cancelled trip report - I may never feel like I can go again

Sending you strength and hugs. The rough patches in life suck but those are also the times we learn how strong we are. Hope you find your inner badass and turn this next chapter of your life into what makes you happy.

My favorite mantra for when a wrench gets thrown into my engine of life:

Living well is always the best revenge. It might take some time but happiness can arise again.
 
Sending lots of well wishes for you. :flower3:
Take time to grieve this loss, but then just keep moving forward, one day at a time, one foot in front of the other!
Don’t let him take WDW from you! Someday, go plan to go back. :goodvibes
 
Personally, I don't think he deserves a happy place like WDW, and I wouldn't let him take it away from you. Time will take away the sting. And then you can take back your time at Disney. Do the things you want to do, when you want to do them. Make your own new memories.

Take care of yourself right now. And certainly take back your power... you get to be OK, and in control of you.
 
Personally, I don't think he deserves a happy place like WDW, and I wouldn't let him take it away from you. Time will take away the sting. And then you can take back your time at Disney. Do the things you want to do, when you want to do them. Make your own new memories.

Take care of yourself right now. And certainly take back your power... you get to be OK, and in control of you.
Thank you for your kind words. "make your own new memories" - I have read/heard that from several people, saying that it will help in the days to come. I'm finding small ways to take back my power, and writing them down when I do - to remind me on the days I need it.
 

Sending lots of well wishes for you. :flower3:
Take time to grieve this loss, but then just keep moving forward, one day at a time, one foot in front of the other!
Don’t let him take WDW from you! Someday, go plan to go back. :goodvibes
I am definitely grieving. I have never felt this before - it's like someone died. I will go back, but I just have to figure what that will look like so it won't be too painful.
 
Sending you strength and hugs. The rough patches in life suck but those are also the times we learn how strong we are. Hope you find your inner badass and turn this next chapter of your life into what makes you happy.

My favorite mantra for when a wrench gets thrown into my engine of life:

Living well is always the best revenge. It might take some time but happiness can arise again.
Oh, do I need the strength. (and the hugs - luckily my kids have lots of them) "Strong" - that's what people keep telling me that I am. I just don't feel that way right now. I feel sad.
I like what you said about "living well". But part of me wants him to know how sad I am, even if he doesn't love me.
 
Twenty Five years (almost?), 15 years? What's with some of these stupid people? Things will get better, but the process will take time.
:grouphug:
 
I'm so sorry. I've been in that position. It is not easy, and it's not fun. I had to look at it like I was building an entirely new life from scratch. What parts of the old do I want to keep? What do I want to throw away? What new things do I want to add?

Going places I'd gone with my exhusband was hard, but it ended up being really good. I'm glad I didn't let him steal my entire past from me.

I wish you the ability to sleep well, to cry when you need to, and to be able to stop crying and get stuff done when you need to. I hope you have a great lawyer, friends who support you (and dump him), and family who are there for you. Most of all, I hope you find joy again. You deserve fun and happiness. You did not deserve what happened to you. Best wishes and good luck from all of us!
 
Oh, do I need the strength. (and the hugs - luckily my kids have lots of them) "Strong" - that's what people keep telling me that I am. I just don't feel that way right now. I feel sad.
I like what you said about "living well". But part of me wants him to know how sad I am, even if he doesn't love me.
Lions don’t concern themselves with the opinion of sheep.
 
Even worse, he probably doesn't care if you're sad. So, if you don't have to waste the energy on it, all the better for you. :hug: You can get through this.
You're right, and I saw it in his eyes last time I talked to him. So cold...
 
I'm so sorry. I've been in that position. It is not easy, and it's not fun. I had to look at it like I was building an entirely new life from scratch. What parts of the old do I want to keep? What do I want to throw away? What new things do I want to add?

Going places I'd gone with my exhusband was hard, but it ended up being really good. I'm glad I didn't let him steal my entire past from me.

I wish you the ability to sleep well, to cry when you need to, and to be able to stop crying and get stuff done when you need to. I hope you have a great lawyer, friends who support you (and dump him), and family who are there for you. Most of all, I hope you find joy again. You deserve fun and happiness. You did not deserve what happened to you. Best wishes and good luck from all of us!
Oh my goodness. Your words really touched me. You're right, I don't deserve all of this and neither do my kids. I am going to have to rebuild from scratch - I can't trust that he will contribute financially with the situation he has chosen to go live in. So I am going to have to break my lease and move in with my mom. (can't afford this place on my own) Good Lord. 55 years old and living with my mom. But, it'll give me a chance to feel safe and save up a lot of money.
 
You need to see a lawyer and sue for alimony. I don't know your state but when my daughter's husband wanted a divorce he found out he had to pay alimony since they had been married over 20 years. I know you can see a lawyer for no charge and see what they recommend.
 












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