Do you visit your inlaws without your spouse?

[lovemygoofy]

I'm packing today to go see my in-laws for a long weekend. My sister in law is having her first baby and first baby shower this weekend. I wanted to make sure she felt we were also celebrating with her. My husband is out of country(naturally) so I'm flying from the 90 degrees of the desert to the cold to me Chicago.
I'm fortunate I have a great relationship with my SIL and though my MIL is a loon she is tolerable. It was always important to me to cultivate this relationship with my inlaws because my husband loves them. He has always been kind and helpful to my side of the family and I want to extend the same to his.

So do you visit with your in-laws without your spouse?

 

[5kidsmommy]

I don't even visit my in-laws with my DH, well except for my SIL and his cousin because they are my besties. But I haven't seen my MIL for about a decade and I like it like that.

 

[Maxpowers]

I have and would, but it's slightly different for me since mine are only 1.5 hour drive away. That said, I wouldn't just go to hang out for no reason, there needs to be some occasion or something along those lines. In your case it's a special occasion, so I would absolutely go in your shoes.

 

[jrmasm]

Um, no.

 

[soccerdad72]

Sure, we have. My MIL lives in town half the year (she's a snowbird), so it's a little different, but there's times when my wife is busy with other stuff and it's just me and my MIL (with and without the kids). We have a good enough relationship. Same with my wife and my parents. They can drive us nuts sometimes, but overall, we have good relationships with them.

 

[Jaya]

Well, I have to. My husband's been dead for many years but I still love my in-laws, so I visit them and sometimes bring my boyfriend along. He likes them, too.

 

[ImDMous]

We all live fairly close, so I don't need to go "visit" per se, but I would never just go hang out with MIL. I do hang with BIL and SIL occasionally without DH.

I don't have any brothers or sisters but my DH has been known to go out to dinner with my mother if I'm working late or whatever.

 

[cijay]

My only in-law is my sister in law and if we lived closer we'd visit but neither of us drive so we meet half way on the bus.

 

[wilkeliza]

Yep I visit my future in laws with out my fiance often. They are family to me now just as much as my own. We don't usually travel to see them as they split their time between the city we live in and the city fiance grew up in (NYC and South FL) so we usually see them when they are here. I have gone to things with my MIL and SILs that are just girls days and have also still gone out with them or to dinner if my fiance is unavailable. I couldn't imagine being with someone who I couldn't deal with their family on my own. Even though I don't always "get" his family or agree with what they do I still treat them like I do my own family.

 

[SanderMC]

Yup I do at least once a year for at least a week if not more. My in-laws live about 10 hours away. I get way more vacation than my husband so I take our little girl to go visit them in December so they can see her for the holidays. I also have no problem going for important events. I lucked out when it comes to my in-laws and enjoy spending time with them.

 

[MickeySP]

Also future in-laws here. Sure do, we get along great. DSO thinks they like me more than him. I'm sure this is true at times I take MIL to Dr appts, shopping and other stuff when her DD or my DSO can't.

As a matter of fact we are heading to Ft Myers to stay with his sis & her DH for a few days. Showing that we really get along it is a 1 bdrm condo

 

[BadgerGirl84]

Mine live 15 minutes away. My MIL and DH's step mom both like to come visit on the days I'm not working (and DH is)--mostly to see their granddaughter, but I also enjoy their company.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

MIL & FIL are just minutes from our house (DW is an only child, so no other in-laws). I don't generally go over there without DW & the kids unless I need something from FIL (like welding skills), or they need a hand with some project.

Do visit one-on-one with FIL during deer season, but that's about it.

Edit: DW on rare occasions does see my sister without me & entertain my parents if they come by in the Summer when DW is off work.

 

[LinderInWonderland]

My SIL and I are great friends, though I always tease her that it didn't start out that way. I have not visited my MIL on my own in the past, but now that we live in the same city again I plan on starting (especially since she has now moved into assisted living).

 

[jdb in AZ]

My in-laws have passed, so it would be difficult to visit them at this point. When DMIL was still here we did a lot of visiting while I drove her to hair appointments and doctor visits.

 

[aprilchem]

No, I would never go to their house without DH. I also don't stay there overnight and don't let my kids stay there, so when we visit them we stay in a hotel or rent a house in their town.

 

[bethy]

I'm packing today to go see my in-laws for a long weekend. My sister in law is having her first baby and first baby shower this weekend. I wanted to make sure she felt we were also celebrating with her. My husband is out of country(naturally) so I'm flying from the 90 degrees of the desert to the cold to me Chicago.
I'm fortunate I have a great relationship with my SIL and though my MIL is a loon she is tolerable. It was always important to me to cultivate this relationship with my inlaws because my husband loves them. He has always been kind and helpful to my side of the family and I want to extend the same to his.

So do you visit with your in-laws without your spouse?

Yes, I am almost as close with them as I am with my own parents and I LOVE my parents! I have known them for 26 years - a huge percentage of my life.

 

[bethy]

Yep I visit my future in laws with out my fiance often. They are family to me now just as much as my own. We don't usually travel to see them as they split their time between the city we live in and the city fiance grew up in (NYC and South FL) so we usually see them when they are here. I have gone to things with my MIL and SILs that are just girls days and have also still gone out with them or to dinner if my fiance is unavailable. I couldn't imagine being with someone who I couldn't deal with their family on my own. Even though I don't always "get" his family or agree with what they do I still treat them like I do my own family.

Totally agree with this. I wouldn't have married my DH if I didn't really really like his family, too. For me, that was/is the way it needed to be.

 

[eliza61]

Yep. my sil and I are great friends. I'm a widow so if I show up with my dh, something would be horribly wrong. lol (i have a weird sense of humor, ignore if offended)

 

[Meriweather]

no....they live in a different state, so I wouldn't go visit alone