Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[Conservative Hippie]

Hello everyone! We are finally *officially* TTC!! My last day on BCP was last Sunday. I have endometriosis, so we are fighting an uphill battle. I will have some challenges as my body gets used to its natural hormone level, and I have no idea how long it will take to even have a regular cycle again (I haven't had a period in two years). So here's hoping I get knocked up!

 

[beckmrk04]

Welcome CH!! Glad to have you here! We hope you get knocked up too!

 

[kellyf2626]

Welcome CH!!

Best wishes on TTC! I will send good thoughts your way....

 

[helenabear]

DMickey, there are moments when I am glad that our parents really have no idea what we are up to It's funny for me to tell some friends that Luis' birthday was our magic day, but I would die of embarassment if my family knew. But I am glad it turned out so great for you

lil mermaid, that was so sweet what you just said. I am sorry you had to go through that pain first though.

Welcome Kelly! Good luck with trying! I've been in and out of this thread and we finally got our first BFP two days ago, but we had been trying for over 9 months. I went to my doc for my annual in June and she told me that I should worry that even after 6 months we weren't lucky. She told me to give it at least 3-6 more months after that. She said that most couples do take on average, 6-12 months to get pregnant. If it takes longer than that, then she suggests testing and checking things out. She more or less told me that I had to lighten up some. Gave me advice on best way to try to figure out when we should try. I was losing hope though.
In short, 4 months is really nothing I had talked to my doctor before we started trying too to make sure she saw nothing I needed to really worry about. I just figured it was wise to see if she had anything to suggest before hand. If it doesn't work she always suggested that I do it on day 11, 13 and 15 of my cycle (I have just about a 27 day cycle). Finding out about your cycle is a great thing! Just try not to stress about it much.
As for the emotional rollercoaster, I have been there and I totally understand how it is. I had to remove myself from a lot of things because of how much it hurt. Just hang in there.

Welcome CH! I do wish you all the luck with this!!

 

[kellyf2626]

Thanks Elaine! Good to know that 4 months and no BFP is ok. My doctor had told me not to worry, and that she recommends trying for about a year before running any tests, etc. It is always good to hear that other doctors say the same thing. Congrats on your BFP!!! You must be sooooo excited!! My mother keeps telling me that it will happen when it is supposed to happen. I just hope it is sooner than later!

 

[pokey]

Hi everyone!

I'm Julie and I have been lurking on this board for months now. I'm 28 and my DH is 30 and we have been TTC for the past few months. I am known to be somewhat of a nervous Nelly , and I was wondering if I could ask you all for your opinions. You all seem like such a smart, caring group and I would love to hear your advice. Since TTCing, I have been looking up lots of info on the internet of what you can and can't do. Well, let me tell ya, there is a lot of info on here, and I'm not sure what to believe. I am going to ask my Dr next time I see him, but I don't know when that will be and I want to stop obsessing about this now! You can be honest too....please!!! I would love to hear from everyone that has an opinion either way too.


2nd hand smoke-Is it OK to sit in a non-smoking restaurant that is still quite a bit smokey?

eating cold leftovers without reheating-I heard this is not good?

seat heaters in my car-haven't heard if it's ok or not?

perfume and perfumed lotions OK?

carrying heavy-ish laundry baskets up and downstairs?

basement that was painted 3 months ago but still stinks because nobody goes down there and there are no windows-ok to be down there?

Thanks y'all!

 

[Syrreal]

DMickey, there are moments when I am glad that our parents really have no idea what we are up to It's funny for me to tell some friends that Luis' birthday was our magic day, but I would die of embarassment if my family knew.

Helenabear That's funny. My MIL was excited that we may have made baby at their house. I had to burst her bubble that it was most likely at Disney.

2nd hand smoke-Is it OK to sit in a non-smoking restaurant that is still quite a bit smokey?

eating cold leftovers without reheating-I heard this is not good?

seat heaters in my car-haven't heard if it's ok or not?

perfume and perfumed lotions OK?

carrying heavy-ish laundry baskets up and downstairs?

basement that was painted 3 months ago but still stinks because nobody goes down there and there are no windows-ok to be down there?

Pokey- To tell you the truth, I didn't read all too much before DH and I started to TTC. We just did BD every other day for about a week and a half as soon as AF was over.

With your questions, I guess it depends. I will tell you my case (since I can't vouch for anyone else)
2nd hand smoke- Both DH and MIL smoke. I would somtimes sit with them while they smoked. I did try not to have smoke in my face or anything but that is nothing new to before I was TTC or pg.

Leftovers- I still don't always reheat leftovers. I also eat cold cuts, hotdogs, and corndogs and only have my meat medium. Now, if the leftovers are something that is specifically meant to be hot- soup, chili, rice & beans- then I heat it up but that is really personal preference as opposed to anything else.

Seat heaters- they are my friends. I have heard that the main thing is not to let your body go above 102 (maybe 103) so hot tubs are out once you get pg but am not sure about it before. I still take nice baths though. And I will be missing being able to get into the hot tub come winter.

Perfume and perfumed lotions- I still use them. I like smelling nice

Laundry baskets- I don't think that they can be heavy enough to cause damage since there are only so many clothes you can shove in one. i still do the laundy here. In fact, I just dragged one of my full baskets (we have teh mesh ones) upstairs 10 minutes ago.

Paint- Since it's been a while since you painted the basement, the harmful part of the fumes is probably out. If they are bothering you, I would suggest getting a couple of portable fans and open the door to the basement (if you have one). Then open your windows and such to increase ventilation in your house.

Hope that helped.

 

[WannabeRockerMom]

have any of you told anyone that you are ttc? i haven't told anyone.

 

[LisaB]

Well welcome to all and there is a wealth of info at this site. My name is Lisa and my husband and I had a 7 year old named Diana. We are at the point of injections and IUI. Kevin is 39 and I am 38 and were diagnosed with unexplained infertility. Everyone is at different stages and if you have any questions please feel free to ask because one of us should have the answer.

I go in for an u/s and bloodwork tommorrow I think IUI will be on tuesday and wednesday. 4 follicles on friday 10 10 11 and 14

 

[Conservative Hippie]

have any of you told anyone that you are ttc? i haven't told anyone.

I told my mom, my BF (who just had a baby last week), and I let it slip to my boss (I consider her a friend, too). I decided it was smart to tell my boss because I do very phsyical work (lifting 30-90 lb boxes on a regular basis) and I am concerned about that being safe when I am pregnant. She also has endometriosis and knows that going off the meds means I will be in pain most days.

 

[beckmrk04]

Pokey- You will read SOOOO many things about what you can and can't eat or can and can't do!!! It's mind boggling. Here's my take (not that I'm a doctor):

smoke- I try not to be around it if it can be helped. But, you're very likely getting a miniscule amount just in a restuarant for a short amount of time. Don't worry.

eating- My first OB told me that if I avoided all the foods I was "supposed" to avoid, all I would be able to eat would be chocolate. In other words, you'll likely be fine. Avoid the major no-no's like sushi (although I'm sure Japanese women eat it and still manage to give birth so-whatever); alcohol, and unpasteurized products (which there aren't a lot of in the US anyway). Your leftovers are probably fine, as long as they were stored in the fridge.

seat heaters- use them. Love them. They'll likely feel REALLY good on your aching back. DOn't do saunas or hot tubs- they heat you up too much. But you can take baths.

perfume/lotions- fine. IF you can stand the smell. I was so sick I had to switch to fragrance free deoderant.

laundry- you can pretty much lift whatever isn't too heavy for you. You just can't overdo it. I still do laundry- but I will soon have a problem because once my belly gets bigger (and messes with my balance) there's NO WAY I'll be able to carry the baskets up our narrow stairs. SO- hubby will have to transport the baskets. BUT, my mom was single and had me and my sis while prego with my bro- she managed to do laundry. So- whatever feels comfy for you.

Paint- eh, who knows. Lots of women help paint the nursery and they have babies that come out just fine. Just ventilate, open windows, turn on a fan, etc.

My best advice is don't go overboard. WOmen have been having babies for thousands of years. DO what you are comfortable with. SOmetimes things will come up that you can't control: for instance, last week when I was in the hospital I had to have a VQ scan (like a cat scan) where they injected me with radioactive material to look for a blood clot in my lung. NOW, we all know that radiation can be harmful to baby, but a blood clot could have meant my death. It's hard being pregnant and sorting through so much info and trying to make sure you aren't doing anything to hurt your precious cargo, BUT the odds are greatly in your favor that you and baby will be just fine, even if you have an X-ray or eat bleu cheese (like I do).

Always feel free to ask any questions- someone will answer. And always check with your doc once you do get pregnant! Until then, have fun ttc!

 

[ImarriedGrumpy]

Wow, lots of new people! Awesome!! Welcome to the group, everyone! I just love hanging out here and learning from everyone. It's also a great support group and a safe place to vent when you're feeling fed up or frustrated or hurt.

Pokey, there's a book called "Fearless Pregnancy" that really helped my friend during her first pregnacy. She was a worrier, and this book helped her to not worry so much. It's a reassuring book, and I've enjoyed reading it.

 

[7beasley]

That is great Carla. What is your doctor planning on doing to make it stick. Now if only we can get Nicole pregant that would be another miracle.

LisaB -- thank you -- you are so sweet!!

I am convinced that this thread is good luck. I am sure it will happen for me soon and you too!!!

~Nicole

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Congrats Elaine and Carla!! P&PD for sticky babies for both of you!!!

'Someone asked about leftovers..I have been eating them cold.

I have been avoiding lunch meat and cold cuts like the plague. You are supposed to reheat them and I like my turkey cold.

Also they finally released "why" it is so bad.

It is due to the listeria...while it may not harm you--the little buggars can hang out in the placenta...and then just grow and cause trouble. To me it isn't worth the chance though I had no problems in my first two pregnancies. Just too germ-y for me.

 

[Syrreal]

Mmmm...blue cheese. I just bought and had some two days ago.

Oh...I have had some alcohol too (some ice cider when I was in Canada). A sip here and there isn't hurting anyone.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Mmmm...blue cheese. I just bought and had some two days ago.

Oh...I have had some alcohol too (some ice cider when I was in Canada). A sip here and there isn't hurting anyone.

I wish...I know I want to drink the whole glass or bottle or whatever....so none for me.

Now if only I can find a place that will deliver marguertia's to the delivery room...push out baby--hug and snuggles...marguarita on the rocks, salt on the rim, please!

A girl can dream, can't she?

 

[beckmrk04]

Margarita delivery to delivery sounds super!

I haven't had any alcohol. And really, it's more because I worry about what people would say or think than I worry about what one glass of wine would do to my baby.

Mostly, I don't worry about what I eat- I'm just glad that I CAN eat now. Beats the heck out of liquid intravenous nutrition anyday! ((((shudder)))) I'm going to need some HARDCORE pregnancy amnesia to do this again. One of my doctors offered me money to never get pregnant again, or to at least wait until he retires!

Anyway- I was kind of excited tonight. For the very first time tonight, I felt Baby move and was SURE that it was in fact the baby, and not just some weird sensation or gas. That was pretty cool. I've been looking forward to that, especially since I have had such an awful pregnancy- it helps me remember what I am doing all of this for.

 

[7beasley]

This has been a busy thread today!! I took notes so I could respond to all the new postings! I should be sleeping since I am taking tomorrow off from work since I am still recovering from my gallbladder surgery but I could not sleep. I was watching Desperate Housewives (and I won't post a spoiler in case any one taped it to watch later) but the thing with Carlos and Gabby put me in a melancholy, bugging my husband about getting pregnant and what things will be like for us mood. And since he does have to go to work tomorrow and was sleeping and was in no mood to indulge my "baby talk" I came downstairs to dis...

Elaine -- I am so happy for you - congrats. Sending lot of positive sticky vibes your way.

LisaB -- as stated previously -- thank you! I am so happy to hear about your 4 follicles - I hope the IUI goes great.

DMickey28 -- hi -- funny story about conceiving at your parents!! At least it was only at their house and not in their bed...because what a story that would have made!! Glad to hear things are moving along well for you.

Becky -- thanks for the nice thoughts...it really helps me to keep hearing it said that my baby will be mine and things kind of happen for a reason and though harder than the "normal" pregnancy route - things will be okay. Thank you for being such a great cheerleader!! On to the name Vayla -- I love it - it is so pretty, unique and cool. Of course - she will never be able to find pencils or a bike license plate but who cares -- she will stand out in a world of common names -- I love it. Does your husband love it? If you are having second thoughts - maybe it could be your daughter's middle name?

WannabeRockerMom -- Welcome -- this is a great group of women and we are hear for you!! In response to your question about whether we told people we were TTC -- I can only speak for myself...we did not tell anyone -- in fact - we only told our parents and siblings we were TTC when I got my POF diagnosis -- everyone was schocked since they never knew that for the last year we were going through so much stress and problems. In fact, my mother was particularly terrible and fustrating as she kept asking me during that year when was I going to get pregnant because she wanted a grandchild...it would reduce me to tears when she would ask. I think that sharing that you are TTC is a personal decision between you and your husband to make - I think it also matters as to who your support system is - will the people you tell be nosy or just file that info away and be there for you if you need them? Also - do you gain anything telling people right now - would you rather it be a surprise? These are personal things which you have to think about and decide. It is good news though any way you look at it and if you want to share it with people than you should!

Lil Mermaid -- Thanks -- you guys and your nice comments and good wishes have succeeded in making me cry for the second time tonight about babies and egg donors and IVF!! I feel lucky to have this support group of such great people. The child I was meant to have...thank you -- as I said before -- it really helps me to keep hearing that. I am convinced that the baby I deliver will be the baby that some higher power predisposed me to have and love and be mom too...thank you!!

Kellyf -- Welcome!! This is a great group and everyone here is a wealth of information. I echo Becky's fine post and agree that you should consider charting. I think most find it helpful for a few months to try to figure out your body and your cycle. As for seeing your doctor - that is a personal decision...I would rely on your own gut instinct. After about 4-5 months of TTC - I just *knew* knew with ever bone in my body that something was wrong and things were not normal. So I did make an appt with my doctor and she reassured me all was fine and told me to relax and lose weight and sent me on my way. I went back to her again at about 6-7 months and she told me to chart. I went back again at 9 months and she again told me to lose weight and had my husband do a semen analysis. I went back at 10 months and told her I *knew* something was wrong and she did a bunch of blood work but she never ordered the MOST IMPORTANT lab test - which is an FSH level test -- all the tests she did order came back fine and she again told me to relax and keep trying. At 11 months I had 2 ultrasounds and she could not detect that ovulation had occurred. At exactly 12 months after I first started TTC I saw a RE specialist -- he did an FSH test and diagnosed my POF immediately. That was in June -- now 4 months later I am getting ready to go through IVF with a donor egg. I wish that I had sought help earlier since I do not think my obgyn was doing a very good job and my gut told me something was wrong...

My story though is **far** from typical or normal...for most people, you included - 4 months is nothing and there is no need to worry. I would chart though and in 6 months (or sooner if you have that instinct/gut feeling) I would make an appt and get a semen analysis done and have your doctor run standard blood tests including a cycle day 3 FSH test...I would also get the book that Becky mentioned (Taking Charge of your Fertility) - someone on this board recommended it to me and it is the best thing out there...doesn't hurt to be educated! You can get it on Amazon.

Conservative Hippie -- Welcome!! This is a great group -ask anything - someone here will have an answer. Have fun TTC -- the baby dancing is the best part!!

Julie -- Welcome!! Glad you joined our lucky little group! As for your questions, I think you should just follow general health rules/guidelines during the TTC process. In other words, smoke is never good to be around and I would be leary about eating uncooked/cold food for general health reasons (TTC or not) -- the other stuff (i.e: perfume and paint) is fine and nothing to worry about. Just live your life normally while you TTC. The only possible TTC changes are to limit your alcohol and caffenie intake. Also - I would chart!! Charting is really a good thing for a couple of months to get to know your body and your cycles.

LisaLovesPooh -- Hi -- nice to see you! Cool news about hearing the baby's heartbeat (in your countdown!)

Syrreal -- Hi -- margarita delivery -- you guys are too funny!

Carla -- how are you? Have you peed on any more sticks today? Did you tell your husband about the line yet? Your RE is going to be so excited!!

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Has anyone heard from Kristy, JeninNH or Vettechick99??? Those girls have been MIA for awhile. I hope they are all doing well!

Well - that is all for now ladies. Sweet baby filled dreams!

~Nicole

 

[Syrreal]

Heck...I just may take a bottle of my fave wine with us to the delivery room packed in my bag! When I say I had sips that really is just what I had...even though I REALLY wanted more.

It will be hard at disney in Nov when I will want a REAL pina colada when we eat at Ohanas. I will only be able to get a virgin one. And I almost feel bad for anyone who comes up to me and tries to say something. They will get the biggest head-chewing they will ever know. Me sick or me pregnant is pretty much the same thing- rather intolerant of other people's sticking their nose where it doesn't belong. I don't know if anyone read my post on the most shocking thread about the guy that decided to tell me how much money I was adding to his vacation because he decided I was stealing 6 packets of salt from the POR food court last March (I was so sick and was going to make a salt water gargle from them). All I can say is that the guy chose the wrong person to try and yell at (over nothing I might add) and it ended up with me telling him just where he could shove his vacation and all the salt packets in the food court. Pregnancy has made me even more vocal about things.... just let anyone try to say anything....

ETA- hmm, just saw the bottom of the page- how exactly is this thread related to the following threads-
To DDP or not to DDP?
Anyone not like Crocks?

Made me go Hmmmm.

 

[kellyf2626]

Nicole - Thanks for the info! We will see how next month goes when I chart. Not that I am giving up for this month....but I really don't have any "signs", so I am trying not to get my hopes up. I think we will try until Christmas, and if no luck by then, go see my doctor. What is the FSH test testing for? I am planning on going out and getting that book (Taking Charge of Your Fertility) this week!!

Again...thanks for all the support!!