hey guys, sorry I only get on here every week or 2. but guess what
IT'S A BOY!!! had our big u/s yesterday at 18w2d. just like they thought at the 12w NT scan, it is in fact a boy. DH was excited. our little guy measures fine, good fluid, good cord, brains, heart etc. Everything looked perfect. he was all curled up in a ball. so the doc tried to shake my belly, pound on it etc to get him to straighten out (so he could get a better close up of the heart), but the little guy was sleeping and happy where he was! i was afraid i would be bruised afterwards from how hard the doc was shaking my belly and stuff. lol. right now he is with his head up in the top of the uterus and butt at the bottom. they turn so often though. so we are excited to finally buy boy stuff! so yes, as for the QOTD---we did find out! i could never be patient enough to wait.
for the new QOTD----i told just about everyone that we were TTC once i was in 'treatment'. when we were trying on our own, temping etc. I didn't tell anyone really. but once the OB started me on clomid (4 months worth)- i told the family and close friends- especially so they would know why i was so stressed or emotional or physically different from all the side effects. Once i got to the IUI stage, i let my boss know too- I mean i had lots of appts and was missing some work- so she knew the whole time what was going on and was very supportive. at that point, everyone knew. i would have probably told a stranger that point, it wasn't a secret. by the time the 4 IUIs didn't take, plus a lap and a sit out cycle due a cyst, i was ready for IVF and by then, everyone was involved. I wanted the support and it did help. sometimes it was annoying and overdone with all the support i got. but i am glad i did it that way. this way everyone knew why i was moody or bloated or whatever. plus, when you get that far into treatments- you almost feel like it is a special badge of honor.....something you are almost 'proud' of.....since you have to be so strong to even get through the drugs and treatments each month. so i was proud of what we were doing to make our dream come true and i wasn't afraid to share it---also in the hopes that it might help someone else with fertility struggles know that they aren't alone.....since a lot of people keep it hidden and suffer in silence. i wasn't about to do that.
time to catch up again, so some of these replies are old!
Kristine- yes, i did the acupuncture wtih my IVF. i did enjoy it- once a week. didn't hurt, so relaxing. i went at lunch during work oftentimes. i think it truly helped with my lining to thicken it up. I stopped after the ET though- it was about $65 per appt. BTW- you can do the shots. i was scared at first too- but then it just became habit. after you shoot up so much, you just get used to it. DH offered to do them, but it got to the point where it was just easier for me to do them. I had 3 a night too- lupron, menopur and follistim. the only one i couldn't do myself was the PIO and luckily i only was on it 2 weeks since my progesterone was sky high.
Skuttle- so sorry about DH's grandma. oh and you listen to kidd kraddick- i do too- of course i am in dallas and not far from where they broadcast from. i knew they had reach into LA. i swear, you are just being followed and tortured by preggos. i am so so sorry. it is so hard to bear, i know. but you are so strong and you will get through it. HUGS!!!!! my heart just breaks for you, but i know your time will come. yeah, i hated hearing how people get preggo right away or on accident....ugh. even worse- one board i read, has a general pregnancy board and i read it and will never read it again. it was filled with posts from women thinking htey were pregnant (or had just confirmed) that did NOT want the baby and were trying to decide what to do. i just couldn't read it anymore, knowing there are so many unwanted children and so many women or teens that don't appreciate the miracle they have been given. ugh!!
Tinkerchelle- congrats on AI 1!!! hoping for a BFP for you guys!!!
Grumpy- welcome back! glad the cruise was nice. I haven't been on one yet, but i have the same concern as you, that i will want to spend more time at the ports to sight see than you get. sorry the m/s was bad too. hopefully it will start to let off soon for you.
Mickeyboat- how was GS camp? I remember those days!
Rebecca- so sorry about AF. i was chanting for you too. so clomid/IUI for you next cycle? i really hope it does the trick!!! i know so many folks it worked for (one jsut delivered triplets!!!) sorry about the painful bloodwork, i hate when they keep poking us! so how does the simple IUI work, i am not familiar with it- do you have to temp/OPK to know when to do the IUI? all of mine were done with ultrasounds and trigger. is there a reason they aren't doing the all out version? or was that your decision (i know it isn't cheap).
Elaine- i am so sorry about the due date bringing up bad memories/emotions. HUGS to you!! so glad the appt went well. my last doppler appt she had a hard time finding my little one's h/b too. after 10 minutes she finally found it. she said he was just moving around a lot. i am sure it is a relief though. and before long you will be knowing what the sex is!!!! i know it is still hard given what you have been through, but you have come so far and your little bean is healthy!!! Elaine, don't worry about the fall- the little bean is so well cushioned in there!
Gypsydoodlebug- a friend of mine TTC after 2 m/c is seeing my RE now. they had her and her DH stop drinking caffeine. apparently his count was low or messed up and they said stopping caffeine could help? so maybe that is the diet coke thing? it really has to do with the caffeine?
CARLA!!! 6/19!! how exciting- at least you have it scheduled, but maybe you will get a surprise before then. how exciting to know the end is in sight and you will hold your miracle little girl in your arms before long.
Kristy- sorry about AF. so is this round 2 of IVF? what protocol are you using? I am praying for you!!!
DZNYlover- so sorry for your pain. i can't imagine. but you are strong and it will happen for you. hopefully the RE can get it figured out. just stay on top of them, push them to find out what is going on. demand testing, demand to know. did they have you on progesterone at all? if not, i would ask about getting on the suppositories or even the PIO shots (supposedly the best way to get progesterone, although painful). having too much progesterone can't hurt (believe me, mine was 110 at my beta, way high). but if you take the extra, at least you have some insurance to help support the pregnancy. i reallly am praying and hoping for you, you deserve a miracle!!!
Momsully- sorry about AF- how many cycles of clomid have you done? I wouldn't do more than 3-4 months. most docs won't let you go past 3 months.
Nicole- how are you doing? know the sex yet?
oh and the stories on the stillborn babies is horrible. i watched that Run's house show and his wife delivered their little girl stillborn. so awful. i appreciated their decision to share that wiht the public though- so we all know to appreciate and not take things for granted. a pregnancy doesn't equal a baby. which is sad and scary for me. for all of us. but we just have to have faith and know what is supposed to happen will happen and unfortuantely we can't do anything to change it.
Anywho about the IUI...I will just use OPKs then they will do the IUI. I'm trying it this way once if it doesn't work then it is off to the RE.
I really need to stop doing that to myself!
Thanks for the kind words as well. I hope I have good news soon!
I know I am lucky that I have a very pro-active doctor though who is willing to do anything she can. She follows the patients leads well. Though I know with some the temping is the only way to prove to their doctor that there might be an issue... kind of sad.
No AF! 
No AF! 
No AF!
I'm beyond sad...I'm more angry now than sad. Ugh! This is all so frustrating!! On to cycle 12...
