Families that go Trick-or-treating but don't hand out candy?

[livie1205]

Don't worry, I'm not easily offended, plus the thread has taken on a life of it's own. I agree it has become a funny thread. I know people who give wedding gifts based on the same criteria listed in your post. They give a gift based on what gift was given to them or their children for their weddings. We have all heard of the "cover your plate" mentality of giving wedding gifts. Perhaps we could use the "cover your pillow case" mentality for Halloween candy.

I am also not comming down on you its the people going waaayy over boared with it that gets me....like people REALLY have to have their kids stay home because of where they live..yeh cause that was our first thought when building...

 

[hentob]

I hardly think a 9 or 8 yr old wouldn't know to look for cars and stay on the sidewalk so that is kinda of a stretch don't you think? that it take 2 parents for a 2 yr old or all your kids will die?

Seriously? All of this over candy?

Sigh. If I must explain to someone who has no clue:

Sometimes an 8 or 9 year old needs help with a costume or a candy bag that has been broken or even crossing the street. Yes. Some children that are all in costume and carrying bags and in a mask MAY need help. Now add younger children to that mix.

Or, maybe (just maybe) it is an only child and both parent want to go. Big deal. If you are counting every little dime you spent on candy or begrudging the neighbors for not handing out candy, PLEASE shut the door. I don’t think people taking their children out for a fun night want to be subject to judgmental people who have deep, nasty thoughts while handing out bubble gum.

Don't hand out candy. There are enough of us that are willing to do it with a smile

 

[golfgal]

We used to live in a neighborhood that was a drop off neighborhood for the kids that lived in the country and I LOVED it. We would get about 300 kids each year. If the weather was nice we would sit outside and chat with neighbors as the kids came. It was GREAT. Now we only get about 75 kids or so and it's kind of sad. Last year we had over 100, probably because it was Saturday. I hope we get a lot again this year!!

 

[livie1205]

that is fine but know you aren't appreciated and you are talked about. Why do you think we want to buy your kids candy that don't even live in our neighborhood?
How do you even justify that any way shape or form.

The people across the street turn their lights off when they see the vans start coming in.

wow...so you are THAT person on the block?It would be funny if not so sad.

 

[Anne34]

thats really weird. if u have kids here you give out candy and trick and treat. i take the kids out and Dh stays home handing candy.

IMHO it would be rude to take and not give out any

Totally agree!! We always had someone stay behind and pass out candy. Now my teens love to do it.

Happy Halloween!! Can't wait to see all the cute costumes

 

[Pakey]

I think I'm going to put a big sign out in my lawn.

Accepting ToTs who left no parents at home.

Accepting ToTs who drive in from the country.

Accepting ToTs who can't afford costumes.

No Questions Asked.

 

[DisneyBeagle]

I think I'm going to put a big sign out in my lawn.

Accepting ToTs who left no parents at home.

Accepting ToTs who drive in from the country.

Accepting ToTs who can't afford costumes.

No Questions Asked.

I love it!!!!

 

[hentob]

I think it is very greedy to do anything else. We only had 1 family that did thins and thankfully they moved because it left a bad taste in my mouth toward them every year.
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that is fine but know you aren't appreciated and you are talked about. Why do you think we want to buy your kids candy that don't even live in our neighborhood?
How do you even justify that any way shape or form.

I live in an area that is on the edge of town and we all hate when they bring in the kids from out in the country to trick or treat in our neighborhood. You should trick or treat where you live and give out candy there also.

I am about as crotchety as they come, but this is bordering on unstable and disturbed


If you are a child, if you have a costume on come to my house!! I don’t care if you don’t live in my neighborhood. I don’t care where you live. Have some candy!! That is why I turned on my light and chose to participate in this fun tradition.

Scorekeepers…Turn off your light!!

This is a very strange thread.

This makes me want to stop giving it out.

That sounds like a good idea.

 

[ilovepcot]

I am about as crotchety as they come, but this is bordering on unstable and disturbed

 

[Minniemouse07]

We live in a neighborhood where people come and drop off their kids to ToT. Five blocks of row houses on both sides of the street...more doors per block!

Before we had kids I routinely handed out close to 500 pieces of candy (the good stuff because I need to be able to eat the leftovers!).

The first few years that dd was big enough we (me, dh, & dd) went door to door for about 10-20 houses and then she handed out candy for the rest of the night.

Now that she's older and we have ds as well (they are now 9yo and 4yo) we all go out and ToTing. We don't give out candy anymore, we give out glow bracelets. As we walk around, we hand out bracelets to other kids we see.

Once we are done ToTing, we go home, continue handing out bracelets and go through the kids candy for things they definitely won't eat...and give out that too!

We generally give out about 90-120 bracelets each year. Not as many as if we were home..but still, everyone is happy!

 

[jaminmd]

You know, the more I think about this the more I realize I'm getting the short end of the stick when it comes to this whole trick-or-treating thing. I only have one child, and he didn't trick or treat for very many years. But I've had the same families coming to my door for many years with their multiple kids, some of whom have been trick-or-treating for more years than my child did. We've definitely given out far more candy than we got over the years. Plus, we never gave out the cheap candy (mainly because I wanted leftovers that we actually liked). I think I need to start telling families that they may only bring one child to my door, and that they may trick or treat at my house for a maximum of 6 years before they have to stop. Oh, and they can only choose a treat from the bowl that is of equal or lesser quality to the treats they gave out when my child was trick or treating. If they didn't give any out those years, they're out of luck!

(No offense meant, OP. I think you had an interesting question. But this thread has gotten hilarious!)

This thread is a hoot! I'm a mother of an only as well. How do I make up for bags full of candy I gave out before DD was born? They had to weigh about two pounds each!

 

[HelenePA]

I hardly think a 9 or 8 yr old wouldn't know to look for cars and stay on the sidewalk so that is kinda of a stretch don't you think? that it take 2 parents for a 2 yr old or all your kids will die?

Are you kidding me?!?! You know nothing about my kids, and its not my kids I'm worried about its the stop and go traffic of parents who have to drive their kids around instead of walking... If I said what I want to say to you it would be my last post..

 

[Plannin'Shannon]

Pakey, add "Accepting ToTs of all ages" to that sign and I'll put it on my lawn as well.

 

[MushyMushy]

I dont give out candy right now because honestly with 4 it takes both us making sure the kids are safe in the dark walking around in costumes and not being hit by cars. I did give out candy when the kids weren't old enough to ToT and I will give candy out again when they are to old... leaving bowls of candy is NOT the normal thing to do here.... and I have no one to sit here and hand out candy for me.. dont worry I will make it up over the years..

Selfish, selfish! You better get yourself out there and buy a TRUCKLOAD of candy to leave out to make up for those four kids of yours just taking and taking and taking.



I am stunned, just stunned, I tell you. You learn something new every day on the DIS about how people think. I've never encountered this type of attitude in my life.

 

[Nik's Mom]

I have more important things to worry about than who is handing out candy and who has kids. DH and I both take our kids trick or treating. We enjoy doing that as a family. We always hand out candy. When we leave the hosue, it's usually only for less than an hour. We used to shut off our porch when we took the kids trick or treating. We would usually just go a block or two. Then once we were home, we would turn on the porch lights and be open for business.

In our new neighborhood, we noticed that a lot of people just leave candy in a bowl on the porch, so that is what we do now. But seriously, why do people feel the need to keep score as to who hands out candy and who doesn't. I don't look down on my neighbors who don't hand out candy. It's their business, not mine.

 

[Pakey]

Pakey, add "Accepting ToTs of all ages" to that sign and I'll put it on my lawn as well.

How about "No Questions Asked. No Proof of Age Required"

 

[ajk912]

I think of it like this..if I see your kids knocking on my door for candy my kids better be able to knock on your door for candy. Even kids can make the connection..."Oh, look, there's Jimmy! We have to be sure to go to Jimmy's house, too!" Oh no, I am sorry, Jimmy's parents don't give out candy.

 

[LovableGluttons]

We lived on military bases for many years. There would sometimes be ten or more houses in a row that didn't hand out candy. Over the years, the number of dark houses outnumbered those with candy. DH and I took turns, sometimes coming home halfway through TOT hours to switch.

I stopped walking with my kids a couple of years ago, just too few houses with candy and too many kids and their parents in the streets.

I 'm a bit bitter. It's a sad sign of our times. I went on a cruise in 2008 and left a ton of candy for my neighbor to hand out for me.

Maybe it feels like bad sportsmanship to take and not give?

As long as there is TOTing, I will decorate my home and buy candy for those who come to my door.

 

[hentob]

I think of it like this..if I see your kids knocking on my door for candy my kids better be able to knock on your door for candy. Even kids can make the connection..."Oh, look, there's Jimmy! We have to be sure to go to Jimmy's house, too!" Oh no, I am sorry, Jimmy's parents don't give out candy.

My children have never, ever made that connection and I am so proud of that

They are just out Trick or Treating. Having fun. Being a kid. Not keeping score. Not looking to be hurt or "ripped off". Infact, we must run with a great crowd. I can't think of one child that would think that way or "make that connection".

 

[HelenePA]

I think of it like this..if I see your kids knocking on my door for candy my kids better be able to knock on your door for candy. Even kids can make the connection..."Oh, look, there's Jimmy! We have to be sure to go to Jimmy's house, too!" Oh no, I am sorry, Jimmy's parents don't give out candy.

and?? Here is the sucky thing I might be taking all four alone this year anyway.. dh might be working.. or should I have him call off so he can sit here and hand out candy?!??! I'm so glad I dont have some of you as neighbors..