Mike&AllisMom
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Please, tell us your secrets. How do you teach a child not to feel a certain way?
Agreed, especially since in this case it accomplishes nothing. Security guards are the ones who are supposedly trained to keep an eye out for suspicious persons or activity. Fulfilling an apparent security quota by asking who is the most convenient for a screening is not a security effort.
I think this situation warrants a comment actually.
The security checks are supposed to be random, what better way to make them random than letting the kids pick.
I have taught my children not to be so sensitive.
Not at all. It's simply my approach to parenting.
Not all kids are able to choose, and families don't need one more reminder of what their kid can't do that most can.
Oh I don't know how that happened! you weren't who I quoted! I'll fix it. Sorry!The post you quoted wasn't mine. Not sure why I am listed? I don't agree at all with letting the kids pick.
It doesn't matter how you would have seen it, it would only matter how the 6yr old perceived it. Some kids would feel an incredible amount of quilt over their choice, and most would have seen the security guard as an authority figure, which would mean, I hope, that they felt compelled to take the question/situation seriously.Wouldn't have bothered me. I would have seen it as it was intended, as a joke.
I agree with you. I think he is well trained. Ask 'dopey' 'weird' questions and people that are "acting normal" will be exposed as opposed to those that are truly your regular park visitors.Or, on the flip side, it gave the security guard a chance to actually interact with people, which when trained correctly can be an incredibly useful thing. He was able to put them slightly off balance and watch their reactions. I have absolutely no idea if this particular guard was just being weird (and it is a weird, uncomfortable question), or if it was actually part of security to be interacting with people and watching their reactions and responses.
Parenting doesn't always control how a child reacts. Children have valid feelings and emotions all their own, no matter what they've been taught by their parents. Parents can teach them not to be sensitive, but that doesn't mean a child won't ever get their feelings hurt by something.
It doesn't matter how you would have seen it, it would only matter how the 6yr old perceived it. Some kids would feel an incredible amount of quilt over their choice, and most would have seen the security guard as an authority figure, which would mean, I hope, that they felt compelled to take the question/situation seriously.
To all of you who said it wouldn't bother you - if it upset your child it would. What if the child asked had autism? You can't tell by looking at a child that they might have a difficult time with a question like that. Now if you ask my teenagers, they would love answering thisNot really an appropriate question for a young child in a stroller though.
If my child gets upset about something that I feel is no big deal, I take a moment to explain to them why it's no big deal. Kids aren't born knowing how to read situations, they have to be taught.
You are such a better parent than I am.