My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
In December of 03, my mother was in a car accident. She broke her neck (c1 & c2), back, and pelvis. Her stomach and kidneys stopped working. She suffered a code blue in the hospital while I was in the room with her. It was over a month before she was concious again. During that month we didn't know if she would wake up and if she did if she would be paralyzed or not. At one point, the dr. told me she was brain dead. A year and a half later she is up and walking around. She even returned to teaching last fall. She does have some weakness in her left side and limited mobility in her neck. She also gets tired very easily nowdays.
I just wanted to let you know people do live through this. I always thought people died if they broke their neck, but that is not always the case. Since the accident we have met several people who tell us their stories of survival.
On a side note, during my mothers recovery, she came to live with us for several months. This allowed her and her granddaughter to bond. We used to live so far away from each other that they hardly got to see each other. They actually had a contest to see who could learn to walk first.
If you need to talk, please let me know. I am praying for you and your family during this difficult time.