Broken Promise

[WowLookAtThat]

Even though I feel bad that you were promised something and didn't receive it...this kind of situation wouldn't be a big deal. I don't get the whole month anniversary thing.

 

[Uncle Remus]

Let's get to the important stuff, did he bring home any fish, what kind?

 

[Swan4Me]

As late as 3 weeks before I got married, I was living on $20/week: $10 for gas and $10 for groceries, which was oatmeal and milk for breakfast, bread and tuna for lunch and pasta and Ragu sauce for dinner.

In fact, I didn't even have that much. My fiance had to loan it to me.

So I could focus on studying for the bar exam.

She thinks her investment was worth it.

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So you stay at Shades of Green a lot-are you a Military Attorney?

To th OP-why such a long engagement? This is something I simply don't "get"- when DH and I decided to marry=we did -4 months later.

 

[WowLookAtThat]

Let's get to the important stuff, did he bring home any fish, what kind?

Another important question...did he expect you to clean it?

 

[amg35]

So you stay at Shades of Green a lot-are you a Military Attorney?

To th OP-why such a long engagement? This is something I simply don't "get"- when DH and I decided to marry=we did -4 months later.

Everyone I know who has gotten married had an engagement of around a year or so. It's pretty common. You've never known anyone who had a year (or longer) long engagement?

 

[JaneBanks]

If that makes you feel better sweetie, fine.

Just think it over before the deal is done. A milkyway bar from 7Eleven isn't a night out at the movies, kwim? He knew what he'd promised BEFORE he left on his trip. It just didn't pan out as important as that trip with the boys.

wow

 

[JaneBanks]

So you stay at Shades of Green a lot-are you a Military Attorney?

To th OP-why such a long engagement? This is something I simply don't "get"- when DH and I decided to marry=we did -4 months later.

I was engaged for almost a year and half. I don't see it as something someone has to "get".

 

[C.Ann]

wow

I'll second that.. All of a sudden the guy is totally unworthy because he didn't have the money for a movie?

How about the part where he is living at home - taking care of his mother while she's battling cancer? Can he at least get a few points for that?

 

[Liberty Belle]

Oh, now this is just priceless.

More like tasteless.

 

[Praying Colonel]

I'll second that.. All of a sudden the guy is totally unworthy because he didn't have the money for a movie?

How about the part where he is living at home - taking care of his mother while she's battling cancer? Can he at least get a few points for that?

Crazy talk! Off with his head!

 

[WowLookAtThat]

I'll second that.. All of a sudden the guy is totally unworthy because he didn't have the money for a movie?

How about the part where he is living at home - taking care of his mother while she's battling cancer? Can he at least get a few points for that?

That was the impression I go. It wasn't like the guy is mooching off his mom, spending loads of cash and being a jerk to his fiance. He is helping his mother and money is tight. It is likely that this fishing trip was something that would blow off some steam because he probably is stressed. The last thing on his mind wouldn't be taking his fiance out to a movie for a 9-month anniversary.

 

[Praying Colonel]

So you stay at Shades of Green a lot-are you a Military Attorney?

To th OP-why such a long engagement? This is something I simply don't "get"- when DH and I decided to marry=we did -4 months later.

More like an attorney for the military--a distinction with a slight difference.

 

[LuvsDragonflies]

Did I say something untrue? His taking care of his mother negates any promises he makes to her? Better know that upfront or you are going to be disappointed,
alot.

The point is, if SHE didn't think it was a big deal, she wouldn't have posted it. It DID mean a lot to her. He didn't seem to think so, or he would have made sure it happened, he didn't.

Sorry for pointing out the facts here, but it's true. Either she needs to learn to suck it up and not be bothered by it, or she needs to decide if the man coming thru when he promises something is important. Regardless of any excuses he can come up with. The one he came up with this time was that he was fishing with the guys, mom didn't even come up did she?

I didn't notice a request for only rainbows and butterflies posts. My bad.

 

[CurlyGirl]

To th OP-why such a long engagement? This is something I simply don't "get"- when DH and I decided to marry=we did -4 months later.

A year and a few months is a long engagement? Seriously? Talk to women who've been engaged for years!!! Some reception venues are booked over a year in advance! Some people need a year to get things ready and planned. Great that you could throw a wedding together in 4 months. Not everyone can (or wants) to do that!

 

[The_Alice]

I understand you are upset OP, but you have to realize something in the grand scheme of things this is a non-starter. Today is my 9 YEAR anniversary, we simply looked at each other and said "Hey, I love you Happy Anniversary!" No cards or overtures needed.

I know you have probably heard this, but once you start clocking years together and the focus is more on your kids birthdays than your own the monthly thing becomes less of an importance. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband and we take a lot of time for each other, but we place less importance on the date of our wedding and more on the life of our marriage as a whole.

I guess I don't see this as a "Broken Promise" more like a small blip. If neither of you can afford it anyway, then do something else together, or like most wives put it away and realize overall you probably have a good man who just got wrapped up in something else momentarily. It happens.

ETA: And for those harping about the fact that he can't afford to take her to a movie, it looks by her ticker that they are also putting away for a big wedding, plus getting ready to start a life together. I can also remember times where we didn't have much, but we had each other and guess what, we got by. You know that whole for better or worse thing.

 

[CurlyGirl]

It DID mean a lot to her. He didn't seem to think so, or he would have made sure it happened, he didn't.

It seems like he didn't know or realize just how much it meant to her. My guess is that he didn't even realize it was their 9 month anniversary.

 

[Liberty Belle]

A year and a few months is a long engagement? Seriously? Talk to women who've been engaged for years!!! Some reception venues are booked over a year in advance! Some people need a year to get things ready and planned. Great that you could throw a wedding together in 4 months. Not everyone can (or wants) to do that!

And not everyone can (or wants to) have a wedding. If you're curious how people with no money get married, they tend to go to a JOP. Still married just as much as someone who had a big wedding.

 

[LuvsDragonflies]

It seems like he didn't know or realize just how much it meant to her. My guess is that he didn't even realize it was their 9 month anniversary.

I thought he promised to take her to the movies on their 9 month anniversary? Did I miss something? Was that not specified?

I need a nap.

 

[Praying Colonel]

Not worth the points.

 

[CurlyGirl]

Tomorrow is mine and my Fiancee's 9 month Anniverseary he told me a couple of weeks ago that he was gonna take me to see Lion King in 3D 2day to celebrate. So a couple of days ago while I was working sent me a text saying that he didnt have enough money to take me to see Lion King. The only reason he didnt have enough money is because he has been fishing the whole week with one of his buddies. Im very upset because he promised me we were gonna go see it 2day.

I thought he promised to take her to the movies on their 9 month anniversary? Did I miss something? Was that not specified?

I need a nap.

I guess he did promise it to celebrate the anniversary with the movie! Sorry about that! Looks like I'm the one that needs the nap!