Gay men kissing in public- what do you think?

[snoopy]

Wow, I'm surprised to see so many people comfortable with gays kissing. You wouldn't think that the case come Gay Day time in June...people are none too happy about such a thing on these boards then!

I live near Dupont Circle in Washington, which is primarily a gay neighborhood, and I honestly can't even think of the last time I saw a gay couple holding hands in public. I can't ever recall seeing them kiss. I'm always amazed when I read the Gay Day threads and here about gay couples acting out of hand and wonder how much is urban legend. Here gay couples are no different than straight couples, really, there is not much over the top public displays of affection.

My best friend, now deceased , was a gay man. Over the years I witnessed light affection between him and his partner. At first I found it so odd, I guess because men are not usually demonstrative with each other, unlike women. It was odd seeing two men being tender toward one another. But it grew on me, and now I remember fondly how crazy they were about each other.

 

[pattyT]

Hey I just had a flashback reading these posts -
in 99 while in Cancun (need I say more)
my sister and I (who were on a our birthdays are a week apart lets go an an impromptu vacation) went to a bar not realizing it was spring break...
first real experience with witnessing all this for her...
needless to say the rest of the vacation she didn't want to leave the resort (in her defense she is 11 years older than me and rather a prude... a sweet prude... but a prude nonetheless...)

 

[Planogirl]

I think that seeing gay couples get "carried away" depends much on location and event just like it does for heterosexual couples. A friend is always warning me away from the celebration in New Orleans (can't think of the name of it) because he says that things can get pretty wild. Of course, I expect it in such an environment so I don't know if I'd mind all that much or not.

Those events aside, there will always be those who let it all hang out so to speak wherever they happen to be, both homosexual and heterosexual. Should they? That's a matter of opinion I suppose.

 

[KelNottAt]

Little displays of affection (hand-holding, a hug, a peck on the cheek) really don't bother me, regardless of what the gender of the 2 participants are.

Huge displays of making out are gross, regardless of the gender of the 2 participants.

I agree.

Does anyone remember Pete Werner's essay about this subject from a few months ago? It was priceless! I wish there was a way to find it and provide a link.

 

[RickinNYC]

Okay Rick, are you on the left or right? The one on the left is HOTTAyyyyyy. But Joe is a cutie too. Tell me!!!

One of my dreams is to finally go and see NYC, never been there. My DS17 is dying to see it too. Would you be our tour guide?

Yep, that's me on othe left. And thanks for the compliment! LOL! Where's that stupid blushing smiley?

And if you ever do come to NYC, of course I'd show you around! It makes this city that much more fun when I'm with folks who've never been here!

 

[Beauty]

It doesn't bother me at all to see anyone in love holding hands, pecking or hugging. Now I don't want to see ANYONE making out. We saw two teenagers last night and OMG you just wanted to tell them to get a room already.

 

[N.Bailey]

Yep, that's me on othe left. And thanks for the compliment! LOL! Where's that stupid blushing smiley?

And if you ever do come to NYC, of course I'd show you around! It makes this city that much more fun when I'm with folks who've never been here!

You and I have the same taste in men!

Personally though, I think if you put yourself in the bar scene, you should be pretty open to anything. If it's a public area; especially where there are kids, I don't think you need to be kissing in public no matter who you are.

 

[Chattyaholic]

I believe God made man and woman for each other. So, yes it does bother me to see public displays of affection between gay men, or lesbian women, for that matter.

 

[CharlesTD]

Why should it matter if it is man and women man and man or woman and woman. If you can't get past that then you really don't support their choices. It should make no difference what the couple is.

 

[Mishetta]

Having lived in CA & having hung out in W. Hollywood, Westwood & Bev Hills, I used to see "kissing" all the time between same sex & I didn't care (except for being jealous sometimes since there was no one in my life at that time!) No big deal.....but I never witnesses tongue action. I think that would bother me no matter what the sex.

Fast forward about 10 years & now I'm at WDW on the monorail system & there was a nice young couple (men) & one had his arm around the other....it was very obvious the way the two were looking at each other that they were in love. Well, just as the monorail was slowing down...they gave each other a long lingering kiss & MY KIDS WERE RIGHT THERE!!! My (then 9 y/o) looked at me & said "Mama! Those guys are kissing each other!" The funny thing is that I was the embarrassed one for my son's outburst! I was mortified & then we had to explain this to him & now I have to say that that bothered me! I don't think I would have cared at all if it were just me & DH but when my young children have to witness same sex kissing (in more than just a peck), that upset me!

 

[VSL]

I don't care what the genders and sexual orientations are - I don't want to see anyone swopping saliva in public!
Common decency, surely?!

Light affection between anyone is quite sweet though

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

I don't care what the genders and sexual orientations are - I don't want to see anyone swopping saliva in public!
Common decency, surely?!

Light affection between anyone is quite sweet though

That's how I feel.

 

[Alice's Mom]

I'm just curious, but what is there to explain when two people of the same sex are kissing in front of your kid, isn't it the same explanation if it were the opposite sex "they really like each other" and if they are slobbering all over each other then add in "and they aren't using their good manners"

I just would never want to let her think thats its not okay, but rather its normal, strike that, I think I am going to teach her kissing of all sorts is bad, don't want her kissing one day!

 

[tnhillbilly]

In my case, it had more to do with trying to explain why they had there hands where they did and why one had his tongue in the others mouth.

 

[escape]

I don't care what the genders and sexual orientations are - I don't want to see anyone swopping saliva in public!
Common decency, surely?!

Light affection between anyone is quite sweet though

ITA!

Sorry, a little OT .... I just have to share my going to Disney story here.

When my husband and I arrived at the Orlando airport 4 years ago, we boarded a bus to take us to the car rental place. This bus had the kind of seats that lined the walls of the bus and faced into the center. There was a young Asian girl, teenish, sitting on one side when we entered the bus. We chose seats on the opposite side of her, further down. The only other person to board the bus was an older man, 70ish, who looked like he could be my grandfather. He proceeded to sit next to the Asian girl. After a few seconds, he was all over this girl, exchanging saliva big time. I think if my husband and I hadn't been there, they would have done something right then and there.

Needless to say, my husband and I were totally grossed out. By the way, he had on a wedding band, she did not. To top it off, their "little" necking episode lasted almost up to the time we arrived at the rental place.
I felt ill afterwards....and mad because I didn't speak up!

Now, whenever I see 2 men kiss, and it's very rarely, it doesn't bother nearly as much as the grandpa and his little mistress episode.

 

[shortbun]

When I see a man and women kiss in public, I think very little of it. Though recently I saw two Gay men kiss. It seemed kind of gross. Generally I support the rights of Gay couples and try to be open minded. I even support the right of Gays to get married. Though when I see Gays actually make out, I lose my open minded feelings.

Should I be open minded?

COULD you be open minded if I said yes?

 

[shortbun]

Having lived in CA & having hung out in W. Hollywood, Westwood & Bev Hills, I used to see "kissing" all the time between same sex & I didn't care (except for being jealous sometimes since there was no one in my life at that time!) No big deal.....but I never witnesses tongue action. I think that would bother me no matter what the sex.

Fast forward about 10 years & now I'm at WDW on the monorail system & there was a nice young couple (men) & one had his arm around the other....it was very obvious the way the two were looking at each other that they were in love. Well, just as the monorail was slowing down...they gave each other a long lingering kiss & MY KIDS WERE RIGHT THERE!!! My (then 9 y/o) looked at me & said "Mama! Those guys are kissing each other!" The funny thing is that I was the embarrassed one for my son's outburst! I was mortified & then we had to explain this to him & now I have to say that that bothered me! I don't think I would have cared at all if it were just me & DH but when my young children have to witness same sex kissing (in more than just a peck), that upset me!

My 10 year old son is quite aware that all people can love each other-man loving man, woman loving woman and man loving woman. His reaction would have been "aw gross" for the PDA and not confused about the sex of the couple. As an enlightened Californian, ya think you'd have talked about a myriad of relationships with a 9 year old. And, for the record, I never spend that much time evaluating pda to know if there's "toungue action!" Lol! I think it's all gross. Only time I'm not embarrassed is at an airport when people are saying good bye or greeting their loves. All other times, heavy kissing is out of line. Go inside, go home, go to somewhere private and get out of my face.

 

[dzneelvr]

Totally agree. There's something pathetic to me about couples who have to do their "lovin" in public. Makes me wonder how real the relationship is and why they feel the need to exchange spit for all of us to see. I'm certainly not a prude..but a nice hug and handholding is certainly better than the other not matter what the sex.

 

[Sirius]

A simple kiss between adults - gay or straight - is a wonderful expression.

Public Throat Cultures are another matter (again, gay or straight).

 

[EsmeraldaX]

I don't mind seeing anybody, gay or straight, giving a little peck on the cheek, but full-out french kissing - I don't care if you're Brad and Angelina - I don't want to watch.

My thoughts exactly. It really doesn't phase me if it's a peck but beyond that get a room. And that goes for gay or straight couples.