Ugh.
DS has been getting in trouble at lunch and failing to mention it. So today he got in trouble for the FOURTH time this year. The resource officer told him she was going to call me, so he figured he better tell me a call was coming.
I decided to go in the school and find an administrator for myself. Apparently he and his friends like to be silly and immature. Apparently DS is often the instigator of this behavior. They throw rocks at each other, hit each other with their lunchboxes, generally act like imbeciles.
Yesterday one of the boys flipped one of the special ed kids on his back in the courtyard, and DS was lucky enough to be standing right there. Now they are saying DS is engaging in bullying. PERFECT!
In elementary a kid was telling a story about his brother doing something. DS said that was a stupid thing to do. The kid came back the next day and told DS that he told his brother DS said he was stupid, and now the brother was going to come to school and shoot DS. I was LIVID. I called the principal and she did NOTHING. We had problems with that kid for 2 years.
Now DS is standing next to a kid who gets thrown on the ground and DS is a bully? Great! DS never touched the kid!
I know DS is immature and silly. I KNOW that. I also know he can not anticipate a situation escalating. It's that "Lack of self-preservation" we talked about a month or so ago. But for him to be labeled as a bully? That is just inaccurate. The administrator says "Well, most bullies are kids that have been bullied themselves." Yes, I am aware of that. But saying that makes me look like I am one of those clueless moms who can't believe anything bad about her child. I am not clueless, and DS is NOT a bully!
Today there was some big flap because Kid A took something that belonged to Kid B, so someone else got something that belonged to Kid A and wouldn't give it back, and they all went round and round. And in the end of course DS is one of the ones who gets called into the office by the resource officer. DS's mistake was being involved in the first place. He got Kid A's item and returned it to him, but he didn't get credit for that, he got in trouble for being part of it to begin with.
There is one kid who is definitely a troublemaker, and I have told DS to stay away from him. I have also told him the silly behavior HAS TO stop. So we'll see. I don't know if he CAN stop, because I don't know if he has the ability to recognize that silly behavior is starting and stop it before it gets out of hand.
The administrator is just concerned that eventually somebody is going to go too far and a fight is going to break out. DS said all of the boys have been approached about being silly and too much horseplay, yet they continue to do it. The administrator did tell DS he can ask for a library pass and go read in the library if he wants to get away from the situation, but he likes to spend lunch with his friends. I don't know what to do.
