Dodges a bullet *WHEW*

[dngnb8]

My family is going over to a dinner party at my friends. Its just us and them. They are gay and have been together just a year less then my wife and I. Theyre like family to me.

So Im at work, and I mention to someone else that we are having dinner at so and so's house, and he says

"Youre taking your daughter there? Dont you know theyre gay! What parent would take their kid to a gay guys house?!?!?!?!"

I got physical...... Couldnt help it. Just lost it. He then made a claim against me.

I feel so stupid for losing it.

Good news is, In my mediation meeting, I told them what happened and gave them a choice. If they filed the dispute, I would press for the guy I got physical with who made those comments about gays. I would file hostile work environment and involve the media. Since this place is very diverse oriented, they agreed to go back to him and give him "his options"

He dropped the complaint.

I hate to have done it that way but it could have cost me my job. I feel so stupid that I lost it. I know better then that. But I went from cordial to butt kicking in no time at all. I just snapped....

It sure was a teaching moment for my DD14! LOL Yeah, dad screws up too hun.

 

[Jennasis]

Did you punch him? What exactly constitutes physical? The guy may have dropped the workplace complaint, but could he still press charges against you? Tread carefully...this could cost you more than your job.

 

[dngnb8]

Did you punch him? What exactly constitutes physical? The guy may have dropped the workplace complaint, but could he still press charges against you? Tread carefully...this could cost you more than your job.

He could press charges I am sure. I know. Trust me, I know....

 

[Disney845]

I wonder if this could still cost you your job.

First you "got physical" with another employee (not sure what that means?), then you threatened your superiors that if they didn't make this situation go away you would take this to the media.

I think you might be on the short list next time any cuts are made.

 

[Mokat76]

Are you bragging, whining or what? Your coworker's attitude is wrong, but you were WAY over the line. I don't care what the provocation, workplace violence should have gotten you fired. Your employer let inclusive policies trump violence? Wow! Glad I don't work where you do.

 

[Uncle Remus]

My family is going over to a dinner party at my friends. Its just us and them. They are gay and have been together just a year less then my wife and I. Theyre like family to me.

So Im at work, and I mention to someone else that we are having dinner at so and so's house, and he says

"Youre taking your daughter there? Dont you know theyre gay! What parent would take their kid to a gay guys house?!?!?!?!"

I got physical...... Couldnt help it. Just lost it. He then made a claim against me.

I feel so stupid for losing it.

Good news is, In my mediation meeting, I told them what happened and gave them a choice. If they filed the dispute, I would press for the guy I got physical with who made those comments about gays. I would file hostile work environment and involve the media. Since this place is very diverse oriented, they agreed to go back to him and give him "his options"

He dropped the complaint.

I hate to have done it that way but it could have cost me my job. I feel so stupid that I lost it. I know better then that. But I went from cordial to butt kicking in no time at all. I just snapped....

It sure was a teaching moment for my DD14! LOL Yeah, dad screws up too hun.

I dunno, the guy was just expressin' his opinion, I hear everybody's gotta respect that.

 

[Deb in IA]

Are you bragging, whining or what? Your coworker's attitude is wrong, but you were WAY over the line. I don't care what the provocation, workplace violence should have gotten you fired. Your employer let inclusive policies trump violence? Wow! Glad I don't work where you do.

And being very vague.

You were asked earlier what you meant by "got physical", which you ignored.
There is a wide range of possiblities - did you just shove him, or did you beat him to an inch of his life? Did he have to seek medical care? Were there witnesses?

And even if this were "hate speech", no way should that justify assault.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

If this isn't some sort of oil rig or some other rough type of job where non-major violence doesn't result in anything, I would think the company would build a case, dotting their is and crossing their ts for the termination of the op.

 

[Metsfan520]

If this all happened recently and this isn't a job on an oil rig or some other roughneck type job where people tend to look the other way at violence, I would suspect the company is building a case to terminate the OP and dotting their is and crossing their ts by going through proper procedure, etc.

That's a good bet.

 

[Metsfan520]

And being very vague.

You were asked earlier what you meant by "got physical", which you ignored.
There is a wide range of possiblities - did you just shove him, or did you beat him to an inch of his life? Did he have to seek medical care? Were there witnesses?

And even if this were "hate speech", no way should that justify assault.

Very true.

 

[DWGal210]

If this all happened recently and this isn't a job on an oil rig or some other roughneck type job where people tend to look the other way at violence, I would suspect the company is building a case to terminate the OP and dotting their is and crossing their ts by going through proper procedure, etc.

I agree.

 

[HM]

Troll?

 

[duffy]

Troll?

You beat me to it!

Either a troll, or a violently unstable person. Take your pick.

 

[Liza111577]

Troll?

Was wondering the same exact thing!

 

[sbell111]

My family is going over to a dinner party at my friends. Its just us and them. They are gay and have been together just a year less then my wife and I. Theyre like family to me.

So Im at work, and I mention to someone else that we are having dinner at so and so's house, and he says

"Youre taking your daughter there? Dont you know theyre gay! What parent would take their kid to a gay guys house?!?!?!?!"

I got physical...... Couldnt help it. Just lost it. He then made a claim against me.

I feel so stupid for losing it.

Good news is, In my mediation meeting, I told them what happened and gave them a choice. If they filed the dispute, I would press for the guy I got physical with who made those comments about gays. I would file hostile work environment and involve the media. Since this place is very diverse oriented, they agreed to go back to him and give him "his options"

He dropped the complaint.

I hate to have done it that way but it could have cost me my job. I feel so stupid that I lost it. I know better then that. But I went from cordial to butt kicking in no time at all. I just snapped....

It sure was a teaching moment for my DD14! LOL Yeah, dad screws up too hun.

Honestly, if you guys worked for me, you would be fired and he would receive a written warning. I would have dealt with both issues properly and you would have no grounds for anything, based on the info that you've given.

 

[Jennasis]

OP, would you really have gone to the media and filed for a hostile workplace? Doesn't there need to be an established pattern of "hostility" for a workplace to be considered hostile? Do you think (honestly) that any media outlet would have had any interest in pursuing the story?

 

[DrPierreMcDuck]

I'm gay and I wouldn't have reacted like that. A physical reaction is an acceptable response to a physical action, but rarely a verbal one.

BTW, do you have any gay relatives or friends? I ask this because sometimes my straight friends and relatives react more aggressively toward homophobia than I do. I will speak up, don't get me wrong, but I usually don't exhibit the anger they do. I suspect this is a result of fatigue. Gay people have heard it all a million times.

 

[Heidict]

You should have been fired. What your coworker said was wrong, but in no way does it justify him being physically attacked. You have proven that you are more of a liability to your company then some homophobic person.

I have a feeling this is all just made up anyway, so why are we bothering to respond?

 

[MickeySP]

I am so calling BALONEY!!

Any employer that would keep someone who has demonstrated a propensity for violence is leaving themsleves wide open for lawsuits GALORE!!

Also whether this person said what you say or not - you are the hostile one. They may be ignorant but you crossed a HUGE line.

Then you THREATEN the parties involved with media - I would have said bring it on.

Resolution:

Him - sensitivity training

You - silver bracelets & a judge for A&B

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

so why are we bothering to respond?

Swimming along swimming along.... yummy yummy ZINNNNNNNNNNNNG!!! OH NOES, I'M HOOKED!!!!!!