Anyone else get irrationally jealous when others post vacations on FB?

[bear_mom]

I know I have no reason to be jealous, we vacation regularly. But I have FB friends who are vacationing in WDW and Cozemel. They are posting pics and updates about how much fun they are having. Maybe because we aren't doing WDW this year? Also, maybe because I can't make people equally jealous as we don't post vacation pics/updates for safety reasons.....

 

[MIGrandma]

I know I have no reason to be jealous, we vacation regularly. But I have FB friends who are vacationing in WDW and Cozemel. They are posting pics and updates about how much fun they are having. Maybe because we aren't doing WDW this year? Also, maybe because I can't make people equally jealous as we don't post vacation pics/updates for safety reasons.....

No, I don't have jealous feelings about people posting pictures of their vacations because we take a fair amount of trips ourselves. DH doesn't want me posting photos while we're gone, so I wait to post them when we get home. I just posted a photo on mine yesterday, of the view from our cabin that we rented for a week in the Smoky Mountains. One of my FB friends posted photos of their vacation in Jamaica, I enjoyed seeing them and wouldn't mind spending a few days at an all-inclusive sometime as they did.

 

[bethy]

I love it when people post about their travels - it's one of my favorite things about Facebook. However we do travel a fair amount. I'm sure it would be harder to see if we didn't have the time and money to take trips.

There is the occasional friend who posts an hour by hour play by play of their fancy trip with a grandstanding tone - that does induce an eyeroll from me now and then.

 

[pryncess527]

I don't think what I feel is actually jealousy or envy, but I do have friends that vacation often and I do feel a twinge of . . . regret? Wistfulness? When I see vacation photos of her lounging on a beach in a cabana with an endless stream of margaritas in her hand. If I had made different decisions in my past when I was a foolish teenager, I might be on that beach with my friends. But we didn't, and so I try to funnel that wistfulness into resolve to keep attacking our finances to hasten the day when we can join them, debt free, guilt free, cash in hand, in that cabana. I get a similar wistfulness just from being on The Dis -- I haven't been to WDW since 1997 . . . but it keeps me motivated with my eye on my goal of an amazing trip in the not-so-distant future.

 

[Wishing on a star]

I am not normally a jealous person.... I really am not.
But, OP, I can kind of see what you are saying...
Sometimes, just out of the blue... I can see something that can set off that feeling...

Sometimes it can be that one little thing that somewhere inside you are really missing and so wistful for.

Maybe a vacation, or even something smaller!

It happens rarely, and actually kind of takes my by surprise when that hits... I know I am not a jealous person, and that I should NOT be jealous... It usually passes!

 

[Wishing on a star]

I love it when people post about their travels - it's one of my favorite things about Facebook. However we do travel a fair amount. I'm sure it would be harder to see if we didn't have the time and money to take trips.

There is the occasional friend who posts an hour by hour play by play of their fancy trip with a grandstanding tone - that does induce an eyeroll from me now and then.

Ohhhh yeah....
Not a person I know personally, but know online.
I know exactly what you are talking about!!!!

 

[scoutie]

I have two vacations planned this summer (Ocho Rios and Disney), and I get jealous of people travelling. Especially if people are posting beach vacations with this horribly long winter or places that are on my bucket list.

Also, maybe because I can't make people equally jealous as we don't post vacation pics/updates for safety reasons

Why can't you post pictures for safety reasons? I understand not posting them while you're on vacation because somebody might know you're gone and try to break in, but what about when you come back? Or what about posting to a small group of family/friends? Is there something I'm missing?

 

[KristaTX]

I don't feel envious when people post pictures of their vacations. Envy isn't really the negative emotion I feel with anyone's postings on Facebook. I mostly feel frustration and aggravation as far as negative emotions, but not about anyone's vacation photos. I enjoy seeing those.

But like many here, I get to vacation frequently. Maybe if I didn't, I'd feel envious.

 

[Art 1]

I don't have FB and have never looked at it so can't comment on that. But I used to get jealous of people, not so much now but it is normal for every one to feel jealous somewhat from time to time. I just figure if I wanted what the people had or what they were doing I would just do the same, no reason to be jealous.

 

[tina.tina]

I don't usually feel jealous. I guess when I want something, I just try to figure out how to get what I coveted!!!!


SPEAKING of FB JEALOUSY:

My cousin has a baby boy who will be 1 in June. She is totally obsessed with posting pictures of every aspect of his life- even pictures of his dirty diapers. I don't have a FB account but my sister and my DH say it's not uncommon for her to post 20 pictures a day or more!!!!

My sister told me yesterday that several of this cousin's friends recently posted pictures of their daughters and said "Happy Daughters' Day to Mommy's Little Princess," etc. My cousin posted an incredibly spiteful comment that said those people had the wrong day and/or just made up daughter's day and what was the big deal about having a daughter!!!!! Today, my cousin deleted her FB!

This thread just reminded me of this news story !

 

[Stitchfans]

Not necessarily jealous, just wishful. Wishing I could afford a trip back to Disney World, or anyplace at all.

 

[Janepod]

Nah, I love my friends (I keep my friend list small -- it's only people I know and am actually friends with, not strangers or my son's friends' moms or whatever) and I'm happy when they're happy.

I only don't like seeing "#soblessed." God didn't "bless" you with a villa in Turks and Caicos -- it's because your husband works 70 hours a week. #sogross

 

[deedeetoo]

My husband has a fb friend that he went to high school with who is constantly posting and bragging about her travels. Seems that she is married to someone rich and retired and all they do is travel. DH tells me that he thinks its annoying but other people he knows have unfriended her (if that is that is the correct term) because they are just so sick of it.

 

[pigletgirl]

Depends what the vacation is! But no, I'm genuinely happy for my friends when they can take a nice vacation. I usually cannot wait to hear about it!

It does help though when you have one planned for your own family,

 

[minnie mum]

Irrationally jealous? No. A bit envious? Sometimes.

OK, maybe I'm playing with semantics or splitting hairs (NOT hares)
but there's a difference.

My DD is currently on a Western Caribbean cruise. I'm looking out my window at the umpteenth blizzard we've had to endure this winter. Am I a little envious that she is luxuriating in a spa aboard a luxury cruise ship? You bet. But jealously is far too negative a term for what I'm feeling.

Most of the time when friends or relatives post about their trips I'm just really happy for them and nudge DH to start planning our next trip. We've gotten great ideas for vacations from seeing and reading about trips friends have taken.

 

[denisem]

This is why I don't facebook.

Seriously. I can understand feeling envious if one is scraping by (especially in this economy) and unable to travel as you'd like. Don't beat yourself up over it.

 

[Robinrs]

Not vacations, I envy those who travel for work sometimes, though.

I was offered a job that required 75% travel and turned it down because my son was in high school then. He's in college now and I'd LOVE to do it now!

As for vacationing, sometimes it's wonderful but it's mostly a hassle. I did it a LOT in my 20s - 40s, not that interested in doing it now. When I see the pics I smile and say BTDT! and glad they're having a good time like I did.

 

[momof1princess]

i don't normally get jealous of others' vacations; however, this year, instead of vacationing, we have to put a new roof on DH's workshop (no choice, it's leaking in 2-3 places, and there's tens of thousands of dollars worth of tools in there). the shingles alone cost more than room and tickets at wdw. so, yeah, it seems like everyone i know is going to wdw this year, and i get to sit back and watch them have fun on FB. i know, i'm whining, it's stupid. sometimes it really sucks to be a grown-up.

 

[momof1princess]

Not necessarily jealous, just wishful. Wishing I could afford a trip back to Disney World, or anyplace at all.

me too. you're not alone.

 

[CdnCarrie]

As for vacationing, sometimes it's wonderful but it's mostly a hassle. I did it a LOT in my 20s - 40s, not that interested in doing it now. When I see the pics I smile and say BTDT! and glad they're having a good time like I did.

Vacations are a hassle? You're posting this on a WDW fan message board?

So you don't vacation after age 40? Weird.