Guest in your bathroom???

[Caseheidi]

I was reading the shoes on or off thread, and remembered a visit to a family members bathroom a few years ago. When I was in there, I noticed a framed sign on the counter asking guests to (1) please put the toilet seat down before flushing the toilet and (2) please sit when using the toilet. She asked me what I thought of her sign when I came out, and told me that she started doing this as a frequent guest in her home would often overspray and she always felt the need to fully clean her bathroom when they left the house.

So my question is, do you have request for how your guests use your bathroom? Do you ask for the toilet seat to be down before flushing? Or do you consider this to be rude?

Me personally? I know that this person is very tidy, and it seemed in keeping with who there are. I think that if you like your home a certain way, then you have a right to make the request. I have never made the request in my home, but I have to admit that I am nowhere as good as her as keeping my house tidy. I also think that if I have guests over, I am probably going to clean the bathroom before they arrive and after they leave anyway. However, I also think a guest should work hard not to overspray, and if they do clean it up themselves without asking.

 

[GoingSince1990]

The frequent guest who "often oversprays" must have some excellent redeeming qualities to continue to be a "frequent guest" in that home. And yes, those who overspray should know to clean up without being prompted by an "If you sprinkle when you tinkle, please be neat and wipe the seat" sign.

 

[PollyannaMom]

I doubt I would actually make a sign, but I absolutely think the seat should be down to flush!

 

[Meriweather]

I don't make any requests.
Just fix and make things back to the way I like it

 

[Disneylover99]

My guests are free to pee or flush however they like, as long as they close the door.

 

[VandVsmama]

I was reading the shoes on or off thread, and remembered a visit to a family members bathroom a few years ago. When I was in there, I noticed a framed sign on the counter asking guests to (1) please put the toilet seat down before flushing the toilet and (2) please sit when using the toilet. She asked me what I thought of her sign when I came out, and told me that she started doing this as a frequent guest in her home would often overspray and she always felt the need to fully clean her bathroom when they left the house.

So my question is, do you have request for how your guests use your bathroom? Do you ask for the toilet seat to be down before flushing? Or do you consider this to be rude?

Me personally? I know that this person is very tidy, and it seemed in keeping with who there are. I think that if you like your home a certain way, then you have a right to make the request. I have never made the request in my home, but I have to admit that I am nowhere as good as her as keeping my house tidy. I also think that if I have guests over, I am probably going to clean the bathroom before they arrive and after they leave anyway. However, I also think a guest should work hard not to overspray, and if they do clean it up themselves without asking.

I do not have requests for how our guests use the bathroom with the exception of "please put the lid down when you're done," but that's because if the lid is left up, our cats will all drink out of the toilet bowl...which is disgusting. Whenever I explain why we'd prefer that they put the lid down after they're done, the person always says something like, "Ew, they drink out of the toilet?" And then they can picture in their heads the cat standing on the toilet SEAT while drinking out of the potty....that same toilet seat which their rear end sits on. It usually does the trick, haha.

However, if somebody forgets, I don't remind them. And I wouldn't put up a sign about it. I don't care if they put the toilet seat or lid down before flushing...that their personal business. I just ask them to put the lid down before they leave the bathroom for the cat reason mentioned above.

If somebody is THAT fastidious about how another person uses the guest bathroom, maybe that person shouldn't have guests over quite as often. And gee whiz, how much does the guest in question "miss" or have bad aim? I mean, are we talking about liquid all over the floor or a couple of drops? If it's more like the latter, then the host should be like Elsa and let it go. If it's more along the former, then it warrants actually talking to the guest about it instead of leaving passive aggressive signs posted in the bathroom with anal retentive instructions on what to do and in which order.

And wouldn't you just automatically clean the guest bathroom after a guest leaves from visiting or staying in your home? So what's the big deal? If the host doesn't want to touch the pee, he/she can put in gloves.

 

[TippyThomas]

I must be really lucky with guests because I've never given their bathroom habits a thought.

 

[Disney.Dreamin.Dee]

The guests I have in my house are people like my sister or niece or best friend and no I don't tell them how to go to the bathroom.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

Nope never dictated the bathroom habits.

I do think general common courtesy is to put the lid down when you leave but I suppose it's entirely possible someone doesn't because of the visual clue of seeing the toilet lid up.

I agree with another poster though that lid should be down for flushing, if it is then it'd be down when you leave too.

I would hope adults could clean up after themselves (though yes not all clearly do) but little kids are a bit different.

Honestly though not sure what's more embarrassing to me

• the fact that the OP's family member (not to be a comment against the OP) couldn't tell this oversprayer what their habit was in a discrete manner but instead needed to blast that to all subsequent guests via a sign (even if the identity of the person was unknown to all)
• or that a sign needed to be made in the first place to instill hygiene habits in people.

 

[ronandannette]

As a lady, sitting and putting the seat down aren't really issues for me so I'd be fine with the sign. I'd never put one in my own house. I do sometimes wonder though what is wrong with men that pee all over the floor - do they not realize it or are they just disgusting pigs?

 

[anniemae]

No, I don't feel the need to micromanage people in the bathroom.

 

[E&Cmom]

No! Would never think of this.

 

[kymom99]

I was reading the shoes on or off thread, and remembered a visit to a family members bathroom a few years ago. When I was in there, I noticed a framed sign on the counter asking guests to (1) please put the toilet seat down before flushing the toilet and (2) please sit when using the toilet. She asked me what I thought of her sign when I came out, and told me that she started doing this as a frequent guest in her home would often overspray and she always felt the need to fully clean her bathroom when they left the house.

So my question is, do you have request for how your guests use your bathroom? Do you ask for the toilet seat to be down before flushing? Or do you consider this to be rude?

Me personally? I know that this person is very tidy, and it seemed in keeping with who there are. I think that if you like your home a certain way, then you have a right to make the request. I have never made the request in my home, but I have to admit that I am nowhere as good as her as keeping my house tidy. I also think that if I have guests over, I am probably going to clean the bathroom before they arrive and after they leave anyway. However, I also think a guest should work hard not to overspray, and if they do clean it up themselves without asking.

Do you mean the lid? We kept both down in our house because of the cat. Some people leave it up when they visit. I don’t really care although if it was down when you went in why wouldn’t you put it back down when you finish. I think an open toilet lid is gross. Who wants to look at that?

 

[tzolkin]

. I do sometimes wonder though what is wrong with men that pee all over the floor - do they not realize it or are they just disgusting pigs?

I think it’s a combination of both. I think most who do so are oblivious because they never clean a toilet/bathroom so they are completely unaware of the amount of spray.

Those who are aware and do it anyway are disgusting pigs who know they are making a nasty mess but don’t care because someone else will clean it up.

There is also a cultural aspect to it. In some places it is considered rude to stand to pee (because even when careful it still makes a mess and is inconsiderate to the host). In general, I think American men see it as emasculating to sit and feel it’s more important to stand and maintain their dignity than caring if someone else has to clean up after them.

 

[_19disnA]

Nope think that would be tacky to have in your home even if someone posts such signs to be clever/funny. Maybe they should rethink who is invented over as a guest.

 

[Moliphino]

I wouldn't say anything, but I'm another that's grossed out when the lid is left open.

 

[tvguy]

I must be really lucky with guests because I've never given their bathroom habits a thought.

Well, with covid my wife and I have agreed that one of our three bathrooms will be the one we direct a guest to. But we have only had one guest in the house in the last two years. And since she is a cancer patient, that is as much for her safety as ours. We clean it before she comes, and we don't use it, and clean it after she leaves. And while she has not spent the night since the pandemic started, it is the bathroom she was used to using anyway because if is attached to the guest bedroom she stays in. And it is the closest bathroom to the family room, and she also has mobility issues, so it works all the way around.
No rules though. But I can see if you have an issue where you might consider it. A former co-worker had a rather heavy guest sit down so hard that he broke the base of the toilet off the mounting bolts in the floor.

 

[Planogirl]

I have never once thought about how people use the bathroom and have never seen a sign. I think it would be funny to see one though.

 

[BadPinkTink]

My grandparents house was always full of guests, my mom had 4 siblings and during the summer especially , there was always family members coming and going.

My grandmother had a sign like this this in the bathroom.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

I noticed a framed sign on the counter asking guests to (1) please put the toilet seat down before flushing the toilet and (2) please sit when using the toilet.

My bet is that most of the men using the bathroom think she’s a little cray-cray. I mean, maybe they sit when they pee on their own, who knows, but dictating that they must is a little overbearing (and probably unrealistic).

I’m another that just cleans before and after.