Families that go Trick-or-treating but don't hand out candy?

[Michelle and crew]

so would that have worked if everyone in the neighborhood had small kids? Like in our neighbor hood all the houses were built within 3 yrs of each other so we all had small children at the same time. If everyone selfishly went out with their kids where would they have gone? I still don't understand why both parents have to go with the kids. Why can't 1 stay home ? they still see the kids or you can switch half way thru.

I still say it is very selfish to only think of yourself and not anyone elses children when you go out and don't leave or stay home to give out candy.

So every who moved into your housing unit was at exactly same stage if life? How amazing.

I think I would have just had a giant block party. Much more fun.

 

[hentob]

Wow! This strikes me as just another "I have children so I'm entitled" attitude. You work it out. Someone goes with your kids and someone else stays at home to give out candy to the other kids.

This makes me want to stop giving it out. I'm spending my money and time to give to YOUR kids and you tell me it's no big deal - you just want to get, not give.

Wow!

When we did not have children, we gave candy out because we wanted to see the neighborhood children having fun It never crossed my mind that one of their parents was selfish b/c they didn't stay home to pay their fair share in neighborhood candy.

Once you get to the point where you are saying "I'm spending my money and time to give to YOUR kids and you tell me it's no big deal - you just want to get, not give", it's time to turn your light off

 

[Michelle and crew]

Aprilgail, you are lucky that you have someone in your life to help lots of people don't.

I don't begrudge anyone family time or a piece of candy. I'm saddened by those who do.

 

[hentob]

So every who moved into your housing unit was at exactly same stage if life? How amazing.

I think I would have just had a giant block party. Much more fun.

I agree. It a bizzaro neighborhood where every single person has a child of ToTing age, a block party makes more sense.

 

[hentob]

That drives me crazy! The school asks for ONE parent and no kids to attend yet mom , dad and the 4 kids still come walking into the classroom....there is ONE seat per student so that makes ONE seat per family...last year I get into the class and there is a dad in my seat because mom was in their kids seat so he just sat in an empty one....it doesn't need to be a family event--one parent is enough LOL...

OT

What an odd school. What kind of school excludes a parent?

Thank goodness our school wants both parents involved.

 

[HelenePA]

I dont give out candy right now because honestly with 4 it takes both us making sure the kids are safe in the dark walking around in costumes and not being hit by cars. I did give out candy when the kids weren't old enough to ToT and I will give candy out again when they are to old... leaving bowls of candy is NOT the normal thing to do here.... and I have no one to sit here and hand out candy for me.. dont worry I will make it up over the years..

 

[hentob]

I dont give out candy right now because honestly with 4 it takes both us making sure the kids are safe in the dark walking around in costumes and not being hit by cars.

How dare you

 

[heatherwillmom]

DH & I have always decorated big for Halloween as well as Christmas so we have always had a lot of kids trick or treating.When our kids were small, we both took the kids & someone else stayed at our house to give out candy. As they got bigger, I stay home & give out candy. We now live in a neighborhood that has a lot of kids trick or treating. Several of our neighbors decorate as well. We have any where from 300-500 kids. They come by the wagon load sometimes.

 

[HelenePA]

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What an odd school. What kind of school excludes a parent?

Thank goodness our school wants both parents involved.

that is strange isn't it? I'm lucky my neighborhood isn't all one age, and my school wants both parents (or if there are more!) involved I guess

 

[HelenePA]

How dare you

I'm selfish.. I know.. I dont want my kids to die Trick or Treating

 

[Hannathy]

I'm selfish.. I know.. I dont want my kids to die Trick or Treating

I hardly think a 9 or 8 yr old wouldn't know to look for cars and stay on the sidewalk so that is kinda of a stretch don't you think? that it take 2 parents for a 2 yr old or all your kids will die?

 

[luvmy3]

This thread reminded me of the real reason why we leave a bowl out when we are gone, and it has nothing to do with being fair, or making things even, its so we don't get egged, shaving creamed and TP'd

 

[livie1205]

We always make sure to give out treats. I think it would be pretty rude to take my kids out to collect candy but not give any in return, I think of the few families I know that do that as CHEAPSKATES. My husband and I take turns, he will take the kids out for a bit whileI hand out treats and then we will switch.
We get vanloads of kids from other area on our street and a few times have run out of candy. We prepare for around 175 kids.

That is really judgemental to say!We live in the country...NO ONE trick or treats at our house so we should NOT take our kids trick or treating? Alot of people are in that same boat...not everyone lives in town.That is really a crazy thing to say.

 

[livie1205]

This is probably the dumbest thread I've ever seen on the DIS. (OP--that is NOT meant as a slam at you!! You seem very level headed about the whole thing).

Others: seriously? Let's step back and take a look at ourselves. Griping because the distribution/reception of Halloween candy is not necessary "even"? SERIOUSLY? Good Lord!

We're talking about trick or treating here.

THANK YOU FOR SAYING THIS!!!! yeh I guess we are also ENTITLED because both of us want to trick or treat with our little snowflake!! GET OVER IT!! If you dont want to give candy DONT!!!! but please if this bothers anyone so much (not to op) then really get a hobby!

oh and by the way we are not trick or treating this year and still NOT giving out candy...no one can even get close to the house...so oh well.

 

[ilovepcot]

The first couple of years we lived in this house I tried to participate in Halloween. I opened the gate to our property and turned on lights that glow along a long winding driveway up to the house. No one came. Second year...same thing, although I could see children running from house to house on the street. Again, . Finally talked to some neighbors and they told me children, even a few adults, are afraid of my house. Some tale had circulated for years how the place is haunted. Well heck! That should make my place even MORE fun! Only way I can participate is walk down to the street in front of my house and hand candy out there. Not very fun but I've done it on a few occasions.

 

[Mickeypooh99]

We live at the very end of a VERY rural lane which is surrounded by woods. There is only one child on this lane...that would be mine.

I'll be sure to inform DS that the candy police on this thread say we must leave a bowl of candy out if we go trick or treating...now, can I please have the addresses of everyone on here so I know where to send the deer and wild turkey when they become sugar fiends?!

Same here. I'll tell my family we have to leave out a bowl of candy. I'm sure it will be the racoons that get it here.

 

[Hannathy]

That is really judgemental to say!We live in the country...NO ONE trick or treats at our house so we should NOT take our kids trick or treating? Alot of people are in that same boat...not everyone lives in town.That is really a crazy thing to say.

But that was the choice you made when you moved there. You can't have the best of both world without it seeming greedy.

I live in an area that is on the edge of town and we all hate when they bring in the kids from out in the country to trick or treat in our neighborhood. You should trick or treat where you live and give out candy there also.

 

[Scurvy]

The first few years my child went trick or treating, my husband and I both went with him because we enjoyed it. And we didn't get a housesitter to hand out candy, and we didn't even leave a bowl out! We handed out candy before and after we went out. We still gave out quite a bit of candy even with that short break, though I guess I should apparently feel bad for the poor souls who happened by while our light was out. My husband and I handed out candy long before our child was born, and we still do most years even though he doesn't trick or treat any longer. I'd say it more than evens out. And if it doesn't . . . who cares? It's just candy!

If someone was offended and thought it wasn't fair that we took a break from handing out candy to walk around with our son and they wanted to refuse to give him candy as a result, they would have been free to do so. I would have thought they were crazy, but I would have been happy to let my son not take their candy.

I hardly think a 9 or 8 yr old wouldn't know to look for cars and stay on the sidewalk so that is kinda of a stretch don't you think? that it take 2 parents for a 2 yr old or all your kids will die?

Lots of neighborhoods don't have sidewalks.

 

[livie1205]

But that was the choice you made when you moved there. You can't have the best of both world without it seeming greedy.

I live in an area that is on the edge of town and we all hate when they bring in the kids from out in the country to trick or treat in our neighborhood. You should trick or treat where you live and give out candy there also.

WHAT!!!??? are you crazy? no really? now we have to think about trick or treaters before buying a home? NO ONE does that! NO ONE

 

[Mickeypooh99]

But that was the choice you made when you moved there. You can't have the best of both world without it seeming greedy.

I live in an area that is on the edge of town and we all hate when they bring in the kids from out in the country to trick or treat in our neighborhood. You should trick or treat where you live and give out candy there also.

Really!? I can't believe people have that attitude. I really thought Halloween was just about fun, not about being even. Well I will drive my kids into town this year as I always do. We will trick or treat with them. I'm not going to feel guilty about it.