Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[Syrreal]

counting from CD1- 6 weeks.

 

[RachaelRol]

Reading TCOYF it said a large percentage of women had MCs and didn't know it. Today is day 9, yes 9 of AF.

Its not really a flow now, but this thick really dark, slightly brown spotting that has some bits. I know, I know, TMI, but, I'm a little scared here. The thing is is started that way too... I had a few periods like this right after having Andrew..

No cramping, no anything. Af came early this month, my cycle was only 24 days and it came 9 DPO???

Any advice!? Any opinions?

 

[beckmrk04]

Rach- it could technically happen, but I think TCOYF was referring more to the fact that most women who aren't charting can have m/c's and not realize it because they don't pay that much attention.

I doubt you are dealing with a m/c, especially since your cycle and luteal phase were short. I'm no dr., of course, but that would be my thought.

I'm sorry, I forget: were you on b/c? And what cycle is this?

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Rachel--no advice..just wanted to share that my doc on Monday said that a good % of women do not realize they are M/C when they have a period that is a couple of days late. 9 days of AF isn't normal and I would definitely see the doc to find out why it is that long. It may not be a m/c--but certainly warrants investigating if the blood flow is still like when you first got AF.

 

[FlyingBelle]

FlyingBelle, I was on Follistim for my IVF cycles. I did use Ovidrel for my IUI cycles, but I used it with Clomid. I usually went 10-12 days with the Follistim. One follicle is better than none - and all it takes is one follicle for a BFP.

I appreciate the reminder of only needing 1! Somehow I have it in my head that I'm destined for twins.

Anyway - nurse called this afternoon, she's not concerned and said my est went up from Monday. They're hoping I'll be ready for IUI over the weekend or Monday. Fingers crossed!

Ooop - DH is calling for ice cream. When you gotta go...

 

[beckmrk04]

Mmmm. Ice cream.

I need to think of a new QOTD, but my brain has been fried this week- learning my new job/computer software. Can't think of anything but banking transactions...

 

[beckmrk04]

Finally thought of a QOTD- although it should read for 6/22. Sorry- I'm tired and not all here.

 

[LisaB]

Of course money worries us. I am working part time deleivering fruit baskets. I am an out of work social worker. Actually I am thinking about going back to school. I have asked my husband if I get pregnant how are we going to afford it with me basically out of work. He stated that he would just work more. On the other note hubby and I talked about ivf if the glonal f and iui doesn't work. I think it would cost about 1500 but I have to look into it. Good news I finally got him to go to weight watchers with me.

 

[FlyingBelle]

Someone was telling me recently that Illinois is only 1 of about 5 states that requires insurance companies to cover fertility treatments. I know my insurance covers it (BCBS - HMO Illinois). I've only had to pay a co-pay for medications (ranging from $10-45/month), and my perscripton pre-natal vitamins are about $35/month. Everything else is covered - I'm told we can even do up to 5 cycles of IVF, if needed.

If this is true - I think we need to push for other states to require coverage. It shouldn't matter where you live, we should all have access to affordable treatment!!!

 

[AllyandJack]

Rachael, definitely call if the bleeding doesn't stop. It might just be a fluke, but better to be safe than sorry.

QOTD: I'm not too concerned about money. DH and I don't live a real snazzy life. Both of our cars are pushing 150,000 miles. We moved to NH so we didn't have to pay $400,000 for a house, so our home loan is pretty low considering what we have. My student loans can be put into forebearance in the event of an emergency. Oh, yeah, I have it all planned! I'm just hoping that a pregnancy isn't too hard and I can work for a while. I'd like to pay off our credit card bill (new driveway - many, many Disney points). I'd like to stash away some $$ for emergencies - you know, like how I took my car in for a $40. inspection and, $900. later, I can pick it up today! I really have no intention of going back to work as a lawyer. I am a licensed real estate agent in NH and I have a big company wanting to take me on as an agent. Work from home, make my own schedule, take on as many buyers as I want. I don't have to accept any clients I don't want to accept. They have 3 offices within 20 mns of my house, so that would be a big change! DH keeps telling me to quit my job and start that now, but I'd really like the steady paycheck for a little while longer. Of course, DH says he'll get a 2nd job at Lowe's or Home Depot. I think that's his dream job - working in the electrical aisle giving people instructions....plus the employee discount! We're not at that stage, but it's comforting to know he's willing to do it and actually excited about it. Men are strange.

A lot of people take out equity loans for IVF. They also have shared-risk programs, but they have age, weight, FSH restrictions on who they accept. I probably would have gone the home equity route if my insurance didn't cover it. At least it's deductible!

 

[FlyingBelle]

So is the question about if we plan to work before, during, after TTC?

If so... I'm working full-time now and my husband does sales out of the home. I have a phenomenal manager who believes that TTC is one of the most important things you'll ever do in life (as she tells me everyday) and that my schedule can accomodate whatever I need. Granted, she's a new mom herself - so I consider myself extremely lucky.

Once successful - our plan is for me to continue working since I bring home the insurance. My DH will then become a proud work-from-home-take-care-of-the-litter dad.

 

[MommyBryn]

QOTD 6/21- Money was something that I wondered about when TTC, but it wasn't going to stop me from it. We'd make any adjustments that we needed to. We're "poor" compared to some people. That's one of the reasons we got a lot of flack for TTC and having a baby when we did. But I think that's ridiculous. We're both students, but DH works 2 jobs (not because he has to, but because EMS is only a 2 day/week job here) and although our income isn't a lot, we're good with our money and that's how we make it. In fact, I think we have more than we need...so IMO, it's a matter of prioritizing. If there's a lot of worth in material things for people, they're going to want more money. If not, they can manage with less. Also, we have no debt. We don't make payments on anything (other than necessities like utility bills, for example)- always save up the money on the side so we can pay for things in full (cars, school, insurance, etc). But if we would have waited until we had "enough" money for a baby, we'd never have had a child!

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

QOTD: I am confident that children is the one topic that if you waited UNTIL you could afford it, you would never have children. We have two beautiful children and things have just worked out. We didn't have any financial issues (other than spending when we should be saving) but we now have 2 fully funded college tuition accounts and we are homeschooling the girls. Finances fell into place for the needs of our family whatever the size. I am a SAHM mom but was convinced it was not possible and very quickly proved that it was (for our family).

 

[DMickey28]

OT-Guys- I am having a bummer of a day. Work went fine, and no AF (yet)but I took another HPT at lunch and it was negative. But the bummer is that because of my job situation (ie I didn't have one from January until recently- and just now got a good job), we're in a financial bind: money in does not equal money going out.

I hate paying things late. I hate not having money to pay things on time. Worst of all- my house payment is late. You wanna know who I owe? Yeah- the bank I just started working for. They haven't said anything (it's not super late), but I won't get paid from the salon until next week, and I won't get my first check from the bank until July 15th!

I feel so irresponsible and awful, and I know this is temporary, and we just need to get back on track from all the time I was off, but I don't know how to even begin to climb out of the hole.

Once I start getting paid regularly, our finances will be fine- actually, better than fine. But right now!

ETA- thinking about my bills has me GLAD I'm not pregnant. I would really be flipping out then. I think God's giving me some more time to get prepared.

Becky,

I just wanted to give you a hug. I know what you are feeling completely. I feel like just as soon as you start to get to the point where all the bills come in, get paid the same day and go out and at the end of the month you have some left over to put into savings SOMETHING always happens and you go back to struggling to pay them before the next one is due. DH and I just started getting ahead in the Spring. We took an all cash vacation, paid 1/2 of what we owe my parents (they are on a flex schedule for payback and no interest!) and were really doing well. Then this new job came up for him. Intitally it's a one step back two steps forward financially and it's been a struggle. Just all the expenses with moving we are getting wiped out. So far we are ok, but July is going to be hairy and we are going to be playing catch up in August. I am planning for it but it's still keeps me up at night and gets my heart racing occassionally.

When I got my BFP last month I was so excited, then I m/c. We decided to avoid for the next few months until we get settled. If I was PG right now I would be freaking out... even though I know that by the time the baby comes in 9 months we would be fine again... My goal now is to start trying in August/Septemeber again. We won't tell anyone right away and I hope to have a Christmas surprise for everyone and be due next summer!

Good LUCK.. HUGS... I feel like I completely understand and you and I are in very similar spots in our life!

 

[LisaB]

So sorry about the m/c is I haven't said so before.
Carla How are you feeling??? Do you ever come down to W & I down here? How many cycles of IVF have you done?

Isn't it funny that when you are trying everyone arround you gets pregnant. I know that I have a real difficult time with the ones who aren't married. Have you ever heard of birth control??????

 

[Jen_in_NH]

Hi everyone!

Well, it's definitely not this month. AF arrived this am So I have an appointment this afternoon, but not with my regular doctor. He wanted to do Clomid and HCG for IUI this month, but I want to talk to him before I plan on anything. Hopefully he can give me a call tonight, so I don't have to start the Clomid without talking to him.

Becky - I think everyone has a period of time like that when they can't seem to catch up. It usually ends up being when you change a job. Most banks and such are good about helping you arrange a payment for a month or two. Good luck!

Carla - Any new symptoms for the rest of us to obsess over for you? If I can't analyze my own, might as well do it for someone else. What rea; estate company will you be working for?

Rachel - 9 days of AF is a bit long. Give your doctor a call.

Lisa, I know what you mean about other people getting pregnant without even trying. DH's cousin is pregnant with her second (and the second by accident, even). They don't have enough space in the mobile home for themselves, their daughter, his son, and his father, and now they're going to add another one! She says she wasn't on the pill because it cost too much. Um, and having a baby doesn't?

QOTD: DH and I have talked about what we'll do when I'm out of work. The problem is, I make about twice what he makes. So being a SAHM isn't really a possibility for me. Financially, we'll be OK while I'm out since I have a ton of sick and vacation built up (I think 10 weeks paid) The part that is concerning is what we'll do if the IUI doesn't work. IVF is pretty expensive, and I don't htink we could do it. We could do the home equity option, but we've only had our mortgage for 1 year, so I don't want to add too many payments to that.

Jen

 

[FlyingBelle]

Hi everyone!

Well, it's definitely not this month. AF arrived this am

 

[LisaB]

At least you own your home Jen we are in a rent to own with my Dad. It is a great deal and in about 8 years the house will be ours. We owe just under 100K The kicker is that we can't take any equity from it and my dad doesn't even know we are trying. I think if my Mom was still living things would be easier.

 

[AllyandJack]

Aw, Jen, I'm sorry. Let us know what the doctor says this afternoon. Will you do the IUI this cycle?. If I make the career change, I'll be working for one of the Prudential affiliates. Their main office is in Londonderry, but they have about a dozen around the state - Bedford and Epping are both near me. I'd have to decide in which direction I want to drive.

Lisa, I'm very antsy today. I'm usually pretty patient during the 2ww, but this one is driving me NUTS. I never go to any of the other W&I offices. I guess they have a few around New England. I only go to NEMC and only for retrieval and transfer. I met one of the other doctors, but I only see my doctor. I met the other doctor when she consulted on my ectopic. She seemed nice. The nurses are so great - some of them spend a few days each day in different offices and the one I had this time did 2 days in Boston and 2 days in Providence. This is IVF #3 for me. On July 7th, it will be 2 years since I stopped birth control pills.

My best friend got pregnant because she hoped it would make her DH stop cheating on her. She got pregnant in 3 months and then had a miscarriage. I had to drive her to the hospital because her DH didn't want to deal with it and abandoned her. Yet, she thought it was a fabulous idea to get pregnant again - and she did, 2 months later. They have a son now and her DH is always telling her to "make him stop crying". Oh, OK! They live in a 1 bedroom apartment, so the baby is about 10 inches from her side of the bed (how's that going to play out when he's 12?). They have no room for a high chair or a swing and she spends all day in bed with him in his bouncy chair sitting on the bed with her. They can't leave the bedroom because have a rowdy dog that jumps all over her and the baby. Her mother pays for his formula and diapers. Now she's talking about wanting a girl. People like THAT never have fertility problems.

I don't know what to think. The biggest thing that's making me wonder is that my OHSS symptoms seems to have come back. That usually indicates a BFP. But, then I sit here and think....are they REALLY back? Maybe it's just my imagination. I don't know what's real and what's not anymore.

 

[FlyingBelle]

My best friend got pregnant because she hoped it would make her DH stop cheating on her.

Sounds rediculous, but when you're in that situation you do things your better judgement tells you not too.

My ex told me that if God wanted us to stay together he would give us a baby. Oh, how I prayed! A few weeks after the divorce was final my brother's wife gave birth. She had a hard time and I saw how my brother's support got them through it. That's when I realized that God had mercy on me by NOT giving me a child w/ DH#1.

It's true though - seems like the ones who shouldn't be, are the ones who are.