Has anyone gotten pregnant...

[jenrose66]

While using an IUD? I have a Paraguard. It's been in since May. I'm at least 10 days late and I'm never late...

I can't deal with this right now. I've been doing some research and terrible things happen with an IUD. Your baby has a higher chance of birth defects, there's a high chance of miscarriage, also very high chance of ectopic pregnancy.

I'm particularly worried about an ectopic pregnancy because I've taken two pregnancy tests and they were both negative...but according to babycenter an ectopic pregnancy can still happen even if you have a negative test.

DH says I'm jumping the gun with my worrying, but 10 days is pretty late. It's surprising the range of emotions you feel. I feel like a bad person and so irresponsible...even though the IUD is apparently 99% effective.

 

[GingerJay]

I have one too and my period pretty much just stopped after a couple of months of having it in..so maybe that's what's happening. Go to the doctor and check, of course, but otherwise, maybe you're just lucky

 

[Grandmax3]

I had a IUD that was in and I had it removed and did not realize that I was pregnant.That little girl was born very healthy. I too heard all the horror stories and did a lot of worrying. I hope everything turns out okay. Just wanted you to know there are happy endings.

 

[jenrose66]

I had a IUD that was in and I had it removed and did not realize that I was pregnant.That little girl was born very healthy. I too heard all the horror stories and did a lot of worrying. I hope everything turns out okay. Just wanted you to know there are happy endings.

The reason I'm feeling so bad is that I DON'T want another baby...that's not a happy ending for me. I have two beautiful boys but my pregnancies were terrible from an emotional standpoint. I was depressed thru both of my pregnancies and went seriously nuts with postpartum depression after they were born. I always said I'd never have more kids because the emotional toll was just too much for me to bear.

Now, if I'm pregnant, what do I do? It's terrible to wish for a miscarriage...and once you see what a blessing children are...how can you end a pregnancy? I guess there is always adoption but I don't think I could go thru with that either...I mean I would still be going thru the pregnancy and the after pregnancy...

See there is no way for me to not sound like this selfish horrible person. Some people struggle very hard to have children and can't. I blink and I get pregnant, Me and DH were successful the first try for both pregnancies. That is why I had the IUD put in, I figure 99% were pretty good odds. I guess god doesn't give you something you can't handle...hopefully I'm jumping the gun. I'll be calling my midwife on Monday.

Thanks for listening.

 

[CF'er]

You are 10 days late with 2 neg tests. I would try not to stress about it. At this point it's probably the stress. Did you test first thing in the AM? That is the best time to test. Also since you already have 2.... do you have any signs of preg besides missed cycle?

 

[golfgal]

The reason I'm feeling so bad is that I DON'T want another baby...that's not a happy ending for me. I have two beautiful boys but my pregnancies were terrible from an emotional standpoint. I was depressed thru both of my pregnancies and went seriously nuts with postpartum depression after they were born. I always said I'd never have more kids because the emotional toll was just too much for me to bear.

Now, if I'm pregnant, what do I do? It's terrible to wish for a miscarriage...and once you see what a blessing children are...how can you end a pregnancy? I guess there is always adoption but I don't think I could go thru with that either...I mean I would still be going thru the pregnancy and the after pregnancy...

See there is no way for me to not sound like this selfish horrible person. Some people struggle very hard to have children and can't. I blink and I get pregnant, Me and DH were successful the first try for both pregnancies. That is why I had the IUD put in, I figure 99% were pretty good odds. I guess god doesn't give you something you can't handle...hopefully I'm jumping the gun. I'll be calling my midwife on Monday.

Thanks for listening.

If your pregnancies were so horrible, why didn't you use a more permanent form of birth control? There is the obvious way to end a pregnancy, abortion. If I were in your shoes I would have gotten a tubal, at least, AND had DH get snipped.

 

[HH524]

If your pregnancies were so horrible, why didn't you use a more permanent form of birth control? There is the obvious way to end a pregnancy, abortion. If I were in your shoes I would have gotten a tubal, at least, AND had DH get snipped.

I can't answer for the OP, but I have a chronic condition and a pregnancy would be awful for me. Life threatnening, even. I didn't get a tubal because I didn't have an epidural with any of my pregnancies. For me to have a tubal I'd have to be put under which is not safe in my situation. The Dr decided that for me, right now an IUD was the best decision. Maybe it's like that for the OP as well

 

[golfgal]

I can't answer for the OP, but I have a chronic condition and a pregnancy would be awful for me. Life threatnening, even. I didn't get a tubal because I didn't have an epidural with any of my pregnancies. For me to have a tubal I'd have to be put under which is not safe in my situation. The Dr decided that for me, right now an IUD was the best decision. Maybe it's like that for the OP as well

Then get your DH snipped.

 

[Ohiodislover]

If your pregnancies were so horrible, why didn't you use a more permanent form of birth control? There is the obvious way to end a pregnancy, abortion. If I were in your shoes I would have gotten a tubal, at least, AND had DH get snipped.

Then get your DH snipped.

While I agree with what you are saying, and my DH did choose to get "snipped", I'm not sure how this is helping the OP?

Reminding her of the options she HAD, doesn't help solve the CURRENT issue or answer her questions/concerns.

 

[golfgal]

While I agree with what you are saying, and my DH did choose to get "snipped", I'm not sure how this is helping the OP?

Reminding her of the options she HAD, doesn't help solve the CURRENT issue or answer her questions/concerns.

I also answered that in my post.

 

[ampc3]

I think you would have a "nicer" response from people over on the family board IMHO! I forgot where I was for a moment until I read Golfgal response...wow...

 

[jenrose66]

As far as a more permanent method of bc...my DH promised to get snipped he said he wanted to wait until he was 30, which is in a few months (personally i don't see the logic, but whatever).

My midwives practically shoved the IUD down my throat and said it was the greatest option for safe reliable birth control. That's why I chose this option

Nothing is 100% effective, not even getting your tubes tied. Really the only way to assure you're not getting pregnant is abstinence, I think I'm telling DH that's what's gonna happen until he gets taken care of.

I'm not looking for pity or sympathy, I'm just upset and confused. I need to deal with whatever consequences happen, there's just a certain amount of shame from feeling like I did something wrong...I know ultimately I should have done more research into the method of bc that I chose but you think 99% are pretty good odds...so hopefully this is nothing but if it's not, well I guess it is what it is.

 

[BCDisneyFanatic]

I, too, had a pregnancy scare a year ago, and I have never been so terrified in my life. Although I absolutely love my DDs to death, I was just not prepared to have another child at this point in my life.

I will be keeping my fingers crossed that you will have the same happy outcome that I did (false alarm). Odds are in your favour, though, if you are ten days late and still testing negative.

Please keep us updated. I also feel that there is nothing in life we are thrown that we are unable to handle. One way or another, you WILL be okay.

 

[tzolkin]

My midwives practically shoved the IUD down my throat and said it was the greatest option for safe reliable birth control. That's why I chose this option

Nothing is 100% effective, not even getting your tubes tied. Really the only way to assure you're not getting pregnant is abstinence, I think I'm telling DH that's what's gonna happen until he gets taken care of.

I also chose an IUD (Mirena). From my research it is the most effective option of bc. My DH offered to have a vasectomy, but I didn't want either of us to undergo sterilization.

My aunt had her tubes tied and had another child when her older children were teenagers, so I know that's not absolutely effective either.


I would just get in to see a dr as soon as possible, so you can know for sure.

 

[Gabes_mommy]

OP - if you are 10 days late and have had negative pregnancy tests you are most likely not pregnant. It's possible you ovulated late for some reason (stress, illness) and that may have pushed back your cycle.

There is a new form of female sterilization. My OB sent out a letter about it. It sounds really interesting and DH and I are strongly considering it:

http://essure.com/Home/Understandin...Default.aspx?gclid=CPrh-JaUwp4CFQO2sgodjxz-pQ

I hope you get some answers soon.

 

[Jsme]

As far as a more permanent method of bc...my DH promised to get snipped he said he wanted to wait until he was 30, which is in a few months (personally i don't see the logic, but whatever).

My midwives practically shoved the IUD down my throat and said it was the greatest option for safe reliable birth control. That's why I chose this option

Nothing is 100% effective, not even getting your tubes tied. Really the only way to assure you're not getting pregnant is abstinence, I think I'm telling DH that's what's gonna happen until he gets taken care of.

I'm not looking for pity or sympathy, I'm just upset and confused. I need to deal with whatever consequences happen, there's just a certain amount of shame from feeling like I did something wrong...I know ultimately I should have done more research into the method of bc that I chose but you think 99% are pretty good odds...so hopefully this is nothing but if it's not, well I guess it is what it is.

Well you may not be looking for sympathy but you have it from me. Of course you are a bit upset and confused. I could not imagine being in your place. You should not feel any shame in your decision on the IUD. It was your choice and you made what at the time was the best decision for yourself. No one can tell anyone what to do. Do not beat yourself up about your choices you made in the past. That is the past. For now look at the present only.

Maybe you should go to the doctor and let him tell you what is going on. This would at least tell you where you are and either relieve your stress or allow you to make the best choice for you.

Hugs and prayers are coming from me.

Try to over look the hateful responses. There is always someone who has strong opinions and can not curb their posts to answer or help the current situation.

 

[zachnsamsmommy]

OP...just a few things to tell you.

Yes, you can get pg on the IUD...but it really isn't very common. My cousin is 20 weeks pg, with her IUD still in place. Her OB has an extremely, extremely large practice, and has been practicing more than 20 years. Her's is the first IUD pregnancy he's ever taken care of.

Also, 11 days late should show up as a very bright positive on a pg test, if in fact, you were pg. I'm guessing late ovulation due to stress...or just no period/ovulation since you have an IUD. I have many friends who have no period while using an IUD.

Other than go to your OB/GYN and ask questions, and get a hcg blood test.

Hope everything turns out the way you want...

 

[dicar123]

Pregnancy tests are awfully sensitive these days, so I'll vote not pregnant. I've had friends with ectopic pregnancies and their tests were positive, so you would be talking about two pretty rare events happening together A)pregnancy with an IUD and B) a false negative.

Of course you should follow up with your doctor ASAP, just to be certain.

I was never late either...until the day I was. As I get older it happens from time to time.

Maybe this will spur your husband to take action?

 

[wdwmom2]

As far as a more permanent method of bc...my DH promised to get snipped he said he wanted to wait until he was 30, which is in a few months (personally i don't see the logic, but whatever).

My midwives practically shoved the IUD down my throat and said it was the greatest option for safe reliable birth control. That's why I chose this option

Nothing is 100% effective, not even getting your tubes tied. Really the only way to assure you're not getting pregnant is abstinence, I think I'm telling DH that's what's gonna happen until he gets taken care of.

I'm not looking for pity or sympathy, I'm just upset and confused. I need to deal with whatever consequences happen, there's just a certain amount of shame from feeling like I did something wrong...I know ultimately I should have done more research into the method of bc that I chose but you think 99% are pretty good odds...so hopefully this is nothing but if it's not, well I guess it is what it is.

I have a friend that got pregnant and delivered a healthy baby 6 years after having her tubes tied!!

I would guess with the negative pregnancy tests you are NOT pregnant!!

Hope it turns out well for you

 

[december]

You need a blood test. I took 3 pregnancy tests with ds12-all 3 were negative. I ended up in the hospital with pneumonia, and made them do a blood test before I would take any meds. I've always heard that a false positive is rare, but false negatives are pretty common.