Anyone else sad about Mother's Day? A support group thread.

[RadioFanatic]

Just starting to think about mother's day this Sunday and it's making me a bit sad. This is the 8th mother's day with my dh since we have been married and still have not been lucky with children yet. It's the thing I want most in the world. And last year, my dearest grandmother died the wednesday after Mother's day so I'm really feeling sad about her, missing her a lot.

Just wondered if anyone else out there feeling the same way.

Hopefully next mother's day I'll have something to celebrate - trying to keep the faith.

ETA: I thought we should make this a support group thread for those of us feeling a bit misty eyed about Mother's Day. to all from me who are feeling sad.

 

[phisigprincess]

Yeah. My grandma died a year ago on the 29th of May, so this will be our first year without her. I think it's going to be pretty tough on my mom.

 

[luvwinnie]

This is my 2nd Mother's Day without my mom. It's very difficult.

 

[CEDmom]

My DH and I were married for 5 1/2 years before we adopted our DD. I had several miscarriages during that time so Mother's Day was rough for a while.

I hope the day isn't too much for you. Take care of yourself.

 

[lisajl]

Just starting to think about mother's day this Sunday and it's making me a bit sad. This is the 8th mother's day with my dh since we have been married and still have not been lucky with children yet. It's the thing I want most in the world. And last year, my dearest grandmother died the wednesday after Mother's day so I'm really feeling sad about her, missing her a lot.

Just wondered if anyone else out there feeling the same way.

Hopefully next mother's day I'll have something to celebrate - trying to keep the faith.

Saying a little prayer that you will be "celebrating" Mothers Day next year.
Children are wonderful, here's wishing you a little bit of that!

Lisa

 

[nkjzmom]

My sister struggled to get pregnant for 6 years. She waited...while DH and I had 2 more children and then while I was pregnant with Samantha she got pregnant with her little boy. It was a hard few years.

I also lost my closest grandmother the week after Mother's Day, three years ago. She died on her mother's birthday. Then 2 years later my niece was born on that same day.

Life is strange...wonderful and difficult at the same time.

 

[AllyandJack]

You know I'm right there with you.

My Nana also died last year. Plus, I would have been celebrating this year if I didn't miscarry. I would have been in my 2nd trimester and I might have actually allowed myself to receive a card - instead, I'll be getting needles.

Next year, the two of us will come on here and start the biggest, happiest Mother's Day thread the DIS has ever seen.

 

[mickeyboat]

Many of the same kinds of Mother's Days for me, too.

I am sorry that you are hurting, and hope that next Mother's Day brings lots of happiness to you.

Denae

 

[The Mystery Machine]

{{{HUGS}}} for you...sorry you are having a rough time.

 

[grimley1968]

I don't particularly care for Mom's Day myself. My mom died on May 7, 1995, which is of course very close to Mother's Day. So this time of year we always have double-whammy reminders of it. Fortunately, my grandmother is still around (95 years old) and we can visit her in the nursing home and my little DDs and I can celebrate their mommy as well. So you're not alone in being sad this time of year.

 

[cats mom]

Mothers Day was always tough for me growing up since my mom died not long before Mothers Day the year I turned 8.

I have not dealt with the pain and frustration of infertility personally. But I imagine those feelings have to be intensified even more when everyone else is celebrating motherhood.

Sending out hugs and prayers to those who are feeling the loss of a mom/grandmom and those who are trying to BE a mom and having a tough time.

Especially around Mothers Day.

 

[Robinrs]

My worse Mother's Day was the one after my first and only child died... I felt like I was dying. It took us 6 years to have Michael and it was a HARD 6 years.

Now with my Mom gone Mother's Day takes on a whole new sadness. I now make sure I give gifts to all of the Moms in my life. Even though I am a Mother I was a daughter for so many years that Mother's Day still is a day to GIVE for me, not to receive.

 

[Noah122898]

I lost my Mom on December 25, 2005, so this will be my first Mother's Day without her. I am already teary eyed with all the darn commercials (Hallmark, FTD, Kmart...) My husband and I struggled a few years with miscarraiges too, until I had my son in 1998. So I will enjoy being a Mom with him and try not to dwell on my loss. I wish you the best.

 

[penguingirlie]

I had a miscarriage last fall and my due date would have been right around Mother's Day. I just found out today that I won't be blessed this Mother's Day either. I know you can't feel sorry for yourself but its hard. I am thinking of you and understand your pain.

 

[lovetheparks]

Oh do I know how you feel. DH and I have been married 11 years and no children for us.

Most days I'm resigned to that and accept it but Mother's Day does make me sad especially the older my Grandparents get. My two Grandmas are the most important people to me and I wanted so much for my kids to know them. My Mom... that's a whole novel.

 

[DebbieB]

It's going to be hard for me, my mom died 09/30/05. Since 2000, we went to WDW either for Mother's Day week or the week before (depending on when our AP's expired). Last Mother's Day we had dinner at the castle. I was thinking earlier today that we would probably be leaving Saturday. Instead, I'll be visiting the cemetary. I miss her so much.

 

[RadioFanatic]

Next year, the two of us will come on here and start the biggest, happiest Mother's Day thread the DIS has ever seen.

Sounds like a great plan to me! And to you that things go well. I'm having some female surgery next week in NYC and then can start back on the protocals. Also, we're finalizing adoption certification so we can start looking for our daughter/son to be to adopt.

 

[redshoes]

Mother's day is a struggle for me. I've struggled with infertility for 6 years now, and before I was blessed with my sons I would dread Mother's day. The day would come up on the calendar and it was almost a sure sign of an emotional breakdown. Now even after we adopted our two little boys, I struggle with the day. I worry about my DS' birthmoms and how hard a day it must be for them. Don't get me wrong I feel so blessed to be a Mom but I just have a hard time overcome all the pain that goes along with the day.
I'm sorry that Sunday will be such a hard day for alot of you.

 

[disneyfanatic60]

I buried my Mom and best friend the day before Mother's Day just two years ago. Mother's Day will never be the same for me or my family. Like someone else posted, I hurt deeply every time I hear a commercial, announcement or see an ad for Mother's Day. It truly rips me apart.

What's hard is not ruining the day for my own children. They know how I feel and they are so considerate of my feelings.

Hugs to everyone missing someone special this Mother's Day.

 

[wdw4us]

I lost my Mom on December 25, 2005, so this will be my first Mother's Day without her. I am already teary eyed with all the darn commercials (Hallmark, FTD, Kmart...) My husband and I struggled a few years with miscarraiges too, until I had my son in 1998. So I will enjoy being a Mom with him and try not to dwell on my loss. I wish you the best.

My mother died December 25 1985. That is an especially hard day to deal with. Having childeren to take care of and pretend all is well, makes the day go by. So we have a double whammy – Christmas and Mothers day.

I still miss her every day but the pain is less now.

Hugs to all who have lost a mom.

denise