Good Morning Ladies....Proctor Mom(PM) vs. Natural Mom (2Goofy) update....
Papers were filed yesterday. Attorney noticed one additional "technicality" mistake that PM's attorney forgot to do...In Oregon if a child is over the age of 14 and a party to a custody dispute, the child must also be served papers. Tyler was never served by PM!

One more reason to throw it out! Doesn't matter that he can't read or understand them, no provision in the law for that. Oh and 2Goofy's attorney is serving everyone he can think of, especially my nephew in the military. That will help preserve his right to see his brother and allow the military attorneys to get more involved.
But, they will not know until the first of the week when the hearing to throw it out will be, hopefully soon. We are keeping our fingers crossed.
2Goofy got a call from the State caseworker from Salem. She once again was very apologetic and said please subpeona the State if you need to. We have lots of paperwork and never once over the last 8 years has she mentioned this "abuse/neglect". Right in the State's contract with everyone is the mention that the end goal is to return the child to the natural parent's home, that the placement is only because he can get more special services that way. Also, in 18 years that the Dept. of Disabilities has run this Proctor Program they have never had a proctor family try something like this. So, they are re-writing all of their contracts between state, natural parents & proctor families to include a new clause that proctor families will agree not to seek custody. They will also be asking the legislature in the fall to pass a new law regarding this program...no proctor parent will be able to seek custody of a child, they would have to work thru the state to determine abuse/neglect allegations against natural parents, then state would seek custody. Also the caseworker was very pleased with her choice of attorney's. Apparently the one that the county caseworker recommended is very good and is considered the top attorney in the state for mentally disabled people.
Anyway, yesterday PM got served (thru her attorney) and they are supposed to have a special process server to go to the home and serve papers to Tyler. He is a small elderly man that they often use for children, very nice, good with children and disabled people and doesn't scare them.
2Goofy made her nightly 6pm call, left messages asking to speak with Tyler and also to have visit. This time PM didn't return the call at all. Obviously she is shocked that 2Goofy filed papers against her (go figure!). Amazingly the papers say nothing bad at all about PM, only good things about my sister and that PM's paperwork is filed improperly. So there would be no reason for PM to be personally mad because 2Goofy said nothing bad about PM. But still no call. PM is digging her own grave deeper and deeper!
I'm trying to keep 2Goofy busy since we are now in the sit and wait phase. Last night we took her to the motocross races with us. It was their 42nd anniversary race at PIR, so lots of festivities. We left around 11pm and the races were only a little over halfway over!
So I get a brilliant idea!

Why not take her somewhere for the weekend?? So I'm thinking about maybe going up to my in-laws on the coast. Only problem is I'm worried that walks on the beach and docks, etc. will give her too much time for thinking. Not only that I have a hair appt. at 9am on Sat. morning. So that's a long drive just for 1 day.
Now I really don't need to be neglecting my home anymore. We were gone 4th of July weekend. Then last weekend 2Goofy arrived and we went shopping Sat. and then all of the crazy mess happened Sun. My house will now have gone 3 weeks with minimal cleaning. Yes I know that family is more important, but my house is starting to gross me out. DS has had the same sheets on his bed for 2 weeks, dust is growing thicker by the day, laundry is getting piled up. I just can't live like that!!

It's not gross dirty, we are doing dishes and other things. It's just not quite up to my standards I guess. So I really should stay home. Hey, maybe I can hand her a dust rag and that will keep her busy all weekend!
