. He's so active now, it's hard to imagine him being *more* social in an assisted living community. He's still driving, grocery shops, cooks for himself, golfs...etc. He just got over a bout with Covid...spent five days at home and then back to his bowling league championship game...lol!
I am around that age range and I only know 1 person who has kids. Everyone else is either waiting and/or focusing on their career or they don't want kids at all.
Lol my FIL was driving up until last year when he fell asleep and rolled through a fence. A few months before he passed he lead an exercise class at his community center, and ran community events, and just received an award from the Lions club.Your FIL sounds like mine
I can think of a few exceptions. But they all have some things in common. Usually they have some important social support circles or activities with purpose outside of the marriage and work. They also tend to have been in therapy and/or on some significant spiritual journeys of transformation. They’ve also had some time living alone and taking care of themselves, either earlier in life or during a separation preceding the divorce, and maybe both.
Interesting. If you’re in your late 20’s then you’re about 10 years older than my college students. Most of them don’t want kids either, for a variety of reasons. And it’s not “I’ll think about it” it’s a hard pass.
I'm in the hard pass camp too. My parents will enjoy Dr. Pepper as their grand puppy
My maternal grandmother was widowed at about 60, never had any interest in finding another man.I've seen several stats about remarriage after widowhood. Apparently very happily-married men look for another spouse quickly, wanting to maintain that aspect of their lives. Happily-married women? Not near so much...
My mom was widowed at age 44. I was 9. I only remember her going on one date. Years later she said my dad was the only man for her and that it seemed like every man her age was looking for a nurse for a maid! She did an amazing job taking care of my dad in his cancer battle that lasted 2 years, and raising me. I can see where she might want to have all her time to herself. She wanted the freedom to do what she wanted, when she wanted, so much show that she didn't get another pet after her dog died when she was 60.
Incredible. My FIL has definitely aged....he does that old man kind of shuffle now. He finally gave in and moved up to a certain color on the golf tee after his 80-something year old buddies told him it was ok.....though he won't go to the next tee because that's where the ladies hit from
. . If any 92 year old can find a lady, he can.
I think if my FIL wasn’t married, he would’ve been snatched up in a heartbeat! Everyone loved him. In his 80’s he had to get his second hip replacement and had to give up reffing sports, which he did his entire life. Someone my age told the story that they were about to argue with him, but then realized who they were arguing with, and if course they they were wrong, because there wasn’t a more honest and trustworthy ref than my FIL (baseball, softball, soccer), and he also golfed. His parents came to the US from Italy as young adults, but he was born here. What woman doesn’t love a nice Italian man!Incredible. My FIL has definitely aged....he does that old man kind of shuffle now. He finally gave in and moved up to a certain color on the golf tee after his 80-something year old buddies told him it was ok.....though he won't go to the next tee because that's where the ladies hit from
I don't know what will happen with him and his dating quest though. We think he may have "missed his window". We've had other older male relatives lose their spouse, but in their 70s. They were snatched up very quickly in their communities. We always expected the same with my FIL. He's a handsome little Italian guy who drives and cooks! But...he's 92, and I fear other candidates might fear that they may end up caring for him in some way. So, I guess we'll see what happens. I'll never count him out though.....he was a salesman, and can talk the balls down off of a pool table
. My FIL's parents also came here from Italy, but separately and then met here. My husband's grandfather was actually born in 1873! He emigrated here from Sicily in 1910 at age 37 with his brother, who was 35. They met and married sisters....who were 19 and 20....lol! And they both went on to have many children. My FIL was the last of five children and was born when his father was 59! My husband is the youngest of all the grandchildren, born in 1969. He never met his paternal grandfather....he passed just two years before he was born...in 1967. He smoked cigars and made wine in the basement of the building where they had an apartment....and still lived to 94. I can see my FIL going for several more years at least. .
Not weird to me. My mom had her first at age 28 in 1949. The men were off fighting the war. I had my first at age 28 in 1990, and I was the first of my friend group to have a child. DD had her first at age 31. Women are going to college and establishing careers before kids. My other 2 kids (31 and 28) are unmarried and not settled, and that’s OK.
I was only a rule breaker when it came to someone I completely felt no rules applied. Know anybody like that Lord M?
LOVE this...thanks for the smile this morning. 
