and there is the elephant in the room, what everyone in this thread is not saying. The whole reason why certain people are so militant about FE and why they are now ignoring
DCL stated rules. The FE groups and the majority of the cruise groups on places other than on Disboards are run by a network of people who have a financial interest in the FE. There is a network of frequent cruisers affiliated to one person who set up and micro manage cruise meet up groups. The financial interest part is that many of the FE gifts promoted in their groups are from Etsy and online shops / sellers which they own / run / are affiliated to their network.
THATS why its become such a competition over the years and why gifts have become and more extravagant. They micro manage the FE and have rules about when to give out gifts, the type of gifts, how much the gifts should cost and so much more. And thats why they dont like people who don't participate, because if you don't partipate, you are not buying from their Etsy / online shops and they are not making money.
If you dig deep enough here on Disboards, there are threads naming these people, and how they treat people in the cruise meet up groups.