Nancyg56
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Aug 17, 2005
Nowhere in our vows does it say that I give my freedom to my husband. We also omitted any reference to "obey" or "till death do us part" in our vows. As I said, has worked for us for 36 years, soon to be 37.
My body, my choices. We respect each other enough that we trust each other's judgement to make the right decisions for ourselves. I don't need anyone to give me permission for anything. I am my own boss, make my own decisions. For better or worse and all that.
You obviously have a different definition for your marriage. Which is absolutely your right. But don't try to push your definition on my very successful marriage. My marriage would not be successful if I thought I needed "permission" from a spouse to do anything. Discussion yes, input absolutely and would be taken into serious consideration and probably listened to, but permission? Absolutely not.
I am in lockstep with you on ethis. My DH and I have been together almost 40 years and married almost 28. My DH has never once tried to tell me what ot do with my own health other than to get pretty upset if I miss routine exams. I hate dr's and have been known to skip them, which makes him worry. Other than that he respects the fact that I am my own person, just as he is.
The woman who needs her husband's permission for a medical procedure is likely the same one who will never get it.