feeling taken advantage of--minor rant

[roadtripper]

Hi BB compadres--
Don't know where else to vent about this, but I posted on FB to my friends that I had 2 RT tix for sale--cheap. I had some Southwest tix I couldn't use by the expiration date, and I wanted someone to get some cheap airfare, and to offset the cost of the full cost tix I had to buy for Pres. Week.

I went with a first come, first serve, mentality, and told the first respondent if would be 200 total for 2 round trip tix to San Diego--from the East Coast. It was for a really good cause. Her son is shipping off to Afghanistan and she and her other son got to see him before he left, so I feel good about that.

I made the ressies, changed them when they didn't work for her, got the tix, emailed the confirmations, emailed to let her know she should book 24 hrs in advance, etc etc. No response. She definitely went (called SW for confirmation) and by her FB statuses, I know they had a great time.

So here's my thing. I am happy she got to see her son, but I feel taken advantage of. No call, no email, no request to pay over time (which I would totally be OK with), just no contact whatsoever. I have no intention of contacting her again, and I am not in financial jeopardy over this, but I guess I'm just wondering how anyone could do this. This is someone I see a few times a year. She may be thinking that the tix were "free"--they were SW points that were going to expire, but I had eight other people willing to pay for them and went with her because she was first. Thanks for letting me vent, but advice is also welcome.

 

[jclark5735]

wow. I can't imagine.

 

[leslie826]

That is just so wrong.

 

[mrsklamc]

I think you should contact her in case it slipped her mind.

 

[nilseks]

Did you agree to the $200 ticket price via email? If so, perhaps you could just forward her the email and say, "Just checking in on this--I never received the check and wanted to make sure it's not lost in the mail." I have used that one with family a few times, when we had to chip in on things and I wasn't paid. It's a nice way to ask for the money without accusing.

 

[jmartinez1895]

I agree with the above post. I too would ask something along the lines..when did you mail the check because I never got it and I wanted to make sure you knew so you could stop payment on the lost check.

 

[disprincessatheart]

Did you agree to the $200 ticket price via email? If so, perhaps you could just forward her the email and say, "Just checking in on this--I never received the check and wanted to make sure it's not lost in the mail." I have used that one with family a few times, when we had to chip in on things and I wasn't paid. It's a nice way to ask for the money without accusing.

Even if you don't have an email, I would send her something very similar to the pp "I see from your Facebook posts that you guys had a good trip. I wanted to let you know I have not received your check and wanted to make sure it's not lost in the mail." I had a similar situation a few years back and never got paid, but it was someone I worked with and i didn't feel my $75 was worth the awkward situation, plus I knew the guy had very little $$ and the money was for our old washer and dryer. If it wasn't someone I had to see everyday, I would have sent an email to at least try to get the money.

 

[Princesca]

That stinks. I hate it when people don't honor their financial commitments. I agree with the PPs, give her the benefit of the doubt at first, but I wouldn't be afraid to follow up afterward and clearly state your expectation of being paid.

 

[a1tinkfans]

You offered to sell them cheap not give it free.
Dont be embarrassed, just send an email saying you saw her facebook post and am glad she had a great time. Then, say that you have not gotten the check and she should cancel it, since it appears to be lost. Ask her to please re send it this week, as you have the money already spent and need it asap.
Say thanks and then "hope" she is a decent person, appears she may not be...
I guess take it as a lesson learned, no sense in letting her waste your energy on it , if she does not respond. (i really hope she does)
next time, its cash and carry...
some people are just shameful...

But Karma....its a follower