Dis Breast Cancer Survivors Part II -GAGWTA!

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THANKS Laura and Happy Easter To All the Sistas!!

Hope everyone is enjoying their day. Its so cold here. I cant go out. It stinks not having a thyroid to control your body temperature. I am always freezing. At least its sunny. I went to church today and cried. (at least not out loud)Well it felt like someone hit me in the neck with a baseball bat. Not good. I am glad I am going to the dr. tomm. We will discuss stuff, like why I cant sing, dont have a voice, the pain lately etc. I Know he is putting the camera down my nose to the vocal chords.

Tues. I am going to the surgeon for the stomach/bowel. The belly button wound has opened up again. I called friday. Of course the dr. was not there, I think they transferred me to the np in the hosp. who knew me. He said its common and should take 7-10 days to close since it reopened. Hmm, I hope the radiation will not be put off again, I will pray. The diet is bearable but boring, hard work, cooking, planning and looking at what everyone else can have and I cant, cooking 2 meals all the time etc. Using too many dishes for sure. Friday night we had the communion service at c hurch. I, of course, cant have that, so I just sat their quietely with my hands folded. Later I had to tell the guy the story of the diet etc.

I am cooking the easter dinner for the family tonight. I will have something boring to eat, some meat, only 4 ounces allowed, some rice and vegetables and fruit as usual for dessert.

Linda - My son said he loved Boston. He didnt tell me everything, I know he said he stopped at UCon on the way up, went to MIT, Had 3rd base tickets for a Red Sox Game, (It, unfortunately, was not televised here), I know he visited a friend at Gordon College too and did other stuff, went to that restraunt that was on the food channel. He didnt get the $30 burger but had another kind. He said the only thing he didnt like was there was no parking!!

Blessings to you all!!
 
lmp, if it's any consolation: my thyroid is fine, and I've been freezing all day!!

Hope things improve for you!
 

Hi ladies!
I thought I'd never be back on your thread, but sadly here I am. I posted several years ago when I had a scare myself. Mine ended up being just a scare.

Well, now I am very sad to post that my mom has been diagnosed with advanced breast cancer that has spread to her lymph nodes. We just got the diagnosis last Monday. I am having a very hard time with this because I depend on my mom a lot. She is a second mom to my boys. She has taken care of them since they were born for me to work.

Last week she had a PET scan and several biopsies. We meet with the oncologist tomorrow at 3:00 to find out staging and treatment options. Are there any specific questions I should ask?

We are going to tell my boys tomorrow night. My heart shatters every time I think about it.
 
Hi ladies!
I thought I'd never be back on your thread, but sadly here I am. I posted several years ago when I had a scare myself. Mine ended up being just a scare.

Well, now I am very sad to post that my mom has been diagnosed with advanced breast cancer that has spread to her lymph nodes. We just got the diagnosis last Monday. I am having a very hard time with this because I depend on my mom a lot. She is a second mom to my boys. She has taken care of them since they were born for me to work.

Last week she had a PET scan and several biopsies. We meet with the oncologist tomorrow at 3:00 to find out staging and treatment options. Are there any specific questions I should ask?

We are going to tell my boys tomorrow night. My heart shatters every time I think about it.


I am so sorry about your mom Trublu. :hug:
I would see what the doctor recommends as far as surgery. Mastectomy vs.lumpectomy, etc. She really won't know her exact stage until they sample her lymph nodes via sentinal node biopsy (or did she already have this?). Advanced breast cancer means stage 3 and 4. Stage 3 is either a, b or c. They will explain all this. I was seen at a comprehensive cancer center that did my care as a group approach, and it was a nice way to go because they had ALL the experts on one team.

Hopefully you will get good news on the PET scan and your mom can begin treatment right away. Its tough but she can get through it. I went through surgery, chemo and radiation for stage 2 cancer and then reconstruction surgery. It took 1.5 years but I made it through. They have great treatments out there now and hopefully your mom will do well. I will be praying for her.

Not sure how old your boys are but my daughter was only 9 when I was diagnosed. They have great programs for kids whose parents/grandparents are facing cancer. I would recommend this. My daughter saw a therapist for a short while and is doing well.
 
Good Evening Ladies

:hug: ro you TrueBlue, I saw your other post on the coping and compassion board. Praying for you and your mom.

Well I went to the ENT surgeon today, all by myself no less. My BP was way up they said. He said thats because you are seeing me :rotfl2: Most of the time I talked with the NP. I love that lady. Very knowledgeable, plus she does double duty with my lovely hernia surgeon on alternate days. She told me my neck is very tight, O.K. I know that already, told me some other lady waited like 6 months for the radiation, the healing of the most recent surgery is 4-6 weeks. That would be exactly april 18 at the 6 week level, I told her it opened back up again. Not looking so good today. Told her I am on the diet. They said only the rad. onc. will make the decision and I told her she is on vacation until 4/20, the lst day of my shot prep, great. She also said which helped me feel ALOT better that although I have the agressive variant they dont see any difference in reoccurence as they do with just the regular form of the cancer, which I do also have, just the agreesive variant added to it. So that is good. I have read somewhere women with this do a little better than the men who have this variant. I told her I am being the rad onc. guinea pig since she only has 1 patient a year with this cancer. The NP said YOU ARE THE STATISTIC. Hmm, maybe the rad. on. should write a paper on me since this cancer variant is just so rare.

Other good news was that the ENT surgeon scoped me and said my vocal chords are fine, just it will take a while for my voice to return to normal, so that is a blessing and answer to prayer because they always have to check it for permanent damage which I signed on the surgical consent, but it was bruised before and now its slowly gettng better he said.:)

Tomm. I am going to the surgeon. I think dh will go with me. I told the NP and the other nurse I will see them tomm. and I will probably cry because he will say it wont be good enough for the radiation etc. (the hernia surgeon)

The ENT sxurgeon told me I have to stop having so many problems, yeah right:rotfl2: I go back to him in 2 months again. I have to work on the physical therapy at home and see what happens because he said the nerve damage in my shoulder from the surgery could get permanent. I told him I wasnt doing the one exercise which is the most important because I didnt want to pull on the staples and the wound etc. He said he understood. So its back to work for me!!

Hope all is well with everyone. I will give the update tomm.
 
The news on my mom wasn't as bad as I feared. It has not spread past her breast and the lymph node under her arm. They need to do another biopsy and put in a port for the chemo. But first they have to do a heart scan. The doc said that they will need to remove a lot of tissue, but he is very hopeful that she can beat this! :cheer2:

I told my boys tonight. They are doing better than I expected, but they are both asleep in my bed right now. Looks like Dad will be in the guest room for awhile. ;)
 
Alice, I'm glad your surgery went well. I'm so sorry about your niece's dd. :sad1:

lmp, you are a trouper and doing great!

TruBlu, I'm sorry about your Mom. Glad you got good news today, that's great.

Hope everyone had a nice holiday!

:grouphug: GAGWTA
 
Good evening sistas! GTAGWTA

TrueBlu - I am glad for the positive news about your mom.

Well ladies, if you have nothing better to do tonight, please join me at my pity party :rotfl2: Heres a snack popcorn:: while I vent to you all

I went to surgeon #2 today with dh this time. And as I surmised he said the wound is not healed but not infected. He thinks it will take another MONTH for it to heal!!! Can you say Goodbye radiation on wed??? O.K. I think I got him on our side, or my side, I told him to please e mail the rad., onc. He said you have to draw a point where the risks outweigh the benefits and he doesnt see why she cant do the radiation because...ready for this one...there is a chance the wound may never heal since I had emergency surgery and he will have to go in again and fix it the proper way???Ugh!!

The NP was there and we talked and taliked. She actually had to repack the wound because the dr. said he "stirred it up" because sometimes that will make it heal faster, oh what fun!! I actually talked to her more about the cancer. She told me the max I can get is 3 radiation doses over my lifetime and the rest of the cancer they will just have to cut out of my neck as needed. Its a "pesky" cancer she says?? I asked her what the endo meant when she said it will come back in no more than 3 years. She said, oh she is just preparing you, but I think you will be o.k.? Hmm, what does she know, although she has seen lots of patients for years. She said I "shell shocked" surgeon 1., hmm what does that mean. I asked dh later. I told him, I guess it meant he doesnt expect his patient to almost die when he operates on them:lmao:

Now vision of Elizabeths mom are dancing in my head. The NP makes the comment, oh in about 2 months when you come back, to see the ent surgeon if your neck is still swollen I will hook you up with the lymphadema people because they are looking for people like you, they want to see how the lymph system in the neck is affected after a neck dissection,. Um, hello that is nice, but at $30 bucks a co pay I dont know about this.

Add into the $30 co pay a waste of my time if the rad onc. decides not to do the stuff. I will just tell dh to call as I will be too upset and just ask for a new date for everything, meanwhile back at the terrible diet I am going through, I still will have to do that until I hear from the rad. onc. I guess, so 11 days of torture for nothing:sad1::sad1::sad1::sad1:

Well one good thing, I made an appt. for ds2 with my wonderful ent surgeon for the end of may. He needs his deviated septum fixed and his nasal polyp so hopefully he can breathe out of his nose someday instead of his mouth.

I am going to a meeting tonight. I am secretary of the ds old school council and I havent been there since Jan. so it will be good to be back there.

Thanks for listening to me. Blessings to you all.
 
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Good evening sistas! GTAGWTA

TrueBlu - I am glad for the positive news about your mom.

Well ladies, if you have nothing better to do tonight, please join me at my pity party :rotfl2: Heres a snack popcorn:: while I vent to you all

I went to surgeon #2 today with dh this time. And as I surmised he said the wound is not healed but not infected. He thinks it will take another MONTH for it to heal!!! Can you say Goodbye radiation on wed??? O.K. I think I got him on our side, or my side, I told him to please e mail the rad., onc. He said you have to draw a point where the risks outweigh the benefits and he doesnt see why she cant do the radiation because...ready for this one...there is a chance the wound may never heal since I had emergency surgery and he will have to go in again and fix it the proper way???Ugh!!

The NP was there and we talked and taliked. She actually had to repack the wound because the dr. said he "stirred it up" because sometimes that will make it heal faster, oh what fun!! I actually talked to her more about the cancer. She told me the max I can get is 3 radiation doses over my lifetime and the rest of the cancer they will just have to cut out of my neck as needed. Its a "pesky" cancer she says?? I asked her what the endo meant when she said it will come back in no more than 3 years. She said, oh she is just preparing you, but I think you will be o.k.? Hmm, what does she know, although she has seen lots of patients for years. She said I "shell shocked" surgeon 1., hmm what does that mean. I asked dh later. I told him, I guess it meant he doesnt expect his patient to almost die when he operates on them:lmao:

Now vision of Elizabeths mom are dancing in my head. The NP makes the comment, oh in about 2 months when you come back, to see the ent surgeon if your neck is still swollen I will hook you up with the lymphadema people because they are looking for people like you, they want to see how the lymph system in the neck is affected after a neck dissection,. Um, hello that is nice, but at $30 bucks a co pay I dont know about this.

Add into the $30 co pay a waste of my time if the rad onc. decides not to do the stuff. I will just tell dh to call as I will be too upset and just ask for a new date for everything, meanwhile back at the terrible diet I am going through, I still will have to do that until I hear from the rad. onc. I guess, so 11 days of torture for nothing:sad1::sad1::sad1::sad1:

Well one good thing, I made an appt. for ds2 with my wonderful ent surgeon for the end of may. He needs his deviated septum fixed and his nasal polyp so hopefully he can breathe out of his nose someday instead of his mouth.

I am going to a meeting tonight. I am secretary of the ds old school council and I havent been there since Jan. so it will be good to be back there.

Thanks for listening to me. Blessings to you all.

:hug: You are in my thoughts. Its going to get better! I am hoping you heal fast and can avoid another surgery!:grouphug:
 
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Maryann- How frustrating! Yes, why not call the rad onc and plead your case to go ahead with the radiation...save the copay and hopefully the diet won't be wasted again. :hug:

TruBlu- I'm sorry to hear of your mom's cancer dx. I also had lymph node involvement and I'm a 10yr survivor so far! Have you looked at www.breastcancer.org yet? Lots of good, easy to understand info. You're always welcome here too.:hug:

Hubby missed several days of work due to beta blocker side effects. The dr. told him to stop taking it, then his heart rate jumped. He is on a different one now, hopefully this one works out better.

My UC is flaring. I opted to try the Methotrexate shots again, along with the antihistamines the dermatologist prescribed. So far so good. I really don't think hubby could handle me having surgery right now. So I'm back to putting it off indefinitely...hopefully forever!:thumbsup2
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I just tried to post and lost it all.

Just know I am reading all your posts and sending good vibes.

Life is crazy for me right now, and I am having trouble juggling everything.

Good wishes for you all, Trublu and your mom, Maryann and Laura.

I am ending before I lost the post again. I thought I crashed my computer at work Monday night so I am skittish around computers right now.

GAGWTA!
 
I just tried to post and lost it all.

Just know I am reading all your posts and sending good vibes.

Life is crazy for me right now, and I am having trouble juggling everything.

Good wishes for you all, Trublu and your mom, Maryann and Laura.

I am ending before I lost the post again. I thought I crashed my computer at work Monday night so I am skittish around computers right now.

GAGWTA!

I've been thinking of you and wondering how you were.

Hope all is well... that it's the "good" kind of crazy you're dealing with.
 
Not so much. Trying times but so far I am letting everyone live and taking no prisoners. As I am stressed, I am asking DH to handle more.

Oh the up side, I am going to see the surgeon today who has been following me since April 2009 and hoping today is the day I will graduate. May be in another few months as I am about 6 months short of when I started Tamoxifen.

I'll let you know.

I am closing in on my 5 year cancerversary so I am looking for silver linings.
 
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Laurie- I hope the surgeon visit brings not only silver linings, but rainbows and puppies and lots of pixie dust!You deserve it sista.:hug:
 
Hi sistas...sorry I've been MIA! Busy busy...some of it good busy, some not so good but "this too shall pass" .
My dad turned 86 today. He said to me "gee, I thought I just had a birthday, I guess that was last year". Sometimes his comments crack me up though in some ways make me cry too. He is really losing the concept of time passage....hours/days/weeks/years........
As for the "good" busy....I went to Washington DC last weekend with my sister Kathy for the NCAA Frozen Four hockey championship tournament. We stayed at the Westin City Center, a few blocks form the White House,Thurs through Sat night....FREE on my Starwood Points :thumbsup2.. Flew into BWI Thurs mornig....semi-final games later Thurs afternoon and evening, then all Friday free for sightseeing plus Saturday daytime, then final game Sat night, then fly out Sun morning. We had a great time, despite none of our favorite teams made it to the Frozen 4. I hadn't been to DC since my dad took me and a couple of my brothers when I was a kid....gulp...almost 40(!?!!?) years ago!.... DH picked me up at airport and we went direct to Jim and Becky's for Easter. DD brought the new BF to meet some of the family. :)
I've been busy learning to use my new washer and dryer that was FINALLY delivered last week shortly before I left so my new laundry room can actually be used for doing laundry! :cloud9:

Best good news: I was notified today that I was "accepted" for our NH "Casting for Recovery" retreat in June!! I'm going to learn to fly fish with a group of other sisters!! :woohoo: I cannot wait!!! http://www.castingforrecovery.org/


Anyway..........

Laura--I am sorry about the flare up :sad2:

TruBlu...nice to "see" you but I am SO sorry about your mom's Dx. Do come here with any questions or just for diversion/support for yourself!! :hug:

Alice...what sad sad news about your niece's little one :sad1: my heart goes out to your extended family.

snappy....sounds like you need a BIG hug. (or something ) If it's anything to do with young adult children, dysfunctional siblings, ailing parents, busy season at work....I can relate to any or all of the above ;) not to mention ailing computers.
Wish we lived closer so we could have a girls' night out or something.

lmp...hang in!!

GAGWTA!!!
 
A hug and a girls night out sounds wonderful. Actually just reading all your posts always improves my mood and outlook.

I had a nice cell phone tete a tete with Laura today and that sure brightened my day. With all she goes through she was cheering me up. Oh my goodness I am a wimp.

Mysurgeon today was detained at the hospital so I opted to reschedule my followup appointment for next week.


DD13 fainted again, this time during Communion on Easter Sunday. I am taking her in to see the very kind pediatrician who came running to our aid from four rows up. He even missed taking Communion himself to go outside with us after she was able.

For a soccer playing gal she sure looked peaked. She is a very light skinned ,red haired blue eyed thing naturally but when her pressure dropped that low she looked like a ghost. We had three pews of the congregation helping us.

I think I am still trying to recover.

Probably just because she was kneeling so long, no breakfast and having the flu a couple of weeks ago. It also happend on Christmas eve in our bathroom and a near miss in the movie theatre in November, and just after a tree climbing incident several years ago.

There are tests they can do to rule things out. I just don't want her to fall and hurt herself when this happens. She fell right over towards me and I could not hold her up myself, hence three rows of people helping us.

The pediatrician called it a vasovagal episode. We could not find a pulse and she was unresponsive. Her pulse remained low for a good while after she woke up.

Seems fine now though but the doc suggested we follow up if it happens again. It has not but since there were previous recent events, he is going to see her Friday.

GAGWTA!

Nice trip, Ann.
 
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