My daughter was asked to be a maid of honor in her college roomates wedding.
The background: They were originally paired with other girls but switched with everyones approval during the first month of school. They lived together on campus for the first year and in an off campus apartment for the next 2 and a half years (my daughter graduated a semester early).
After graduation my daughter stayed on the east coast while her roomate moved to L.A. to be with a man she met in NY. My daughter was very happy and excited when she was told they were engaged. Emails and phone calls were made planning the east coast wedding.
She bought the bride's maid dress ($250 without a fitting) and attended a "spa-weekend" for the bridal party at a NJ shore spa for $400. She also bought a gift, totallying I don't know, she won't tell me.
The point: the bride emails her to say the rehearsal dinner is on the Thursday before a Saturday evening formal wedding. This is only one month before the wedding. My DD has already reserved a hotel room at the special "wedding" rate of $149 + tax for the wedding night. Now she is expectected to pay for two more nights...
She works 60 hours a week (restaurant manager) and it was a stretch to get off on a weekend to begin with. She was worried about getting off from work and the money for the hotel and I told her to just be honest...tell the truth. You can't afford to lose your job over it and you can't afford the hotel bill.
Phone calls and email were exchanged...then my daughter was dumped from the wedding party. Because she couldn't afford to attend the rehearsal dinner that was held 2 nights before the wedding.
She seems to be holding up well. but I am angry. What do you think?
The background: They were originally paired with other girls but switched with everyones approval during the first month of school. They lived together on campus for the first year and in an off campus apartment for the next 2 and a half years (my daughter graduated a semester early).
After graduation my daughter stayed on the east coast while her roomate moved to L.A. to be with a man she met in NY. My daughter was very happy and excited when she was told they were engaged. Emails and phone calls were made planning the east coast wedding.
She bought the bride's maid dress ($250 without a fitting) and attended a "spa-weekend" for the bridal party at a NJ shore spa for $400. She also bought a gift, totallying I don't know, she won't tell me.
The point: the bride emails her to say the rehearsal dinner is on the Thursday before a Saturday evening formal wedding. This is only one month before the wedding. My DD has already reserved a hotel room at the special "wedding" rate of $149 + tax for the wedding night. Now she is expectected to pay for two more nights...
She works 60 hours a week (restaurant manager) and it was a stretch to get off on a weekend to begin with. She was worried about getting off from work and the money for the hotel and I told her to just be honest...tell the truth. You can't afford to lose your job over it and you can't afford the hotel bill.
Phone calls and email were exchanged...then my daughter was dumped from the wedding party. Because she couldn't afford to attend the rehearsal dinner that was held 2 nights before the wedding.
She seems to be holding up well. but I am angry. What do you think?