NikitaZee
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But in that situation you are judging your child's actions as bad because as their parent you have the authority over them to do so. At the same time you are scolding them for doing whatever action that is and hoping to correct the action so it doesn't happen again.
In this situation neither celebrating not not celebrating is wrong therefore why would you scold the action? It would be like your child choosing to put their coat on by zipping it first and then pulling it over their head instead of putting it on and then zipping it. Sure, it might not be the way you do it but it isn't wrong, just different, and therefore needs no scolding what so ever.
Disagreeing with how someone celebrated is not the same as calling either the celebration or the person doing the celebrating disgusting. That is a judgment and no matter how much anyone says they are judging the action and not the person that isn't completely true. One's actions can't really be judged without it at least partially reflecting the person doing that action. Even in your example your child was being bad or at least misbehaving while they were performing the action you deemed bad.
I see what you are saying, but I still seperate action from person in this case. As far as judging - you bet - we all do it, every day. I really believe the OP was judging the scenes she saw, without saying each person involved was disgusting.







