Families that go Trick-or-treating but don't hand out candy?

[dzorn]

I've noticed for the past few years that my neighbors across the street go out trick-or-treating (all 4 kids and both parents accompany them) but they don't have anyone stay at their house to give out candy. I also know they don't leave out a bowl of candy because I've got a clear view of their door.

I guess you could say that it all evens out since I don't have any kids, but I still give out candy. Personally, I think that if you're going to be taking candy from others then you should be giving out candy also.

What do you think?

I agree with you. DH takes the kids out and I stay home to pass out candy. If you are going to be accepting treats you should be giving them out also. Anything else is just selfish.

Denise in MI

 

[Michelle and crew]

I agree with you. DH takes the kids out and I stay home to pass out candy. If you are going to be accepting treats you should be giving them out also. Anything else is just selfish.

Denise in MI

So should children of divorce just have to stay home that night? Or kid who have lost a parent?

 

[ols386]

To be honest, I never really thought about it.

I've never heard of leaving a bowl of candy outside your front door, if you are not home when trick or treating is taking place.

I would think that people with kids young enough to go TOT'ing would just go on their way and not worry about it, and when your kids are grown and don't TOT anymore, then you would be giving out candy. Seems like it would all even out over time.

 

[dzorn]

So should children of divorce just have to stay home that night? Or kid who have lost a parent?

There is a difference between doing something out of necessity and doing it for selfish reasons. If there are two adults then there is no reason both need to be out at once.

Denise in MI

 

[Sugardimples]

Wow! This strikes me as just another "I have children so I'm entitled" attitude. You work it out. Someone goes with your kids and someone else stays at home to give out candy to the other kids.

This makes me want to stop giving it out. I'm spending my money and time to give to YOUR kids and you tell me it's no big deal - you just want to get, not give.

Wow!

 

[iheartnmr's]

But who even cares if it evens out? I mean really? This is something that is worth counting score over? Life isn't fair. Do what you think it right and ignore what everyone else is doing.

 

[AndreaDM]

But who even cares if it evens out? I mean really? This is something that is worth counting score over? Life isn't fair. Do what you think it right and ignore what everyone else is doing.

I agree! It would never even occur to me to keep track of who trick or treats and who hands out candy. Who cares???

 

[sbell111]

For the last twenty or so years, my wife and I have given out candy. Now we have Pricess Wigglypants and soon boy-to-be-named-later. We will both go out with them when they ToT. When we get home, we may or may not give out candy. What we won't do is have guilt if we decide not to give out candy, for whatever reason.

 

[Michelle and crew]

Wow! This strikes me as just another "I have children so I'm entitled" attitude. You work it out. Someone goes with your kids and someone else stays at home to give out candy to the other kids.

This makes me want to stop giving it out. I'm spending my money and time to give to YOUR kids and you tell me it's no big deal - you just want to get, not give.

Wow!

34% of the kids in the us live in single parent homes. If you don't want to give out candy don't do it. Whatever. No one is forcing anyone to treat. It is just a nice little holiday.

 

[sbell111]

There is a difference between doing something out of necessity and doing it for selfish reasons. If there are two adults then there is no reason both need to be out at once.

How's this for a reason:

The kids are so darn cute that both parents want to experience it.

Here's a question for you guys to answer:

Why do people insist on making 'rules' to govern every tiny bit of life?

 

[npmommie]

We sometimes switch off, and sometimes we both go......if we both go we leave a big bowl on the porch. We have never had it emptied out. I always over buy LOL
and as for the people coming into the neighborhood from other places. we have that here too. but what bothers me is they drive the kids thru the neighborhood, so when you are walking ,there are cars everywhere with the headlights on.
why not just PARK the car and WALK around with the kids instead of pulling them up to each house.
that is not true trick or treating to me.
walking in the dark, house to house, is.
jmo

 

[Music City Mama]

There is a difference between doing something out of necessity and doing it for selfish reasons. If there are two adults then there is no reason both need to be out at once.

Denise in MI

I'm going to go completely OT here, but this post reminded me of something that really irritates me (FTR, while I think it's polite for one of us to stay home and pass out candy -- we do take turns, so we each get to go w/ the kids, as well -- I don't care that much about what others do). But something that annoys me to no end is how on Open House night at the beginning of the school year, they request that you don't bring your kids (this is at our particular school, I know they're not all like this) because they have very specific things they want to go over w/ the parents with as little distraction as possible. And EVERY YEAR, you'll see Mom, Dad and 'x' number of kids. If it's just one parent and the kids, I don't give it a second thought -- but both parents and the kids -- like one of them couldn't stay home when it is specifically requested that the kids not attend? Now that irks me! Sorry to go off-topic, but the above post reminded me of that.

And like another poster stated, I love to take my kids TOTing, but I love handing out to the TOTers, too!

 

[jeepgirl30]

I generally take the kids out because DH has not been home in the past, if he is he goes. If I'm out i put out a bowl of candy just because i want to, not because I think someone has to put out candy.

I always felt T&T was a choice to participate. I don't notice if neighbors are home and not giving out candy, if they are out and didn't put out candy, or whatever! If someone's light is on we stop, if not we don't. We don't give it much thought.

The only time I was on what someone else did for halloween, was the old guy that handed out Mt. Dew cans to all kids!

 

[Allison]

If there are two adults then there is no reason both need to be out at once.

Sure there is-so both parents can enjoy ToT with their kids.

I'm astonished people spend so much time worrying about things being even.

 

[Allison]

I agree! It would never even occur to me to keep track of who trick or treats and who hands out candy. Who cares???

I know. That's why I was shocked to see a thread like this. I can't believe people watch for this.

 

[Michelle and crew]

We sometimes switch off, and sometimes we both go......if we both go we leave a big bowl on the porch. We have never had it emptied out. I always over buy LOL
and as for the people coming into the neighborhood from other places. we have that here too. but what bothers me is they drive the kids thru the neighborhood, so when you are walking ,there are cars everywhere with the headlights on.
why not just PARK the car and WALK around with the kids instead of pulling them up to each house.
that is not true trick or treating to me.
walking in the dark, house to house, is.
jmo

That stinks. No one needs more drivers out there. Especially since some of us are handing out drinks to the parents too. I don't keep count of who deserves candy and who doesn't. It all evens out in the end.

 

[Music City Mama]

We sometimes switch off, and sometimes we both go......if we both go we leave a big bowl on the porch. We have never had it emptied out. I always over buy LOL
and as for the people coming into the neighborhood from other places. we have that here too. but what bothers me is they drive the kids thru the neighborhood, so when you are walking ,there are cars everywhere with the headlights on.
why not just PARK the car and WALK around with the kids instead of pulling them up to each house.that is not true trick or treating to me.
walking in the dark, house to house, is.
jmo

I completely agree!

 

[sbell111]

... And EVERY YEAR, you'll see Mom, Dad and 'x' number of kids. If it's just one parent and the kids, I don't give it a second thought -- but both parents and the kids -- like one of them couldn't stay home when it is specifically requested that the kids not attend?

They do that for the same reason as ToTing. They both feel that it is important to go. Neither parent wants to miss out on the bit of important info or be unable to ask the important question.

Plus, I am sure that they think that the request not to bring a child to SCHOOL is a dumb one.

Parents who don't bother to go to these meetings irk me much more...

 

[bjgrazi]

Wow! This strikes me as just another "I have children so I'm entitled" attitude. You work it out. Someone goes with your kids and someone else stays at home to give out candy to the other kids.

This makes me want to stop giving it out. I'm spending my money and time to give to YOUR kids and you tell me it's no big deal - you just want to get, not give.

Wow!

Wow! Yep we're entitled it's our child and if both parents want to go with him WE'RE ENTITLED! Get over it. My husband was reading this also and he said ok, we go to about 20 houses. Only buy 20 pieces of candy when they're gone we're done.

 

[sbell111]

Wow! Yep we're entitled it's our child and if both parents want to go with him WE'RE ENTITLED! Get over it. My husband was reading this also and he said ok, we go to about 20 houses. Only buy 20 pieces of candy when they're gone we're done.

Somebody owes us for all that candy we bought during the years before Princess Wigglypants was born (the spontaneous years).