Families that go Trick-or-treating but don't hand out candy?

[disneychrista]

And Christa, that's a pretty nasty blanket statement to make about all 13 year olds. Do you not realize that MOST teens are good, honest kids, or are you one of those who assumes that all teens are rude? If so, let me tell you, they're not the one who is rude.

Did I say that EVERY 13yo would do this? I would hope that my kids would have taken one piece, they are now too old for ToT and now hand out the candy. But I KNOW kids who would take the entire bowl and they are the older kids ToT by themselves. They are the same kids who have "bag grabbed" from the younger kids. Sorry I do not live on Wisteria Lane. I live in REALITY. Reality is that some houses won't have candy. Some parents want to ToT with their kids. Some just do not participate. This is only the second year that I have been able to hand out candy (lived in the county before that, and my took my own kids - in town- before that). There may come a time where I would rather go to the movies or go with my grandchildren ToTing. But that is my choice. I will NOT leave a bowl out and I will NOT feel guilty for it.

 

[DisneyScraps]

I am noticing a marked decrease in the houses that give out candy. It seems like Trick or Treat is dying in my town. I make sure that someone is always at my house giving out candy. My DD goes Trick or Treating with a neighbor when she was little my husband stayed home and gave out the candy while I took her Trick or Treating for an hour and then we switched.

I never understood the drive by ToT I felt it was lazy until last Halloween. My neighborhood had 2-3 houses on each street giving out candy. It was a long walk between houses.

Lisa

 

[cocodog]

I've noticed for the past few years that my neighbors across the street go out trick-or-treating (all 4 kids and both parents accompany them) but they don't have anyone stay at their house to give out candy. I also know they don't leave out a bowl of candy because I've got a clear view of their door.

I guess you could say that it all evens out since I don't have any kids, but I still give out candy. Personally, I think that if you're going to be taking candy from others then you should be giving out candy also.

What do you think?

We have crAzy neighbors who do that also... go figure. One of us stays home and hands out candy while the other takes the children around the neighborhood. Of course, we have other neighbors who take the whole family on a golf cart and carry candy to hand out to all that they see-- pretty cool way to do it.

 

[WeLoveLilo05]

This seriously is the crazies thread I have ever read! LoL It just keeps getting worse and worse!

Who CARES if BOTH parents take their kids out, personally I think thats nice. Fiance works about 12 hours a day and doesn't get weekends off, his schedule is different every week, so he may have Tues and Thursday off this week, but next week he'll be off Mon and Fri. But he usually takes Halloween thru the 1st week of Nov for his vacation time (teachers convention here in NJ so we are all off at some point towards the end of the week). So yes, b/c we don't get all that much family time year round we both go and GASP! I don't even trick or treat in my own neighborhood, we go to my aunt's house in the next town. And GASP! I don't leave a bowl out, why? B/c I did 2 years in a row and came back to 2 full bowls, so I'm not even wasting the money anymore.

If the kids go to a house, ring the bell and no one is home then we say "O Well, let's go to the next one" no big deal, we aren't cursing out the people b/c they didn't leave a bowl out or didn't think to make someone stay home, why should they? They don't have to! It's Halloween people!!! Who cares!?!?! Its about fun. If you feel inclined to leave out a bowl, fine thats great, if you wanna enjoy a night out with your family, awesome! If you don't leave out a bowl, thats fine too. Kids really enjoy just dressing up, running around with their friends and family, and getting candy, which they WILL get regardless if I leave a bowl out or not. In the end my family is more important instead of what people think of me and my lack of leaving out a bowl of snickers
And I think its pretty sad that people actually keep tabs on these things.

 

[Tinkmom75]

nope sorry most kids are really honest and don't take the whole bowl. and many on this thread have said the same thing. for 1 thing if they are in their neighborhood it is people they know and the kids they would be shorting are kids they know. And word would get back as far as who did it.

I can't say which post of yours is more sad. I really can't believe someone has that much time to nose into neighbors business. I am very glad I don't live in a community like that.

For my DS's party Friday I guess I should only give the treat I am bringing in to the kids whose parents send in treats. Oh, sorry Johnny your parent didn't send in a treat and was selfish so you can't have one of these.

Sad very sad...

 

[Kae]

Trick or Treat night is my DH's favorite night of the year! The guys all take the kids, and load their pockets with beer. And the neighbors usually give out beer to the grown ups! Hey, how else are you supposed to survive a zillion kids running around high on sugar?

Us too. But us women folk stay back to watch the crockpots & might have a Martini or 2.

Kae

 

[Kat77]

nope sorry most kids are really honest and don't take the whole bowl. and many on this thread have said the same thing. for 1 thing if they are in their neighborhood it is people they know and the kids they would be shorting are kids they know. And word would get back as far as who did it.

Story time!
When my kids were really young we would leave a bowl out while we circled our block. It took maybe 30 minutes? One year, SOMEONE TOOK THE BOWL! Yup, I do mean they stole the gigantic plastic bowl (and it's contents)! We quit leaving out bowls after that.
For years, we left as early as possible to do our block and returned home to pass out candy the rest of the night. Now we switch off taking them around the subdivision. This will likely be their last year going door to door. My kids are aging out. I will enjoy being able to fawn over little ones next year.
Maybe ilovepcot will consider letting me haunt her house? I could rattle chains and moan while she passes out candy.

 

[Ceila]

Did I say that EVERY 13yo would do this?

Yes, you pretty much did. By not qualifying your statement with something like "some," "a few," or even "many," your post means all 13 year old who trick-or-treat by themselves. And frankly I think that's insulting to most young teens.

Yeah the ones whose parents are with them. The 13yo's ToT by themselves are taking the whole bowl.

Did I say that EVERY 13yo would do this? I would hope that my kids would have taken one piece, they are now too old for ToT and now hand out the candy. But I KNOW kids who would take the entire bowl and they are the older kids ToT by themselves. They are the same kids who have "bag grabbed" from the younger kids. Sorry I do not live on Wisteria Lane. I live in REALITY. Reality is that some houses won't have candy. Some parents want to ToT with their kids. Some just do not participate.

I don't live on Wisteria Lane, either, but you seemed to be generalizing to your own experience, so I was pointing out that not everyone lives in the same kind of neighborhood. REALITY for me and others is that leaving a bowl out is fine; obviously for you it's different. I was just pointing out that not every neighborhood has the problems yours seems to. No kid has been "bag grabbed" and bowls left out are not dumped.

This is only the second year that I have been able to hand out candy (lived in the county before that, and my took my own kids - in town- before that). There may come a time where I would rather go to the movies or go with my grandchildren ToTing. But that is my choice. I will NOT leave a bowl out and I will NOT feel guilty for it.

I never said people should feel like they have to leave candy out. I've already said earlier that I can't believe people get their panties in a wad about those who don't hand out candy.

 

[disneychrista]

No kid has been "bag grabbed" and bowls left out are not dumped.

Sorry...some bowls are dumped and some bigger kids do bag grab. Some pumpkins get smashed and some kids do not wear a costume. Some parents choose to ToT with their kids instead of giving out candy and some choose to not participate. Some people think it is okay to give out "tracts" instead of treats. If they didn't then we wouldn't have threads about them.

 

[ginna74]

DUN DUN DUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN


OMG going trick or treating without planing for handing out candy..... The shameeeeee I admit I am the Halloween rule breaker then. Give me 1,000 lashes with a wet noodle!!!! No really though, I have never heard of the rules. I will be handing out candy this year, just didn't know I was a rule breaker when we went out and didn't HAND OUT CANDY ourselves. Well....now we know.

 

[Ceila]

Sorry...some bowls are dumped and some bigger kids do bag grab. Some pumpkins get smashed and some kids do not wear a costume. Some parents choose to ToT with their kids instead of giving out candy and some choose to not participate. Some people think it is okay to give out "tracts" instead of treats. If they didn't then we wouldn't have threads about them.

For pete's sake, all I've been trying to say is that crap has never happened in MY NEIGHBORHOOD. Your posts read as if you think that it happens everywhere, and it doesn't. I'm sorry you live someplace where it happens. Really, I am. But that doesn't make it true for all of us.

You really don't seem to be reading my posts correctly, so I'm bowing out. No point in debating with someone who just reads what they seem to want to read instead of what's really there.

 

[momof1princess]

OP, we go ToT, and don't hand out candy, but then again, we live out in the boonies on a dead-end street with only 3 other houses, none of which have children, and our house can't be seen from the main road, so we wouldn't get any trick-or-treaters anyway. we trick-or-treat with our best friends every year, who live downtown (ironically, just 5 minutes from our house, lol) in a wonderful neighborhood, and i buy candy to take along and hand out to the other kids we run into as we go. honestly, it had never occurred to me to leave a bowl of candy out at my house, because no one will see it.

 

[disneychrista]

You really don't seem to be reading my posts correctly, so I'm bowing out.

Nor do you mine.

No point in debating with someone who just reads what they seem to want to read instead of what's really there.

I agree. Finally we agree on something.