is starting to get sick. Late nights, little sleep, large groups of kids hanging out together, and the stress of the new changes in their lives will do that, I guess.

 

[krcit]

DS snap chatted his brother this evening. It said , I'm bored, I guess I will give blood. And had a photo of him with the tube of blood coming out of his arm! maybe he needs to join some clubs!

Good for him!!!! I feel so proud whenever my daughter donates, especially because I know it is because she has seen me do it so much.

I'm glad everyone's kids seem to be adjusting pretty well. Mine is too!!

 

[HERSEY]

One of the worst things about your child attending college 3000 miles away...son called yesterday. Feeling really sick, sore throat, trouble breathing. Got a text this morning that he is at the health center hooked up to breathing treatment machine. Kind of want to hop on a plane right now....

I am sorry to hear your son is sick. I am glad he thought to go to the clinic. I don't look forward to when my son gets sick. I will be a basket case.