Guest in your bathroom???

[violina]

No requests for guests. Unfortunately. I have come to accept that they'll do their own thing. Which is fine, just as long as they keep it as clean as possible behind closed doors.

 

[ronandannette]

I am not a big fan of letting some people in my bathroom. My brother in-law seems to have an issue of "skid-marking" the toilet seat. This is why I always direct him to the hallway bathroom instead (my step-daughter's bathroom). She gets so mad

Wait - what?!? If you're saying what I think you're saying, how is that even possible without trying? I have never in my life seen poop on the upper side of a toilet seat.

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

Wait - what?!? If you're saying what I think you're saying, how is that even possible without trying? I have never in my life seen poop on the upper side of a toilet seat.

Yes, I don't even know how he manages to do this... it is not a one time thing, it happens every time he goes in there. He does this in his own house too. This is why I don't want him in my bathroom, I always send him to hers. She has no problem calling him out over it, but it doesn't change.

 

[tzolkin]

I don't know how/why he does this... It is like an every time he goes in there occurrence. My step-daughter HAS called him out on it, yet he says "I'm sorry", but continues to do that. He does it in his own home too, so he is not just doing it here.

If that's the case and he has been directly confronted about it multiple times, I would have no issue telling him that he is disgusting and making him go into the bathroom to clean it himself then ensure it's cleaned properly.

That may sound harsh or rude as a host, but how inconsiderate is he to knowingly smears s*** in someone else's home and then deliberately leave it there for someone else to clean up after him.

Wait - what?!? If you're saying what I think you're saying, how is that even possible without trying? I have never in my life seen poop on the upper side of a toilet seat.

I have seen it quite a few times, but always in a public restroom. Makes me gag every time I see it. I have always assumed it happened because the person scoots back farther onto the seat after they have pooped but before they have wiped. I would assume the same people likely smear on their toilet seat at home too, but (hopefully) clean it.

 

[QueenIsabella]

Yes, I don't even know how he manages to do this... it is not a one time thing, it happens every time he goes in there. He does this in his own house too. This is why I don't want him in my bathroom, I always send him to hers. She has no problem calling him out over it, but it doesn't change.

Not only is this beyond disgusting, but it's disturbing that your husband hasn't read him the riot act. This is no way for him to treat his brother's house! No way for him to treat his niece! It's GROSS! And, beyond the pale. He needs to clean up after himself. He wouldn't be setting foot in my house if he pulled this, um, crap.

It's one thing to clean up after a toddler, or someone with dementia or something. I've done plenty of both. A grown adult, presumably healthy? Nope. Not in my house.

Seriously, you need to ask yourself why this is okay with your husband. Does HE want to clean up after his brother?

 

[MrsCobraBubbles]

I personally feel like signs with instructions for guests are in poor taste, signs for taking off your shoes, for bathroom use, kitchens. It's better to just ask your guest to do something, and if it's something you are uncomfortable verbalizing to your guests then there really shouldn't be a sign asking.

I clean before and after because I'm kind of nuts, and Covid has made this character flaw even worse.

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

Not only is this beyond disgusting, but it's disturbing that your husband hasn't read him the riot act. This is no way for him to treat his brother's house! No way for him to treat his niece! It's GROSS! And, beyond the pale. He needs to clean up after himself. He wouldn't be setting foot in my house if he pulled this, um, crap.

It's one thing to clean up after a toddler, or someone with dementia or something. I've done plenty of both. A grown adult, presumably healthy? Nope. Not in my house.

Seriously, you need to ask yourself why this is okay with your husband. Does HE want to clean up after his brother?

It is hard to deal with "in-law" family issues, so I just keep my mouth shut. There is nothing "wrong" with his brother per say, he is NOT physically or developmentally challenged... He is in fact a college graduate and a productive member of society. He is just an old bachelor who still lives with his mother. He is used to having her clean up and pick up after him. He is a nice guy and he means well, but he tends to act like a slob (for lack of a better word).

 

[QueenIsabella]

It is hard to deal with "in-law" family issues, so I just keep my mouth shut. There is nothing "wrong" with his brother per say, he is NOT physically or developmentally challenged... He is in fact a college graduate and a productive member of society. He is just an old bachelor who still lives with his mother. He is used to having her clean up and pick up after him. He is a nice guy and he means well, but he tends to act like a slob (for lack of a better word).

Yeah--you need to speak up in your own home. Have your husband clean up after him, or ban the brother from your house. Be clear on why he's not allowed. You are allowing this person to to be gross and disgusting in your home, and disrespect your step-daughter. That's NOT OKAY. Your husband is teaching his daughter that it is literally okay for a man to crap on her. And YOU are making excuses for the continuing behavior. Also NOT OKAY.