Do you visit your inlaws without your spouse?

I live 5 minutes from my in laws. I have never gone to there house by myself. Alway with daughter and/or wife.
 
When we lived overseas, the kids and I stayed with my In-Laws for about 6 weeks every summer, for 5 summers. DH would typically be there one of those weeks. Now we live 6 hours from them. I went by myself this summer, to take MIL to CA for an eye procedure.
If DH was unavailable and there was a special occasion, yes, I would go by myself.
 
Totally agree with this. I wouldn't have married my DH if I didn't really really like his family, too. For me, that was/is the way it needed to be.

It isn't even a really really liking them. At some times I just tolerate my in laws. I just couldn't imagine being in a family where I can't stand anyone else so much that I have to have my SO there. Family is important to me so as much as I can't stand my future BIL I still will go out just with them if my fiance isn't available. They are important to him so they are important to me as well. Fiance said the same thing. My family is important to me so they are important to him and if something were to be going on and I was unavailable he would still go.
 
Only for bridal and baby showers that the men aren't invited to. Other then that NO.
 

Usually I go with DH but I have gone without him with the kids. When his grandparents were alive, I went weekly (daily in their last days) alone.
 
I was married for 30 years and never went to my in laws unless my spouse was with me. They lived close to his place of business so he most often met them for lunch and we didn't actually visit each other's homes often. He did go see my parents without me and still does, even after the divorce. I'm now in a relationship and he's very close to his mom. I spend a fair bit of time where it's just her and I and we get along great.
 
I don't. However my husband only sees them about once a year either. We don't socialize with his family (which is extended family as his parents are both deceased).

My husband definitely has visitied my parents without me. When I was away at school and he was still in the area he would help them with computer issues sometimes and do other things. Now its only if I'm on travel when they need something so much less likely he will stop down without me but still happens.
 
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Yep--I have done so many times. When the kids were little and DH's vacation time was limited, I would take them out for 2-3 weeks in summer and DH would join us for a few days or a week as his work schedule allowed.

Now we live in Europe and the kids are older. We were all (DH included there for 2 weeks this summer and DS and I stayed on another 3 weeks to see everyone since we only fly out every 2 years for the most part (though I got a great deal so am flying out again next month to stay with my inlaws and get to visit DD18 some at her nearby university).

I also make sure to email my siblings in law at least once a month and call my mother in law every week or two during the week. (DH calls most Sundays, and usually forgets to email his siblings). There are things that drive me crazy about my inlaws and about my own parents, but overall I love them all and maintaining those relationships is important to me
 
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Totally agree with this. I wouldn't have married my DH if I didn't really really like his family, too. For me, that was/is the way it needed to be.

DS20 and I have had long discussions about this because his DGF's parents are divorced, and DS doesn't mind the dad, but HATES the mom (and her new DH and their two kids and and and...).

Personally, I could NOT have married someone if I couldn't at least have tolerated his parents. Luckily DH's parents have been very kind to me the past 30+ years that I have known them, and we are quite close. DH is very kind to my parents, and was actually my grandmother's favorite (god rest her soul, I always thought that if DH and would have divorced, she would have chosen him over me!). "Family" is too important to me, personally, not to have DH's family one that I could put up with long term...

Terri
 
We don't visit the in laws, if they want to see us they need to come to us. The live to far away in a place we hate, lol.
But even if I could, I wouldn't. (Unless I was drunk)
 
I'm packing today to go see my in-laws for a long weekend. My sister in law is having her first baby and first baby shower this weekend. I wanted to make sure she felt we were also celebrating with her. My husband is out of country(naturally) so I'm flying from the 90 degrees of the desert to the cold to me Chicago.
I'm fortunate I have a great relationship with my SIL and though my MIL is a loon she is tolerable. It was always important to me to cultivate this relationship with my inlaws because my husband loves them. He has always been kind and helpful to my side of the family and I want to extend the same to his.

So do you visit with your in-laws without your spouse?

Tina, I think of my in laws the same way. I would totally visit them on my own if I could. They live 2000 miles away so we usually all go out there together.

I get along great with my MIL. Our relationship has evolved over the past 11+ years. I have a new SIL who doesn't like me for some reason, too. I have only met her two or three times briefly, so I imagine her attitude has little to do with me. I just try to be kind and not too forward. It's tough to be new in a family.

You have a great attitude! Your in laws are lucky to have you.
 
I don't even visit them with my DH most times. They are not people I enjoy spending time with and when I was pregnant and put on bedrest my mil called first to complain that I couldn't attend the surprise shower they were throwing for me and then to yell at me because I called DH once while he was visiting them. He said he would be 2 hours and it was 5. How dare I call him and make him feel guilty about helping his parents. didn't I know that was what kids were for. After that I wrote her off. They also won't bother visiting our kid when we live 90 minutes away but will fly to sil who is about 12 hours in the air multiple times a year.
 
I've probably spent more time with my MIL and FIL that DH has this year. And every year since we've been married.

We both have a great relationship with his dad.

My husband and his mother do not have a strong relationship (for good reasons), so most of our contact with her is initiated by me, and I have on occasion visited her alone when I was in town for other reasons. I get along with her fine -- I think she's acutely aware that without me she'd never see or hear from her son.

It would be nice if we had a more Brady-Bunch existence with the family, but it is what it is. I certainly was not going to refuse to marry the love of my life because he could have a better mom ;)
 
I have seen my MIL once without my DH. I had traveled to Ontario to visit family with our son and DH couldn't come because of work so I met up with my MIL for a few hours so she could see our son but other than that, I have never visited her without DH. She's an odd duck and has not been out to see us since we got married in 1999, in fact the only times she has ever seen her one and only grandchild has been when we have flown out there to see her.

One of my SIL's is amazing (she's actually in my profile pic!) and I would visit her as often as I could! The other SIL...well, we don't see her, talk to her or talk about her ever. Heck, our son doesn't even know that his dad has two sisters! (her choice, not ours)
 
I've probably spent more time with my MIL and FIL that DH has this year. And every year since we've been married.

We both have a great relationship with his dad.

My husband and his mother do not have a strong relationship (for good reasons), so most of our contact with her is initiated by me, and I have on occasion visited her alone when I was in town for other reasons. I get along with her fine -- I think she's acutely aware that without me she'd never see or hear from her son.

It would be nice if we had a more Brady-Bunch existence with the family, but it is what it is. I certainly was not going to refuse to marry the love of my life because he could have a better mom ;)
Sounds like my DH and his mom. I tolerate her for the kids, I want them to know their grandmother. When she visits, DH makes himself scarce most of the time.
 
I've probably spent more time with my MIL and FIL that DH has this year. And every year since we've been married.

We both have a great relationship with his dad.

My husband and his mother do not have a strong relationship (for good reasons), so most of our contact with her is initiated by me, and I have on occasion visited her alone when I was in town for other reasons. I get along with her fine -- I think she's acutely aware that without me she'd never see or hear from her son.

It would be nice if we had a more Brady-Bunch existence with the family, but it is what it is. I certainly was not going to refuse to marry the love of my life because he could have a better mom ;)

Divorced parents I could understand favoring one over the other or liking and spending time with your FIL but not MIL or vice versa or with siblings but not parents etc. I just never get people that spend 0 time with their significant others family with out their SO unless of course the SO doesn't care for their family either.
 
Divorced parents I could understand favoring one over the other or liking and spending time with your FIL but not MIL or vice versa or with siblings but not parents etc. I just never get people that spend 0 time with their significant others family with out their SO unless of course the SO doesn't care for their family either.

In my case, it is a combination of distance (4500 km) and desire. My inlaws are divorced and both live in Ontario so it is a fair distance to see them and with the exception of that one trip a few years ago that DH could not go on, it would be odd for me to fly out to see them without him.

The other part of it is that I just don't really like some of my inlaws and that's okay. Just because I married my husband does not mean I am obliged to like his entire family. I love one of the SIL's and if she lived in the same city, I would absolutely see her as often as I could, with or without DH.

Like we always tell our son: You have every right not to like someone, no one can force you to be friends with them. You DO however have to be polite to them and to respect their feelings.
 
In my case, it is a combination of distance (4500 km) and desire. My inlaws are divorced and both live in Ontario so it is a fair distance to see them and with the exception of that one trip a few years ago that DH could not go on, it would be odd for me to fly out to see them without him.

The other part of it is that I just don't really like some of my inlaws and that's okay. Just because I married my husband does not mean I am obliged to like his entire family. I love one of the SIL's and if she lived in the same city, I would absolutely see her as often as I could, with or without DH.

Like we always tell our son: You have every right not to like someone, no one can force you to be friends with them. You DO however have to be polite to them and to respect their feelings.

See you like the SIL though and would spend more time with her. I've met people (and some one here have said as much) that don't like a single other person in their significant other's family. I don't like my fiance's entire family but I wouldn't turn down an invitation to a family event if he has work just because of that. I guess it falls under the "polite" category in my mind.
 

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