Ashley Madison an auspicous day

[eliza61]

Yeah cheater Bob should have thought of that. Noone brought it to him but him. So if you get caught robbing a bank, it's the banks fault if your family suffers from you going to jail?

totally inaccurate comparison.

 

[MickeySP]

No it's not. It is abut blaming someone that you go caught for your personal behavior.

Like Will Smith said in MIB - "Don't start nothing, won't be nothing"

If they didn't sign up for a site that puts their families at risk, this is not Target or Walmart it is a site for dishonest people, then they wouldn't be at risk for exposure. The proximate cause for their fallout is THEM.

 

[robinb]

I'm talking about the family of the cheater. what did the kids do to deserved being outed.

See that's the issue with the net. It doesn't say "only cheater bob" will be outed. cheater bob has a family.

Hey you're glad the list is made public. I see nothing gained but perverse pleasure for people who enjoy seeing others in pain.

I do feel sorry for the cheaters' families. It must really suck to find out that your spouse is on the list. However ... if the cheater was worried about the repercussions of their cheating in their home and professional life then perhaps they shouldn't have cheated.

 

[Rhombus]

I'm a married woman who is in a relationship with a man from AM. It has worked out well for us.

Are we liars, yep. Cheaters, yep. I've heard all the name calling. But I intend to continue for the physical intimacy.

Embarrassed to use your regular screen name to say this? Holding a backup name in reserve for close to 8 years to use when the time was appropriate?

 

[eliza61]

I do feel sorry for the cheaters' families. It must really suck to find out that your spouse is on the list. However ... if the cheater was worried about the repercussions of their cheating in their home and professional life then perhaps they shouldn't have cheated.

lol,

humm that's the nature of cheating. cheaters rarely care about others, in fact usually most cheaters bounce back very nicely.
so once again, exactly who is this list hurting?? just like drive by shootings, the intended target rarely gets shot.

the cheater could care less, except for maybe having to move on to the next person.

I'm not arguing for the cheater but I'm also not impressed with the wonderful folks who bring us AM or the hackers.
I think they are all equally covered in mud.

I just find it interesting that you guys think they are providing a wonderful and worthwhile service. sort of like taking pleasure in other peoples misery.

 

[MickeySP]

lol,

humm that's the nature of cheating. cheaters rarely care about others, in fact usually most cheaters bounce back very nicely.
so once again, exactly who is this list hurting?? just like drive by shootings, the intended target rarely gets shot.

the cheater could care less, except for maybe having to move on to the next person.

I'm not arguing for the cheater but I'm also not impressed with the wonderful folks who bring us AM or the hackers.
I think they are all equally covered in mud.

I just find it interesting that you guys think they are providing a wonderful and worthwhile service. sort of like taking pleasure in other peoples misery.

You are out of your mind.

Go back & read my posts - I am a victim of infidelity. So until you are brought to your knees in a public parking lot by the woman your DH slept with then you have no idea the pain it brings. Imagine someone reaching into your chest with no anesthesia and ripping your heart out, at the same time a bus hits you - it might be close to the pain.

What I take "pleasure" in knowing is that people now have the info to leave or work it through it.That they are no longer at risk from dishonest & selfish behavior.

 

[robinb]

MickeySP, {{hugs}}.

 

[MickeySP]

Thanks it has been years & with lots of therapy & transparency we are doing very very good.

 

[Rhombus]

I have to say that I feel really sorry for Anna Duggar, who always seemed quite sweet when I saw her on the show (admittedly, I have not seen that many episodes). She seemed very loving to her children. These new revelations must be horrible for her.

I don't feel sorry for her one bit. She excused her husband molesting his younger sisters. She herself said she knew what she was getting into when she married him.

No doubt she will blame herself. "If I wuz a better wife, he wunt a dun this." And the rest of the klan will likely blame her as well.

"He's only being extra friendly to his younger sisters and paying for sex via the internet. What's the big deal? At least he ain't one of those perverted homoseck-shoe-als."

 

[kamik86]

I see it like this...

The cheaters did something wrong. That cheating being outed will hurt their families. However that isn't the fault of whatever outs them... it is the fault of the cheater.

That really is the same as saying that the police officer that catches someone robbing a bank and sends them to jail (outing the person for the crime and making it public) destroyed the lives of the family. No the police officer didn't the person that did the crime did.

I feel for anyone that has to go through knowing that their father, husband, wife, mother, etc is a cheater... however the hackers that put that information on the internet are only guilty of hacking. they didn't cause the problem that these people need to live through.

 

[Ember]

I have a friend who's husband found her pregnancy tests once and then sheepishly came out to tell his wife he wasn't pregnant. Along the same lines, I cheerfully informed my husband this morning that I had checked, and I wasn't a member of Ashley Madison. The look on his face was pretty priceless.

 

[jrmasm]

I have a friend who's husband found her pregnancy tests once and then sheepishly came out to tell his wife he wasn't pregnant. Along the same lines, I cheerfully informed my husband this morning that I had checked, and I wasn't a member of Ashley Madison. The look on his face was pretty priceless.

Lol!!

I feel sorry for the cheater's family members. Because they have a family member that is a cheater.

 

[pryncess527]

It amazes me that a lot of people who are so upset with the AM hack were the ones who were so in support of WikiLeaks & Edward Snowden

Where is the line between hacking and whistleblowing?

Edward Snowden was an employee of the United States Government, and he uncovered illegal activity and leaked evidence of that to the press. When the employee of a private company does that, we reward them as a Whistleblower helping to stop abuse of power.

And, I may be wrong, but it is my understanding that Edward Snowden did not "hack" the government. He had legal access to the documents as his role as an employee. The release is considered illegal, but not his means of obtaining the information.

 

[cabanafrau]

Cheating in my opinion makes someone a dishonest person that isn't to be trusted in relationships.

However that doesn't make him bad at his job. If I needed surgery I would want the best surgeon. Who he is sleeping with doesn't matter one bit on how good of a job he will do. The president is the same way. I can respect and admire the job he did in office while still thinking he is a scumbag as far as relationships go.. that just means I would never want to date him or even be his friend.

Rather depends on the required skillset for the job in question. A good surgeon would need things like extensive medical knowledge and experience with and dexterity to perform surgeries as high priority skillsets. It's a bit of a horse of a different color when one's job relies greatly upon things like integrity and a reputation for above board dealings.

 

[Colleen27]

I cannot see how anyone can supports this act of terrorism. These thieves exposing credit card information and home addresses by the millions are no better than those who hacked Target, shared the private emails and confidential files from Sony and exposed the private photos of all of those celebrities. This is terrorism and nothing less and should be prosecuted to the furthest extent of the law.

Totally agree. Let's be honest - these hackers aren't on a moral crusade. They've compromised scores of credit card numbers for their own profit. Any claim to the moral high ground is just obfuscation. People want to go on an on about the damage done by a cheating spouse... but don't seem to care one bit about the damage done by thieves who use that credit card information to drain bank accounts and run up debts in someone else's name.

And comparisons to Edward Snowden? Please! Stealing credit card numbers and outing straying spouses is not in any way comparable to exposing government abuses of power.

 

[eh24fan]

I think that the hackers are wrong because, let's face it, what they did was criminal. The cheaters are wrong, obviously, and exposing them is one thing, but exposing their financial information is another situation altogether. While I admit to be interested to find out about the cheaters on that list, I think it's awful that their financial privacy has been so violated.

Having found out your spouse is cheating is terrible, but knowing makes it a lot easier to figure out your next move. The financial ramifications of the credit card info being leaked is a real issue, although, if they weren't looking to cheat on their spouse, they would never have been in this predicament to begin with. Lots of angles here...

 

[cabanafrau]

I know little to nothing about the supposed details, but I have to admit I'm more than a little skeptical that apparently the first "name" outed in this hack is Duggar. I'd like the information thoroughly vetted by a credible, impartial source before I tarred, feathered -- or subjected any innocent bystanders to any humiliation.

 

[MickeySP]

Again if you hadn't put your CC on a site with liars, cheaters & thieves then you wouldn't be in this boat.

Also again I am sure the hackers thought through the repercussions if the cheaters had the same foresight.........

 

[experiment_6two6]

I see it like this...

The cheaters did something wrong. That cheating being outed will hurt their families. However that isn't the fault of whatever outs them... it is the fault of the cheater.

That really is the same as saying that the police officer that catches someone robbing a bank and sends them to jail (outing the person for the crime and making it public) destroyed the lives of the family. No the police officer didn't the person that did the crime did.

I feel for anyone that has to go through knowing that their father, husband, wife, mother, etc is a cheater... however the hackers that put that information on the internet are only guilty of hacking. they didn't cause the problem that these people need to live through.

Just to play devil's advocate, when a police officer arrests a bank robber, their home address and credit card information is not displayed to the public. If the hacker's intentions were to just let the families know that their spouse was cheating on them, they could have withheld that information.

Also, you can use a fake e-mail address. I use fake e-mail addresses all the time when something asks for one. I don't want junk mail. And if I were to ever sign up for AM I definitely would not have used an e-mail a significant other would have known. Imagine if your name was Bob Smith. You know how many people probably sign up with bob.smith@gmail.com? A lot. So when Bob's wife goes on to this website that tells you if the e-mail was on AM, you can bet she's gonna think good old Bob was cheating away, even if he wasn't.

Otherwise, I am neutral on the subject, both parties were in the wrong.

 

[DanceswithDisney]

Having registered with AM does not make one a cheater or one that will get an STD/HIV or AIDS!!! You have to actually physically be with someone to have cheated IMHO. If you do some research, you will find class action lawsuits that claim fake female profiles and up to 95% of the website are all men. Unless they are bi or gay, there has been very little CHEATING going on. This has been nothing more than the act of a terrorist group and I cannot understand how people do not condemn that!