Daughter not excited

[Nomad70]

You know, I love how judgmental all you parents are being, calling a child a spoiled brat when you do not know said child is kind of harsh. Every child has their moments, and any parent who says their child would never do that is most likely lying. The OP wanted advice on what to do, she didn't want people to insult her child. Maybe her child is acting spoiled but she being spoiled and a brat is not who she is.

I am getting the feeling from all these posts that everyone here thinks children should be seen, not heard.

agreed!

 

[shannonstar]

I want an Oompa-loompa now.

My thoughts exactly.

I would cancel the trip. Save the money for one of three things:

Boarding School
An adult vacation with no kids
Therapy

 

[poorunfortunatesouls]

It's funny how those are judgeing this child by "one moment in time" of her life that she is a brat or spoiled. This is one question/opinion out of how many a day? a week? a month? etc.....

I was alway taught you should never judge someone by a moment/slice of their life you witness,(hear about) otherwise I would say WDW is full of spoiled brats and plain down right horrible parents. ARE ANY OF THESE YOU I COULD HAVE SEEN...to those judgeing this girl. I don't judge the child having a fit over a toy at the Emporiuim as a brat? Or the parent yelling at their kid to sit still on the curb and watch he parade because I spent XXXX of dollars for you to see this darn thing.

She IS 8 years old. 2 years ago she was in kindergarden...LOL.

I cannot offer a way for the OP to "fix" her wanting to do a cruise over WDW, BUT really give the kid a break she's 8.

 

[Brittmarie04]

My thoughts exactly.

I would cancel the trip. Save the money for one of three things:

Boarding School
An adult vacation with no kids
Therapy

Haha some people crack me up. This isn't even worth my time replying to.

 

[kaligal]

Haha some people crack me up. This isn't even worth my time replying to.

Yet you did.

You simply need to decide who is in charge of your family and then do what that person wants.

You're spending too much time on this.

1. Who is in charge?
2. What do they want?

Done.

 

[mom2rtk]

OP, what you describe may not mean you have a spoiled brat on your hands. It is just once incident and kids are very fickle.

BUT........ I do think this is life giving you a little whisper in the ear......... saying that your daughter might not be appreciating the great things that you are providing for her in life. Let it continue, and you will indeed have a spoiled little Veruca Salt on your hands. And it won't be her fault.

Life is saying "nip this in the bud". Find a way to put this all in perspective for her so she can learn the value of what you have been providing.

Or brace yourself. The teen years won't be pretty.

 

[tony609]

Have any of you with kids ever had them want one thing and you another???

Have you ever been cooking dinner for you and your spouse and you have to make something different for your little snowflakes????

Have you ever had them tell you they didn't want to wear something you wanted them to and they DIDN'T wear it.

Your child has NEVER said they would rather do one thing over another? Lets say your at Disney you want to ride xyz, they want to go on pdq next...do you cave and go on PDQ?????

Have your little snowflakes ever asked for a 'somethig' and you said no and they continued to push til you caved..even if over a period of time, no matter how big or small the item was..gum? a toy? a shirt? pair of jeans? a movie?

Have you as parents ever told you kids NO to anything and they continually asked and you eventually caved??

Have you ever asked your kid to wash out their dishes and they just left themin the sink??

If you could answer YES to one of these then you better watch out you may have a spoiled brat on your hands. According to some on here.

If you answer no then well.......your probably lying to yourself.

My point is the OP didn't say what she was going to do?? She didn't say her daughter was snarky and pouted and stopped her leg Veruca Salt style. Her daughter said she would rather do one thing over the other? PERIOD!

BTW I met the REAL Veruca Salt, the actress Julie Dawn Cole last year along with a few others from Willy Wonka (the original) and shes as sweet as can be.

Ok BASH away DIS style............

 

[chigirl]

Be careful giving her everything and letting her decide major things for your family...once you say YES to everything, your child will never know how to say no. I had 2 relatives, a sister and my husband's brother, both get kids with major problems because of that. Both had drug problems in their teens...and these were church-going/well-off/strict discipline families, but both gave their kids EVERYTHING, including major say in the way their families functioned, so these girls just never said no to anything, including drugs...not implying that such a thing will happen to your child, but be careful. A vacation should be an entire family choice....oh, I sound preachy here, really, I could care less how people raise their children, I am just bored right now!

 

[gtpoohbear]

Have any of you with kids ever had them want one thing and you another???

Have you ever been cooking dinner for you and your spouse and you have to make something different for your little snowflakes????

Have you ever had them tell you they didn't want to wear something you wanted them to and they DIDN'T wear it.

Your child has NEVER said they would rather do one thing over another? Lets say your at Disney you want to ride xyz, they want to go on pdq next...do you cave and go on PDQ?????

Have your little snowflakes ever asked for a 'somethig' and you said no and they continued to push til you caved..even if over a period of time, no matter how big or small the item was..gum? a toy? a shirt? pair of jeans? a movie?

Have you as parents ever told you kids NO to anything and they continually asked and you eventually caved??

Have you ever asked your kid to wash out their dishes and they just left themin the sink??

If you could answer YES to one of these then you better watch out you may have a spoiled brat on your hands. According to some on here.

If you answer no then well.......your probably lying to yourself.

My point is the OP didn't say what she was going to do?? She didn't say her daughter was snarky and pouted and stopped her leg Veruca Salt style. Her daughter said she would rather do one thing over the other? PERIOD!

BTW I met the REAL Veruca Salt, the actress Julie Dawn Cole last year along with a few others from Willy Wonka (the original) and shes as sweet as can be.

Ok BASH away DIS style............

EXACTLY!!! She just expressed an opinion, since when is that a punishable offense??? I would rather my kids be honest and tell me what they are thinking than to feign excitement just to make me happy.

It doesn't mean they are spoiled or ungrateful, they just have an opinion, plain and simple! And kids change their mind all the time, it's just part of growing up. As parents we have to help them work through these things, and balance reality with our desire to give them a great childhood, but that doesn't mean they are spoiled. It just means they are a kid.

Heck, I've seen plenty of adults act much more immaturely when they didn't get exactly what they wanted. And I have a very hard time believing that are many, if any at all, parents here that have actually raised a child who NEVER said something with a less-than-perfect attitude. No child is ever perfect ALL the time.

 

[shannonstar]

OP, what you describe may not mean you have a spoiled brat on your hands. It is just once incident and kids are very fickle.

BUT........ I do think this is life giving you a little whisper in the ear......... saying that your daughter might not be appreciating the great things that you are providing for her in life. Let it continue, and you will indeed have a spoiled little Veruca Salt on your hands. And it won't be her fault.

Life is saying "nip this in the bud". Find a way to put this all in perspective for her so she can learn the value of what you have been providing.

Or brace yourself. The teen years won't be pretty.

This is probably what I should have said. Sorry.

Another possibility is to look into a trip that will allow you guys to do something fun while making a difference for others. Maybe a mission trip or some sort?

 

[Dorisk3]

Have any of you with kids ever had them want one thing and you another???

Have you ever been cooking dinner for you and your spouse and you have to make something different for your little snowflakes????

Have you ever had them tell you they didn't want to wear something you wanted them to and they DIDN'T wear it.

Your child has NEVER said they would rather do one thing over another? Lets say your at Disney you want to ride xyz, they want to go on pdq next...do you cave and go on PDQ?????

Have your little snowflakes ever asked for a 'somethig' and you said no and they continued to push til you caved..even if over a period of time, no matter how big or small the item was..gum? a toy? a shirt? pair of jeans? a movie?

Have you as parents ever told you kids NO to anything and they continually asked and you eventually caved??

Have you ever asked your kid to wash out their dishes and they just left themin the sink??

If you could answer YES to one of these then you better watch out you may have a spoiled brat on your hands. According to some on here.

If you answer no then well.......your probably lying to yourself.

My point is the OP didn't say what she was going to do?? She didn't say her daughter was snarky and pouted and stopped her leg Veruca Salt style. Her daughter said she would rather do one thing over the other? PERIOD!

BTW I met the REAL Veruca Salt, the actress Julie Dawn Cole last year along with a few others from Willy Wonka (the original) and shes as sweet as can be.

Ok BASH away DIS style............

THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!! If the situation had been, I wanted to go to the beach and my kid wanted to go to Disney,no one would use the brat comments and everyone would be on the kids side.

 

[Murron]

My son cannot stand Disney. He's an adult now, but has been that way since 12. It was not a passing thing -- he simply did not enjoy it they way the rest of the family did. So, he either stayed with his cousins (which he enjoyed) or went off to skateboard camp (which he loved). We did other family vacations to have that together time, but he just chose to skip the Disney one. I'm ok with that. Good grief...can you imagine if I were forced to go to skateboard camp???

 

[staceymarie]

It's funny how those are judgeing this child by "one moment in time" of her life that she is a brat or spoiled. This is one question/opinion out of how many a day? a week? a month? etc.....

I was alway taught you should never judge someone by a moment/slice of their life you witness,(hear about) otherwise I would say WDW is full of spoiled brats and plain down right horrible parents. ARE ANY OF THESE YOU I COULD HAVE SEEN...to those judgeing this girl. I don't judge the child having a fit over a toy at the Emporiuim as a brat? Or the parent yelling at their kid to sit still on the curb and watch he parade because I spent XXXX of dollars for you to see this darn thing.

She IS 8 years old. 2 years ago she was in kindergarden...LOL.

I cannot offer a way for the OP to "fix" her wanting to do a cruise over WDW, BUT really give the kid a break she's 8.

Yeah! +1! This thread has gotten ridiculous. Wow.
And, OMG--Boarding school, therapy?
Cannot believe some of these responses.

 

[mom2rtk]

Good grief...can you imagine if I were forced to go to skateboard camp???

LOL! and YIKES! I guess that's the beauty of being adult and having a lot of life responsibility. You can ALSO just say no to skateboard camp!

 

[Phatoomch]

Have any of you with kids ever had them want one thing and you another???

Absolutely, many a time.

The point is though, the OP is obviously bothered enough to post on a forum thats shes not sure whether to book or not, which says to me she is not in control. If you read my posts, I haven't bashed her at all, merely offered mother-to-mother advice. I would certainly ask my daughter where she would like to go, but I would not allow her to pick a vacation - there is a difference

 

[Sunnywho]

Yes maybe my original post didn't come across so well. But yes I do let her pick a vacation. She has a opinion and a say in a lot of stuff we do. And she does pick 1 vacation we go on and if we can afford it and it's a reasonable place than that's where we go.

You could remind her that she could pick a disney cruise next year.
Or if it truly is her pick for Disney world you could cancel it if there's no charge. Probably you are excited for the trip? Then maybe it is your pick now and she can get a different pick for the next trip.
I would not want to be tied to the whims of a child AFTER having booked a trip she chose. Before hand, maybe, if that's how you've set it up and you're ok with it.
I was disappointed because I asked my daughter what restaurant she wanted to eat at on on her 10th birthday at Disney, and her answer was not Garden Grill or Le Cellier which was what I wanted! And now we will be eating at San Angel which was her pick. So I understand giving the child some say but it's up to the parent to decide how large that say is and if it extends even to after a trip has been booked.

 

[Brittmarie04]

Yeah! +1! This thread has gotten ridiculous. Wow.
And, OMG--Boarding school, therapy?
Cannot believe some of these responses.

Right? These people are insane. I should just delete the post but now I'm just getting a good laugh. Thanks to everyone who has given serious responses and not ones that made them look like a idiot.

 

[Brittmarie04]

Have any of you with kids ever had them want one thing and you another???

Have you ever been cooking dinner for you and your spouse and you have to make something different for your little snowflakes????

Have you ever had them tell you they didn't want to wear something you wanted them to and they DIDN'T wear it.

Your child has NEVER said they would rather do one thing over another? Lets say your at Disney you want to ride xyz, they want to go on pdq next...do you cave and go on PDQ?????

Have your little snowflakes ever asked for a 'somethig' and you said no and they continued to push til you caved..even if over a period of time, no matter how big or small the item was..gum? a toy? a shirt? pair of jeans? a movie?

Have you as parents ever told you kids NO to anything and they continually asked and you eventually caved??

Have you ever asked your kid to wash out their dishes and they just left themin the sink??

If you could answer YES to one of these then you better watch out you may have a spoiled brat on your hands. According to some on here.

If you answer no then well.......your probably lying to yourself.

My point is the OP didn't say what she was going to do?? She didn't say her daughter was snarky and pouted and stopped her leg Veruca Salt style. Her daughter said she would rather do one thing over the other? PERIOD!

BTW I met the REAL Veruca Salt, the actress Julie Dawn Cole last year along with a few others from Willy Wonka (the original) and shes as sweet as can be.

Ok BASH away DIS style............

Couldn't have said it better myself. Agree 100 percent. Thank you Tony609

 

[kaligal]

Right? These people are insane. I should just delete the post but now I'm just getting a good laugh. Thanks to everyone who has given serious responses and not ones that made them look like a idiot.

Angie.

 

[Brittmarie04]

Absolutely, many a time.

The point is though, the OP is obviously bothered enough to post on a forum thats shes not sure whether to book or not, which says to me she is not in control. If you read my posts, I haven't bashed her at all, merely offered mother-to-mother advice. I would certainly ask my daughter where she would like to go, but I would not allow her to pick a vacation - there is a difference

I am absolutely in control, but I was asking for advice. Not asking for people to say she's a spoiled brat because she voiced her opinion and want. Maybe people on here don't let their children have a voice or opinion in things. But at my house we do. Not saying u bashed me. But most have. For the people who are saying crazy things like boarding school blah blah. I feel bad for your kids.