Anyone Else's In-Laws send them less gift $$ than than your spouse?

[21yankees]

My parents send my dh more than me. My birthday is 1 week before Christmas. Around that time of the year we get a check addressed to the whole family as a Christmas/Birthday present. Dh and I use towards the kids Christmas presents and put grandma & grandpa's names on 1 for each of them.

But every year my parents ask what we did with the money for us and we tell them we put it towards the kids' gifts.

One year it would be nice to receive a birthday card from my parents and not be part of their Christmas card .

 

[laliwalden]

My parents give the adults $50, kids and their spouses.

Now the grandkids get more than that. Presents and some money, but mom makes sure there gifts are even.

My ILs do give DH more than me, but I usually take it anyway!!

Or they do something like, buy him new tires for his car, that is his birthday present, so it saves us money.

 

[laughinplace199]

No, but my own mother thought that it would be funny to send my DH more than she sent me, LOL!! Our birthdays aren't even a month apart, so obviously I'd notice DH always jokes that my parents like him better, so I guess that my mom wanted to confirm that

We had a similar thing happen in our family too! DH and I always joke that his mother likes me better than she likes him. Our birthdays are 10 days apart (mine is first). She sent me a check for $30, just like she does every year. Ten days later, she sent DH a check for $29.99. It was so funny!

 

[ccgirl]

Just wondering if I'm the only one! I've been married for 9 years now, so it's really just kind of amusing to me, but my in-laws always send me less $$ for my birthday than my hubby. DH's birthday is a only a month before mine, so it's not like we don't notice. The kicker is my parents give us both the same amount. I joked to DH today that I should tell my parents to start cutting $5 off of each of his checks . Just wondering if anyone else has in-laws that send you less gift $$ than your spouse. OH, and BTW-- I am grateful for the $$-- just wanted to start a fun thread, so no need for negative Nellies to post! --Katie

It's called 0$. We don't exchange gifts. I wouldn't give it a thought. I'm not big on judging those that give others gifts (or don't for that matter).

 

[cvjw]

Wow, I can't believe that amount of people that get unequal gifts, or no gifts at all! My parents give DH and I the same amount for birthday ($200), and Christmas ($500). DH's parents give us the same amount for birthday ($500), and Christmas ($250). But the amazing thing about DH's parents is that they are trying to empty their estate before estate taxes, and they give me the same amount that they give DH every year as an early inheritance - that is something they surely don't have to do! This thread makes me think much more highly of them, as I see the number of people who treat their own child differently than their spouse.

 

[kim929]

I've been with my dh 12 yrs.. I received one bday gift from my IL's. It was a watch, I wore it for years even though I couldn't read it, the numbers were way to small. But I do know for a fact my mil gives my dh's ex bday gifts.

 

[Tiger926]

My in laws don't give me anything and never have, despite being married 13 years, and together for 17 years. My my parents give my hubby the same amount (most of the time), that they give me, and my siblings.

Ask for home gifts for Christmas (well, we ask for nothing, but she doesn't listen) from in laws, but mil still insists on separate gifts, so I don't really get much of anything, and hubby gets things that we don't need, or that we give away. My parents do shared gifts, which we like very much - gift cards, stuff for house, vacation, etc.

Tiger

 

[discnewbie]

My inlaws give us both the same amount for gifts. However, my mother does not give my dh the same amount... often if she gives me $50 she will give him nothing.

 

[ekatiel]

I've been with my dh 12 yrs.. I received one bday gift from my IL's. It was a watch, I wore it for years even though I couldn't read it, the numbers were way to small. But I do know for a fact my mil gives my dh's ex bday gifts.

I can't even believe she still gives the ex wife gifts, but doesn't give you gifts!!! I think you win for the most thoughtless MIL!!! --Katie

 

[DoomBuggy0922]

While I don't have a MIL yet, I have been with my fiance for 6 years, and we're tying the knot in a mere four months. Last Christmas, DF got a *ton* of things from his very well off mother... I got a charm for my bracelet, some huge PJs, and a video game that HE wanted. (I hate video games!) She also gave me a cookbook so I could cook for him...

...and this is why we live 1,000 miles away from them!

 

[DSNY4ever]

Yes, my MIL buys my husband usually something bigger than she gets for me. It doesn't bother me at all, it's nice that she sends me something at all, and plus I understand wanting to get a bigger birthday gift for your own child.

 

[DoomBuggy0922]

Okay, this is just me ranting again... but I forgot to mention that my FMIL didn't send me a birthday card last year, but she sent our dog three. Oh yes.

 

[a742246]

Okay, this is just me ranting again... but I forgot to mention that my FMIL didn't send me a birthday card last year, but she sent our dog three. Oh yes.

Dogs rule!!!!!! lol

 

[Becc1]

My MIL gives my DH more money for our birthdays but that's only because he's older so he gets $6 more, lol. She gives us $100 plus whatever your age is. For Christmas though my DH always swears that his mom loves me more, she makes us give her Christmas lists and I always get everything off of my list but my DH doesn't. She spends the same amount of money on all of us (which is quite a generous amount) but she tends to go off of my DH's alot and give him other things she thinks he would like, sometimes he does like them, sometimes he definately doesn't

 

[caribear]

It's all equal over here. DH and I get $25 for birthdays from both sides of the family. The kids get presents...no cash...but the cost of the gifts are always about equal.....the same for Christmas.

 

[nuttylawprofessor]

My MIL sends me 10% of what she spent/sent to my spouse.

My family is always completely even. If someone gets a little extra for a birthday, they'll get a little less for Christmas.

My maternal grandmother treats everyone equally and has treated everyone as a full child or grandchild when they marry into the family.

To those who receive less from ILs for gifts, is that also how you're treated in other aspects of your relationship with them?

 

[MissDaisyofTexas]

Yes! I get less than my DH from my in-laws. My parents give him the same as me. Different philosophies, I guess.

 

[PaulaSue]

Me too but my parents treat DH the same as me.

 

[darlaya]

Funny thing is, I thought I was the only one who had a MIL who gave half the amount to me and my kids than she gives my husband. Mind you, the kids are both ours...no second marriages.

 

[arthur06]

My mom gives everyone the same. No matter the age/relation, everyone gets $50 in cash for there birthday. Everyone gets $200 in Christmas presents/cash/savings bonds.

My in-laws are different. They always give me cash for my birthday, usually about $60, and my wife always gets a present. Last year she got a new pair of Ugg boots, which I know are more then $60. So yes, they do give her more. But DW always says that I am there favorite, when ever we go down for supper (usually about every Sunday night). There is always something on the menu that is one of my favorites and they always have my pop. Rarely, do they have her flavor!

We share accounts, and I have never been too worried about it.