Do you lick your fingers?

[JanaDee]

Just because you (the general you) think it's okay to lick/suck your fingers in public, doesn't mean it is okay. I bet many of you who think it's okay, would find many of the above items rude or tacky.

Instead of taking such offense, how about just realize that sometimes your behavior in public is offensive. I know people hate to be criticized but the behavior is kind of off.

FYI it is customary to include a link when including text from a different site.

http://www.drdaveanddee.com/rudedining.html

You may know who Dr Dave and Dee are, but their opinion doesn't mean much to me.

No, I don't do any of those things on the list in public, so it doesn't pertain to me, but I find it pretentious when people wag their fingers at others and tell them what they should and should not be doing.

 

[Chocolate Cake]

No, I don't do any of those things on the list in public, so it doesn't pertain to me, but I find it pretentious when people wag their fingers at others and tell them what they should and should not be doing.

You should not lick your fingers in public. I will wag.

 

[mom2AidanAndEli]

You should not lick your fingers in public. I will wag.

Actually, isn't finger wagging considered rude as well?

 

[Chocolate Cake]

Boy, I didn't realize how absolutely disgusting I really am!!!! Now, thanks to the posts here, I know I'm only one step above a Neanderthal.

At least you admit it. There are people on here thinking it is perfectly ok to sit in a restaurant and lick food of their fingers

I have been known to lick my fingers. How can anyone eat Doritos, ribs, fried chicken without it???? !

It's something called: A Napkin

 

[Christine]

FYI it is customary to include a link when including text from a different site.

http://www.drdaveanddee.com/rudedining.html

You may know who Dr Dave and Dee are, but their opinion doesn't mean much to me.

No, I don't do any of those things on the list in public, so it doesn't pertain to me, but I find it pretentious when people wag their fingers at others and tell them what they should and should not be doing.

If you looked, there are pages and pages of how rude finger licking is.

As I stated up thread, it actually doesn't hit my radar much, but I can empathize with the OP. What I actually don't get is that the behavior seems to be fairly repulsive to a lot of people, common sense that it's sort of bad manners in public (it's fine what you do at home, along with farting and belching), but to the people who do it, they just will not ever admit that their behavior might be kind of gross.

I doubt any link I could ever provide you would mean much to you and the reason I did NOT include the link is because the link did not matter as it wasn't "fact." Any simple google search would give you a list of standard decency behaviors in public. I was just providing a list to show that it fits in nicely with all the other acceptable "dining out" faux pas.

But I'm used to these types of arguments going this way. When one disagrees with the premise, people start picking apart your grammar, your posts, etc. There is nothing that will convince people that their public behavior is hickish.

 

[Chocolate Cake]

Actually, isn't finger wagging considered rude as well?

Indeed.

But, the next time my co-worker goes to town on her fingers, I will get up and leave the table. That will be very rude, I know. I just can't stomach a finger, by finger, by finger, by finger licking.

 

[JanaDee]

You should not lick your fingers in public. I will wag.

Go ahead, I won't notice. Don't overestimate your importance. Like I said before, I don't lick my fingers in public. At home, yup, I sure do.

This preoccupation with what everyone else is doing is so bizarre to me. I always tell my kids they need to worry about what they are doing, not what everyone else is doing. Maybe I need to start announcing that to adults as well.

 

[Mizzoufan]

Go ahead, I won't notice. Don't overestimate your importance. Like I said before, I don't lick my fingers in public. At home, yup, I sure do.

This preoccupation with what everyone else is doing is so bizarre to me. I always tell my kids they need to worry about what they are doing, not what everyone else is doing. Maybe I need to start announcing that to adults as well.

Exactly!! The only time it would either cross my radar, was if they were licking my fingers. Live and let live. So many other battles to fight.

 

[Chocolate Cake]

Go ahead, I won't notice. Don't overestimate your importance. Like I said before, I don't lick my fingers in public. At home, yup, I sure do.

This preoccupation with what everyone else is doing is so bizarre to me. I always tell my kids they need to worry about what they are doing, not what everyone else is doing. Maybe I need to start announcing that to adults as well.

If you are acting like a pig while sitting across the table from me, I am going to notice. Most people trained not to act like animals will notice.

Teach your kids that

ETA: You can easily tell the people that sit at a restaurant licking their fingers on this thread. Or ones that allow their kids to lick their fingers and don't correct them. It seems like it never occurred to them that it was poor manners to do so.

 

[Chocolate Cake]

Another question for those that lick their fingers at a restaurant:

Do you eat with your elbows on the table?

 

[Jennasis]

Go ahead, I won't notice. Don't overestimate your importance. Like I said before, I don't lick my fingers in public. At home, yup, I sure do.

This preoccupation with what everyone else is doing is so bizarre to me. I always tell my kids they need to worry about what they are doing, not what everyone else is doing. Maybe I need to start announcing that to adults as well.

I'm telling you Jana...we were separated at birth! Get outta my head LOL!

Exactly!! The only time it would either cross my radar, was if they were licking my fingers. Live and let live.

That would be so weird....that's why I let DH lick my fingers (and vice versa of course).

 

[JanaDee]

If you are acting like a pig while sitting across the table from me, I am going to notice. Most people trained not to act like animals will notice. Teach your kids that ETA: You can easily tell the people that sit at a restaurant licking their fingers on this thread. Or ones that allow their kids to lick their fingers and don't correct them. It seems like it never occurred to them that it was poor manners to do so.

I also teach my kids to ignore opinions from people that don't matter.

I am taking my own advice.

 

[Chocolate Cake]

I also teach my kids to ignore opinions from people that don't matter.

I am taking my own advice.

And yet you came back and didn't ignore me Awww...you really do care

Seriously, if you are teaching your children that licking their fingers in public is ok, well, we are not on the same level of parenting anyway. And that's ok.

 

[LBIJim]

Another question for those that lick their fingers at a restaurant:

Do you eat with your elbows on the table?

I don't lick my fingers at a restaurant, so maybe I'm not supposed to comment.

Are you just asking, or do elbows on the table bother you? I probably wouldn't even notice, but if I did I wouldn't think anything about it. It may be rude according to antiquated rules of etiquette, but it makes about as much sense today as not wearing white after Labor Day.

 

[Chocolate Cake]

I don't lick my fingers at a restaurant, so maybe I'm not supposed to comment.

Are you just asking, or do elbows on the table bother you? I probably wouldn't even notice, but if I did I wouldn't think anything about it. It may be rude according to antiquated rules of etiquette, but it makes about as much sense today as not wearing white after Labor Day.

Perhaps I am just a bit stabby today, as I am in bed and sick. But I was asking about elbows just because I truly am fascinated by the many people that no longer practice/teach their children basic table manners anymore.

 

[FairestOfThemAll37]

Another question for those that lick their fingers at a restaurant: Do you eat with your elbows on the table?

Actually the no elbows rule applies to when utensils are in use only. It is actually accepted by most etiquette standards to rest your elbows on the table and lean forward while engaging in conversation between courses.

This is the most common times you generally see elbows at the table anyway. Is find it hard to eat and have by elbows on the table.

As for the whole finger licking thing. I'm generally not concerned with what others are doing but I think context is important. Finger licking in a casual setting at home or rib joint is no big deal to me. In a fine dining setting it might catch me off guard but not enough to have it impact my life.

There's no right or wrong and it's wholly cultural. There are plenty of places where eating with the hands is common as it creates a deeper connection to the food or slurping is considered polite. Those folks must all be piggish heathens too.

 

[threeboysmom]

Yes, I think it's gross and I never do it, especially this time of year.

The absolute WORST is watching someone lick/suck the powdered cheese off their fingers after eating Cheetos or Doritos. OMG, it makes me want to vomit. When I eat Cheetos I make sure I have a napkin or I go wash my hands immediately after. Once I even used chopsticks.

Really???? That is the BEST part of eating Cheetos!!

Gosh, if I used a napkin to wipe my orange fingers, I'd have to then lick the napkin!

 

[sam_gordon]

Really???? That is the BEST part of eating Cheetos!!

Gosh, if I used a napkin to wipe my orange fingers, I'd have to then lick the napkin!

Careful...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1HgcWhIa7R8

 

[okeydokey]

I don't think I do, but who knows. I honestly never thought about it before. I guess you could put me in the camp of not really noticing other people's table manners unless they are actually impacting me in some way.

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

I only lick my fingers after I'm done buttering a whole piece of bread. Oh wait...