Anyone Else's In-Laws send them less gift $$ than than your spouse?

[roscoepc1]

I don't get anything from my ILs, and I'm thankful...for the first few years, when she was still trying to make people think she liked me (guffaw!), she would give me nauseating sweatshirts in pastel colours with kittens and puppies on them (I'm in the fashion industry....a hairstylist!) and inumerable pairs of slippers. Which I don't wear and she knows it.

Of course, she also insisted on giving our disabled son- who couldn't eat food by mouth- stockings full of candy too....

Now dh is the only one who gets actual birthday gifts...our girls get $20 in a card.

 

[Hannathy]

Yup. And think that's normal. I''m not their child. Plus I get way more from Mom my then my DH gets from either my mom or his parents.

This is how I think and how it was always done in my family. The actual child always got more than the son or daughter in law.
This was the way it seemed to be for all our friends also.

 

[diznee25]

I do get less $$ from the in-laws compared to my DH, but it never bothered me. Honestly, I wouldn't expect it any other way. After all I'm the DIL. My husband is their actual son! Plus he's the first born and favorite so how can I compete with that!

Funny how I came across this thread because my B-day is a few days away and I just got my B-day card from my in-laws today. What a coincidence!

Some years when my DH gets his B-day $$, he'll let me spend it on myself anyway! So how can I be jealous?!


diznee25

 

[wish*i*was*in*the*vi]

I rarely get a birthday gift worth more than $20 from my inlaws while my husband gets expensive gifts. One year I received safari themed napkins and those zoo animal paper plates made for kids so I could "have a break from dishes"- nevermind the fact that I have a dishwasher.
Last Christmas my in laws gave my husband several hundred dollars of tools and a $500 check made out to only him and they gave me a box of chocolate covered pretzels. We'll won't discuss the fact that chocolate gives me migraines.

 

[mrsbornkuntry]

I never know what to expect from my MIL. Dh and I have been married almost 16 years and I think this year is the first time she has ever given me a gift, usually it's just a card. Dh sometimes gets just a card, sometime a gift, too. Last year I got a card and DH got a $50 gift card to Home Depot. This year I got a $25 gift card to Kohls and DH got a $25 gift card to Cracker Barrel. Our birthdays are within a month of each other so it's pretty noticeable.

 

[Sadie22]

The in-laws gave us sufficient money over the years that now that DMIL has stopped giving gifts to DH and me it's fine. They even sent us all to Walt Disney World when the boys were much younger. She still gifts to the boys even though they are adults now.

 

[disneybound31]

Just wondering if I'm the only one! I've been married for 9 years now, so it's really just kind of amusing to me, but my in-laws always send me less $$ for my birthday than my hubby. DH's birthday is a only a month before mine, so it's not like we don't notice. The kicker is my parents give us both the same amount. I joked to DH today that I should tell my parents to start cutting $5 off of each of his checks . Just wondering if anyone else has in-laws that send you less gift $$ than your spouse. OH, and BTW-- I am grateful for the $$-- just wanted to start a fun thread, so no need for negative Nellies to post! --Katie

Yeah- my in-laws give me $10 in a card each year...they give DH $20, some years as much as $50...I don't mind though...he's their son. Me, they just put up with! nah, they love me and I love them, but I'm not their kid (even though he is now 40) and I never expect a monetary gift from them so it is always a nice surprise and is appreciated.

Now one year- Christmas- my MIL asked my DH what would I REALLY love/need for Christmas...we were in the early years and struggling BADLY...I really needed a small set of pots and pans, but thought that was asking too much. Well, DH told her anyway and she told him she would LOVE to get us those pots...fastforward to family Christmas...I got dish towels. No pots. No nothing else. Don't know what happened and I'll never ask, but I was SOOOO looking forward to those pots.

 

[nsmith]

I am one of five children and my mom gives each one of us the same amount to split how we see fit for our families. There have been years that I have had my mom give DH and me a large gift certificate and a tokin gift for the kids (when they were tiny and we didn't get out much) and years when I asked it all to be spent on a family gift. But she also does a pregift just for my sisters and me on Christmas Eve

 

[AndreaDM]

Yep, my daughters and I each get $50 either in cash or a gift card for our birthdays, DH (an only child) gets $100. Again, all our money is pooled together so it doesn't really matter. Although, they have given him a Best Buy or Home Depot GC, probably thinking he'll get something for himself, instead of for "us".

Funny story though, MIL always renewed our AAA for our anniversary in May, did it for 8 years, then this past year we get a lengthy email in March telling us they have to make "drastic" budget cuts and our AAA was getting the ax. No biggie, we can pay our own AAA, it's less than $100, but wondered why the fiscal overhaul since their home and cars are paid off. Well a month or so later DH gets a picture text of their new $27,000 camper they got to take to the lake. Now I couldn't care less how they spend their money, but her email made it sound like they were about to go apply for food stamps, things were that dire.

 

[AndreaDM]

I rarely get a birthday gift worth more than $20 from my inlaws while my husband gets expensive gifts. One year I received safari themed napkins and those zoo animal paper plates made for kids so I could "have a break from dishes"- nevermind the fact that I have a dishwasher.
Last Christmas my in laws gave my husband several hundred dollars of tools and a $500 check made out to only him and they gave me a box of chocolate covered pretzels. We'll won't discuss the fact that chocolate gives me migraines.

LOL, you got ZooPals for a birthday gift?!

 

[OrangeCountyCommuter]

Am I the only person who thinks that it is a GIFT and it is a little tacky to even start this thread

No one has to "give" anyone anything.

I am truly amazed at this thread

 

[Claire&TheBoys]

My in-laws started to give us money for our birthdays in the last few years and it's always equal. My birthday check this year paid more than half of my Disney Dooney. We tell them we wish they wouldn't spend their money on us, but they want to do it, so we just smile and say thank you. My husband is saving for a boat. (It'll be awhile!)

They send too much money (IMO) to our kids for their birthdays, too, and I usually make them put half in their savings accounts.

 

[mpls_mm]

I have never even gotten a phone call, last year I got a card, and that was a first. It was probably because DH picked up his mom before stopping at the Florists and a few other places to pick up all my gifts on my birthday. My parents treat us the same, but don't send money!

 

[Eeyore98]

I don't get a lesser amount, but MIL does search out a card that specifically says "daughter-in-law" on it, every year. And the birthday cards she gives other people are just generic Happy B-day cards that don't mention her specific relation to the person. I've always found that really weird.

 

[Evi]

don't stress it. DF parents never give me anything birthday or Christmas. I always pick out there gifts and they know it (fiance is not a shopper). I always spend over $100 and try to buy something they will like. Last year I stopped. I told Df give them what you want. I'm not going to bother anymore since they make no effort on there part. I feel its spiteful that they only send him a gift on the holidays, we've been together 10 years and to my face they act like they love me. I'm not going to stress it not worth my frustration. On my parents side they always give df a gift and its always something he loves. I know it makes him feel bad but hes also not the type thats going to call his parents on there behavior. Plus its there money anyways let them spend it how they want to. Its really not my problem as I see it. Gifts are supposed to be given from the heart and if they don't have heart for me its ok lol.

 

[wish*i*was*in*the*vi]

don't stress it. DF parents never give me anything birthday or Christmas. I always pick out there gifts and they know it (fiance is not a shopper). I always spend over $100 and try to buy something they will like. Last year I stopped. I told Df give them what you want. I'm not going to bother anymore since they make no effort on there part. I feel its spiteful that they only send him a gift on the holidays, we've been together 10 years and to my face they act like they love me. I'm not going to stress it not worth my frustration. On my parents side they always give df a gift and its always something he loves. I know it makes him feel bad but hes also not the type thats going to call his parents on there behavior. Plus its there money anyways let them spend it how they want to. Its really not my problem as I see it. Gifts are supposed to be given from the heart and if they don't have heart for me its ok lol.

I know what you mean, I always go out of my way to make sure my in laws have gifts and then to not receive one can be hurtful

 

[ellone]

My MIL gives my husband significantly more than me. My parents give us the same amount.

 

[wish*i*was*in*the*vi]

LOL, you got ZooPals for a birthday gift?!

Yes! A package of Zoopals! I couldn't remember the name of them.

 

[Kitzka]

My in laws give DH between $200-300. I'm lucky to get $50 but I just roll with it.

Lara

 

[scbelleatheart]

Why compare? I get the amount of years of my birth as a joke and reminder of how old I am. DH get $25. My BD is Xmas so I get my stock dividends set up by my dad when I was child and DH and kids all get $100 but it is all our money not his and mine.
His parents tend to give all grandkids $100 each and $1000 to each of us adults. I really just put ours in the family fund so it isn't an issue.
At least they remember your birthday!
Be thankful they are alive and still part of your lives.