So, you should think about HOW his autism affects his ability to wait in lines or in confined spaces in line
Yes.
Because that's what they need to know. They don't need to know why; they need to know how.
See how your son does and go from there. You will find out very quickly whether you need a
DAS or not
I agree.
Lately he has been mad every time I strap him into his car seat...which is what we'll do on the airplane so that stresses me out.
Since he'll be almost 4, and if he hates the carseat, is it possible he would do fine with just the lap belt? He'll be too old for you to hold him (that ends once they turn 2), so he has to be strapped into the seat somehow, but the lap belt maybe could do just fine for him.
Get the das first thing. Our PT told us to on our first trip. She said things will be ruined for the whole trip (her kid has autism) and build up if we don't try to prevent overstimulation and flight/fight mode.
But if they don't know HOW he will be affected, they can't tell the CMs what accommodations they need.
If your son is like mine was at the preschool age he may do better if he can stay in a bubble of space and block out the world while waiting in line. We got a tag for the stroller that allowed us to use our stroller in lines that were big enough to get through.
Such a great idea for some kids.
Since you're a new autism parent I wanted to share that since going gluten free casein free my child's sensorybissues have decreased a lot. I heard about it on a FASD board. But it's only been studied in kids with autism.
I don't think it's true that it's only been studied in autism.
9 years ago when I finally realized that my son's problems were being caused by corn syrup, HFCS, and corn syrup solids (and colors...but once you go corn syrup free you rarely run into colors), I did lots of reading. The description of the OP of the tantrum sounded a LOT like my son when under the influence of those things until we realized it when he was 3. Once we got rid of those things, he was a new kid. (if I had taken him somewhere when he was having the reaction I can easily imagine a diagnosis of...and suddenly I can't remember the name of it...the one with HUGE anger and violence. Not autism, though he would run in circles...I think it was honesty to run off the high blood sugar...that was SUPER fun at
Disneyland after he had some dole whip (which does NOT have corn syrup solids in it anymore, but I can't remember if it still has casein).
ANYWAY...even 9 years ago plenty of people knew that dairy and gluten can cause those symptoms! And it wasn't autistic kids whose parents I was talking to, but kids with other issues. It's WELL worth trying.
And when I talk about the corn syrup stuff now (he's 12 and doesn't *want* that feeling, and hasn't wanted it since he was 3 and realized the peace he had without it) with people, they talk about Feingold and FODMAP diets as being similar and VERY helpful. Even for autistic kids.
I don't think he'd tolerate it in line. At 17 months, he was still unsteady on his feet at Disneyland so he had to be in the stroller most of the time. He got REALLY sick of it.
Ergo or Beco, back-carry. If he's little enough to still be rear-facing in the car (he will NOT be rear facing on the place FYI), he's little enough to back-carry!
Evn if he might not understand now, going through simple social stories like Aladora mentioned above will help him learn to understand.
So true. You don't want to try it until he understands. Rather, it is what helps him understand.
I used the sign for "milk" from the earliest days. Many wait until their babies are 6months old, and they have to wait a few months until baby does it. I did it with every milky-meal (and the kid was voracious, where most days all I did was nurse him and read Harry Potter with an occasional bathroom break and nap thrown in for interest), and AT 6 months he started signing "milk" when he wanted milk.
Plus it's something for him to look at.
Another thing for the flight...consider NOT boarding in small-children boarding. With my son, and he was/is neurotypical (once off the corn syrup), getting onboard SO early was utter misery. He wanted to be going. Moving. So sitting there while the whole plane filled then waiting through everything was awful for him. Consider your guy's personality carefully before boarding earlier.