I often wonder if non-DVCers, after reading threads such as this one, think in terms of the Shakespearean quote, "Me thinks he doth protest too much." Like the OP we agonized over making a decision whether to join DVC or not. DVC just seemed too good to be true. We probably would have bought in much sooner had we not been held hostage and been paralyzed by our over analyzing. Two events pushed us to finally make a decision. The first was a conversation with an aunt in which she lamented how she and my uncle had saved for years to travel and enjoy retirement and, due to severe health issues, their plans totally fell through. The other was when our granddaughter died in an unfortunate accident a very short time later. Our priorities were changed overnight. We brought the whole family, all six of our children, on a trip to WDW as form of therapy for our daughter and her younger siblings. It did seem to help. My DW & I took the DVC tour again after which we finally made up our mind to explore the resale market. Not long after our return from WDW our number two daughter went to a dinner, about 80 miles from where we live, which was featured at a haunted house and involved a medium. She shared with us that during this activity the medium looked right at her and said, "You have a niece named ******." She found that rather unnerving since he named our granddaughter that was deceased. The medium went on to say, "She wants you know that she wants you and your family to continue to go to Disney World." Now this freaked our daughter out due to the specifics of our family the medium addressed. Me, being the cynic that I am, asked her if she was sure there was no way this medium could have had any prior knowledge of her and our family's history. She gave an emphatic "No!"
To cut to the chase we did buy a DVC resale and an add-on. We discovered initially that we were paying as much as we did for the two rooms at a value, or discounted moderate, to accommodate our family of eight. However we now stayed two weeks for what we spent to stay one week prior to DVC. The visits are in much nicer accommodations and we cut costs since we could eat in the villa, pack lighter since we had a laundry room, and a much higher comfort and privacy factor in the villas. We've abandoned the "commando" mentality during our trips now with time to savor what WDW has to offer. Each visit there is something new and different for us to enjoy. That was nearly ten years ago and we have no regrets other than I wish we would have bought in much sooner. Now that the children are older, and trying to make their own way in the world, we stay in studios and make multiple trips per year. Invariably one of our grown children will accompany us during one of our DVC visits. We now have two grandchildren and anticipate they will soon be accompanying us on our WDW adventures.