Hate kids but love Disney

[nickg420]

Let's separate a few things here....

OP Said she HATES kids....Now maybe she chose the wrong word but that's a pretty strong word. Hate is what drives actions against something or someone. So You can understand why people are a bit ruffled with the choice of word.

Additionally, when you simply say KIDS that's talking about an entire demographic group. It's really no different than if I said "Man I HATE White people filling up Disney!!!" Think that would be ok?

Furthermore, most kids, with the exception of those with issues, are simply a reflection of what their parents have taught them, good or bad. My kids are great, I get compliments all the time about how respectful, kind, and generous they are. But...I've raised them that way. I've taught them right from wrong, what is and is not acceptable. Yet, even in Disney sometimes their excitement gets ahold of them and I have to reel them in. If a kid does not have any structure in place from the start then Disney is only going to amplify that by 100X. And I think more people would agree that sure sometimes those kids can be annoying and grind your gears. Which is a completely different thing than saying you hate ALL kids.

Finally, I don't think anyone, society or otherwise, gives 2 cares about whether not you want to have kids other than your own parents maybe. I think people put that on themselves. Have kids, don't have kids...NOBODY CARES!!! And you shouldn't not do kid themed things because you don't have kids either.

What you shouldn't do though is plan a trip to a place that's almost entirely themed for kids and then say you hate kids while asking fans of these places if they hate them too. That's not only not ok, it's just plain mean and unkind. And if Walt taught us anything, it's to be kind....to everyone. Even those sh**y little snot nosed kids that are ruining your Disney vacation. Life is far too short to worry about the 5 minutes this kid may inconvenience you on your trip.

It will be ok...I promise.

 

[MrsBooch]

 

[BadPinkTink]

Note: we would also accept memes as an acceptable form of discourse.

 

[motherdaughtercruisers]

I think hate=dislike in this case. I assume the OP does not mean "hate" as in a deep rooted emotion that leans toward extreme hostility/violence towards a person, group or thing.

I'm not defending the original choice of words, as I agree, perhaps the original post was not worded in the most politically correct way. It's hard to understand tone, sarcasm, and humor on a message board. Like as it is in texting. Just putting my 2 cents in.

OP: you would be welcome on the Adults & Solo Travelers Board and I imagine you'll find some people who share your love of Disney, but aversion to children. It's not a wrong opinion to have, you'll just always be in the minority here.

Just wanted to make sure this showed up again as I tried to say the same thing and everyone wanted to ignore it to keep HATING on each other.

 

[MrsBooch]

Me, I've got a thick skin, and I am well used to debating in an online community, so I am not intimidated by those who do not like my posts.

....mmhmm.

 

[FutureDisneyEventPlanner]

Finally, I don't think anyone, society or otherwise, gives 2 cares about whether not you want to have kids other than your own parents maybe. I think people put that on themselves. Have kids, don't have kids...NOBODY CARES!!! And you shouldn't not do kid themed things because you don't have kids either.

Okay I was with you until this part. I have been berated and interrogated tons of times because I don't want kids. Someone has literally said to me "A woman's purpose in life is to have kids. If you don't have them, what's the point of living?"

Nobody should care, but, they do.

 

[motherdaughtercruisers]

 

[DietCokeMommy]

OP I don't care if you hate kids or you don't want them or whatever. It has absolutely no bearing on my life. But I think you picked the wrong crowd if you were looking for like-minded people.

Parenting is freaking hard. And exhausting. And some kids are naturally are better behaved than others (I have two children that prove that). We could all have a little more empathy for each other.

 

[nickg420]

Okay I was with you until this part. I have been berated and interrogated tons of times because I don't want kids. Someone has literally said to me "A woman's purpose in life is to have kids. If you don't have them, what's the point of living?"

Nobody should care, but, they do.

I would estimate "tons of times" is probably a bit of a stretch. Additionally, "someone" is singular meaning that one person told you that. I would still say, 99% of people do not care whether you have kids or not.

 

[motherdaughtercruisers]

 

[motherdaughtercruisers]

 

[motherdaughtercruisers]

 

[FutureDisneyEventPlanner]

I would estimate "tons of times" is probably a bit of a stretch. Additionally, "someone" is singular meaning that one person told you that. I would still say, 99% of people do not care whether you have kids or not.

That was an example. Would you like me to list all the times someone has said something to me? I have screenshots as well if you'd like physical proof.

Just because YOU haven't experienced something, which you won't because you have children, doesn't mean someone else hasn't. That's a close minded and obtuse way of thinking.

 

[motherdaughtercruisers]

 

[DuskKodesh]

At this point I'm just here for the fresh memes <3

 

[nickg420]

That was an example. Would you like me to list all the times someone has said something to me? I have screenshots as well if you'd like physical proof.

Just because YOU haven't experienced something, which you won't because you have children, doesn't mean someone else hasn't. That's a close minded and obtuse way of thinking.

I apologize if I have offended you. That was certainly not my intent.

However, I just want to point out that just because you have experienced something doesn't mean that all of society feels the same way and it really has no bearing on society as a whole. Your experience, while it seems is very negative and I'm sorry you have had to experience that, it's still anecdotal. I'm not saying your experience isn't real or that it didn't happen. I'm only saying I would not believe that is the norm.

You are welcome to disagree, as I am sure you will based on your experience. We can still be friends and still love all things Disney together.

 

[Intr3pid]

Well, as far as the hateful and rude comments go, it's hard to top what's already in the OP, but here is a general comment for all those on the "hate kids, love Disney" bandwagon. If you do love Disney, I can see two reasons for it.

1. You love the Disney service - service that's a touch above all else because it's actually meant for families and their kids. When you see a CM go out of their way for that awesome act, it's because they would have done it for someone much younger than you. To do it for a kid who thinks they are in a magical place and every person around is a part of that magic. Extending you - the adult - that service is just incidental. You are receiving it because a kid somewhere is meant to.

2. You grew up loving Disney. You went to WDW as a kid. You watched Disney movies, played with Disney toys, and even went on some Disney cruises. All as a kid. That means someone loved you as a kid and cared enough about you so you could enjoy all things Disney.

The way I see it, it's alright to be put off by some out-of-control kids. Or those running amok. BUT - it's also difficult to care for adults who find it easier to preach their principles than live up to them.

 

[motherdaughtercruisers]

 

[MikeNamez]

 

[motherdaughtercruisers]