Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[fanofdisney]

Hi, I'm a newbie here! I've wanted another child for over a year now, and have been trying for 3 months. My son will be 6 in December. It took 4 months with him. My husband had cancer when I was pregnant before, and went through some surgeries and chemo. Surprisingly, we got him checked and his fertility is just fine! Yay! I used an ovulation kit this past month. It just frustrates me that we have sex when I know I'm ovulating, and still don't get pregnant! Waiting to conceive is the hardest!

 

[fanofdisney]

Does anyone else get really nervous while they are ttcing and feel like "if" they were pregnant, had they already done so many things wrong? I never knew how difficult this would be. Maybe I am being TOO crazy with this whole TTC thing and just need to relax more and wait till I get a BFP and then start eating and doing things perfectly? Easier said than done! Ugggh! I am making myself crazy.

I do the same thing! When Aunt Flo is visiting, I drink wine and caffeine, and load up on chocolate and whatever other junk is around! lol About 2 weeks into my cycle, I eat as though I were pregnant.

 

[helenabear]

Hi everyone! I called my doctor this morning, and I suspected, I would have a few weeks to wait before I would go in. They like to do the first blood test and initial visit with a NP at about 4-8 weeks. Then go in for an ultrasound from 8-12 weeks. Unless there is a previous history of something, they don't need to see you right away. So I have my first appointment on October 20th at 8 am and my second one is November 17th at 8:30 am. The lady on the phone was nice and of course said to call if anything happened.

Carla, I'm all for being a nervous wreck together! I have relaxed moments and very unrelaxed moments. Glad to hear that the line was a lot darker and came up quick! I know many women who have told me they spotted a bit the first trimester and were fine. I have only had a few specks of brown, but for the most part just feel a lot of "moisture" in genearal. Some tugging and pulliing, but a lot more gastro issues.

Kelly, I am sure it will happen for you soon : Your mom is right and keep trying to look at your TTC sticker in your sig. I'm a believer in God and I believe it will happen all in God's time

Julie, welcome to the boards and the thread!!! As for what you can and can't do... well, not much I will say to that. I avoid smoke all togehter due to allergies, but everything else... nah, I do it. Or I have been doing it and not really caring. The only thing I haven't done is drank a lot of alcohol, but that isn't something I was big on anyway Oh and I am not a fan of cold cuts being cold. I much prefer a hot sandwhich, so that won't change. If I get a turkey from Panera, I'll just nuke it for 20 seconds so it is hot. I admit in general though, I try to live a very healthy life, so save alcohol, nothing is really a conscious effort for me.
I did stop taking one set of eye drops though in fear that would cause problems. It did in the rats, so I didn't want to risk it for a human

I think DMickey has a good point. Provided there isn't a medical condition, trying too hard can be a curse. I think I was trying way too hard and last month I gave up. Granted this is too early to say if it will stick or not, but not really trying at all can be a good thing since stress can cause bad things with TTC. Now of course the bad is, if you don't try to find out about your cycle, you may miss if you think you have issues or not. A fine line to walk and hard I think to decide what is best!

Syrreal, I think if my mom were alive or my in-laws weren't nearly the devil I would feel differently about if they kne where we conceived or not. That is too funny that your MIL was excited it happened in her house. Though I truly like the idea of having a "souvenier" much better

WannabeRocker, I have not told any family yet about TTC or even being pregnant at the moment. I did tell one cousin about TTC, but it came up while talkign about her newborn. Otherwise I didn't wnat to tell anyone except a few friends so I would have support. My DH accidentally let it slip that we were trying to his mom... then his brother found out and asked me about it I am very firm on don't tell anyone that you don't want to know... some can be *VERY* pushy about it.

Lisa, wishing you all the luck today at the doctor

ImarriedGrumpy, thanks for that book... I am such a worrier that it might help me to be put at ease. Even reading a thread this morning had me concerned aobut morning sickness. I've started to feel queasy a bit and have some heart burn, but nothing major. The last thing I wanted to read was that morning sickness was a sign of a healty pregnancy. Makes you worry... even though I have known friends who were sick and didn't... in my head I know that morning sickness basically means nothing about healthy, but it still got me paranoid!

Nicole, I think this thread is good luck too... even lurking I think it helped

Minnesota, I figure the EDD would be June 6, 2007. Both based on the LMP and obvious conception date, I got that both ways I plugged it in. And I am sorry that you lost your dad. Yes, it is so hard to lose your parent before a big moment like this. You never expected them not to be there for some things (in my case HS & college grad, marriage, first house... etc) I just hope that she is looking down and smiling. Not sure if you believe in that thing or not though A big no matter what.

Christal I am so very sorry to hear that. Feel free to cry it out! I know I did my last period and bawled as soon as I got home from lunch when I found out a friend got pregnant. It really does stink. I think if you feel the need for further testing, then ask for it! My doctor told me naturally it takes a while, but if I wanted to do more, she would. She left it up to me, so go with your gut!
Welcome though, and I hope you have good results soon!

Michelle, I do hope all goes well with the laprocsopy. I hope that they can clear you out and htat will be the only thing that may have gotten in your way until now. I'm smiling though, my DH think that 13 is a very lucky number. He was born on that day as well! I hope your time comes and so sweet of you to get a massage since you were so down

Jen my fingers are crossed for you! I do hope all goes well at the appt! I'm a pessimist too, so I know how that can feel I'll be thinking good thoughts for you.

Fanofdisney, welcome to the thread! I hope all works out well for you soon. I am glad to hear that your DH is doing fine even after all the chemo!

 

[beckmrk04]

Christal- almost every person on this thread has been there while ttc; it is so devastating to have AF show up every month. I am sure it is even more frustrating when it's costing you money! Feel free to vent and share as much as you need to (we all do!).

Pokey and Wannabe- I did everything "wrong" when I finally got my BFP. I drank alcohol (not a lot, but a few drinks that week), took medicines, whatever. I finally just figured that there was no sense acting like I was pregnant only to be disappointed. And then I got my BFP! And I don't worry about it for one second. SO many people do such crazy sh*t when they are pregnant and still have healthy normal average babies- I figured I would too.

fanofdisney- I remember one month we had BD'd on all the right days, I ovulated and everything, and STILL- BFN. I was livid. We had done everything "right." It's really frustrating. BUT- it'll happen. I think a lot of us (me especially): when we decide we're finally ready for a baby, we want it NOW! OUr culture is one of instant-gratification. Unfortunately, baby-making doesn't work like that. Welcome to the group.

 

[Minnesota!]

Elaine - June is a great month for a baby My son is June 22! I will promise you...time will drag until your first appointment! I just made my next appt for the 30th and I know October is going to be one LONG month! Yeah, my dad died 10 months before my wedding. He has missed a lot. It just blows my mind since it just seems like a completely different life. Hard to remember, sometimes, life any other way. So let's see, you would be about 5 weeks pregnant? My strong symptoms didn't kick in until into the 6th week - almost 7 weeks. And then they subsided until about the 9th/10th week. I never had morning sickness with my son, so it has no bearing (I think) on the outcome of the pg. I hope yours is as smooth as possible

Carla - any updates??? Have you POAS a bunch more?

Welcome to our newest members!

I will say, I never stopped living the way I do during the 2ww. I don't know - I am old school, I guess. What was good enough for my mom, grandma, etc. is good enough for me. I ate what I wanted, drank what I wanted, etc. I watch myself now, but for the first couple of weeks of pg, all I could eat were grilled cheese sandwiches, french fries and mayo to dip them in. Not too healthy, I know. But I was able to keep it down!

 

[kellyf2626]

Nicole...thanks for explaining about the test. That is something I will definelty ask for whenever I do go to the doctors.

Elaine...I do have faith in God, and am a true believer that things happen when they are supposed to happen. So, I guess when it is my time, I will see that BFP!

On another note....maybe some of you that have recently conceived can help me out. Over the last 24 hours I have been getting major hot flashes and have had weird cramping in my abdomen and lower right back. Are these good signs?? I got excited and came home today from work and tested...but got a BFN. O well....I will keep thinking positively!!

 

[mickeyboat]

Minnesota, I figure the EDD would be June 6, 2007.

That is my 15th wedding anniversary! If you have it on that day, I guess you will have to name it after me - boy or girl!

Denae

 

[helenabear]

That is my 15th wedding anniversary! If you have it on that day, I guess you will have to name it after me - boy or girl!

Denae

I'll let you know how that goes over with my DH

Minnesota, per the little countdown I have (not posted in a sig) I am almost 5 weeks. I do hope this really doesn't get any worse for me though, because I would hate to be in WDW sick as a dog I do have the appt one week before I go and I sure as heck will be asking for drugs if it is otherwise Though I have been told that how you react to BCP is similar to how you react to being pregnant. I hope that is true Of course I'm sure that is another "old wives tale" that will be wrong

Kelly, to answer your question, yes I did get very hot at night which is very odd for me. I wound up taking my temp (though I had stopped that for a while) and it was a bit up. I figured I was fighting an allergy thing or something I also have had some pains, though not menstrual types. Mine were actually more localized and a bit more intense at some moments. But over all they were not like my regular cramps. I of course, was telling myself that AF was just on her way.

Now of course I don't want you to get too much false hopes, but I don't want those hopes to be dashed either. Keep thinking positively though!!!

My DH asked me a cute question though... what am I going to do with my belly button ring. I told him, it will stay as long as it can... and I'll see if there are any retainers I can put in that will be slightly more comfortable too I just thought that was cute of him to ask!

 

[WannabeRockerMom]

I would actually like to tell my friends about ttc, but I'm worried about how they will react. My best friend is going through a divorce, so I didn't want to tell her until I got a BFP. And my husband has just changed jobs and I'm scared that people will think that its not the best time, even though it feels like the perfect time to us.

I would even like to tell my online friends b/c they have been such huge support to me in the past, but I don't know. Maybe I'm just being weird about it, but that's why I have this screen name.

Maybe It's just my conscious because I always said that I would wait until everything was perfect. Then I realized that there will always be something. And now just feels right.

 

[beckmrk04]

Wannabe- You gotta go with your gut. No one can tell you when the perfect time for you is, and you're right: there will always be something.

When DH and I discovered we were pregnant, we were done remodeling the house, he has a job, I just started a new job at a bank making decent money- we could afford to have a baby.

............................NOW:

I can't work because I have been so sick (and because they "let me go" BECAUSE I was sick), we're barely scraping by it seems like. But who could have guessed that things would turn out this way? So the timing WAS really great, but then life got in the way. You know what you do? You deal with it. You figure it out. Sometimes it's hard and sucky and sometimes it's a piece of cake. But- that's what life is. That's what being a parent is: it won't be all fun and cuddles and cute words. But, it'll be worth it.

 

[WannabeRockerMom]

Well I haven't worked since I graduated from college. I've just had a really hard time finding a job. I've either been over qualified or under qualified. But now maybe I'm thinking that is a blessing in disguise. Maybe I should just try doing ebay or something like that again. And another good thing is that my DH's new job is better paying and a more secure company.

 

[fanofdisney]

Just keep in mind- if you wait for the timing to be just right, you will never have kids! Kids join your lives, you don't cater it all to bringing them into the world. It's just not reasonable.

OT a little: Has anyone used the First Response early test kits? The ones that say you can test 5 days early? I used one today, and it said negative. I'm due in 5 days. I just wondered how accurate they are. I'm hoping they aren't that early. lol

 

[Syrreal]

Though I have been told that how you react to BCP is similar to how you react to being pregnant. I hope that is true Of course I'm sure that is another "old wives tale" that will be wrong

Do you mean that if you got sick on BCP you're supposed to get more m/s?
If that's it then I can give you an emphatic NO. I never felt sick on BCPs and was sick all day with morning sickness. Although beck is the queen on m/s in my book! (BECK, honestly, I hope you have the easiest delivery and most well behaved kid on earth!)

Now, my m/s didn't start until I hit 6 weeks exactly but it didn't get bad until a couple of days later. I wonder sometimes how much the lack of m/s had to do with my REALLY not wanting to puke while I was in Brazil. I hate havig people around me when I get sick and I was in a house with my mom, 3 of my aunts, and my brother- all of who would be at the door wanting to come in and "help me". DH isn't even allowed in the bathroom until I'm done! Although he is always very sweet and asks from behind the door if I'm okay and if he can get me anything.

I will say that sometimes, if I was distracted, it wouldn't seem so bad. I could sit through a movie just fine and went out with friends a couple of times. I think disney would be the greatest distraction

 

[beckmrk04]

That's right. I AM the Queen Of Morning Sickness.

although I didn't really want to be.....

In all honesty, hyperemesis is more like food poisoning. If you can imagine having that for 3 months straight. ((((shudder)))) I am already starting to block it from my memory.

Thanks Syrreal, I was kinda hoping for a good kid too. After all of this, I think I deserve an easy labor and a good baby!

 

[Syrreal]

OT a little: Has anyone used the First Response early test kits? The ones that say you can test 5 days early? I used one today, and it said negative. I'm due in 5 days. I just wondered how accurate they are. I'm hoping they aren't that early. lol

I did and it told me bfn. Then I took another one 3 days after I was supposed to get AF and got a BFP. They are not very accurate until the atleast the day you actually miss AF (it's even listed on the paper)

 

[beckmrk04]

I tested with First Response. And a TON of HPTs from the Dollar Tree (my habit got EXPENSIVE).

9dpo- BFN
10dpo- BFN
11dpo- BFN
12dpo- BFN
13dpo- gave up and didn't test.
14dpo- temps still up! BFP!

 

[fanofdisney]

I'm new- can someone translate all these commonly used abbreviations for me. Thanks!

 

[beckmrk04]

fan- go to www.twoweekwait.com and on the left click on "TTC Lingo dictionary"

EVERY abbreviation ever will be there!

BTW- i need to remember to keep things to myself. For instance, I just asked for opinions (on the Nest board) on the name DH and I have picked out for our baby girl. And the reaction was pretty negative. And I was already feeling a little doubt about the name anyway- now it's worse and I'm mad at myself for listening to a bunch of girls who dont' know me anyway. Why do I do these things? Hmmm?

Ok. Vent over.

 

[ImarriedGrumpy]

BTW- i need to remember to keep things to myself. For instance, I just asked for opinions (on the Nest board) on the name DH and I have picked out for our baby girl. And the reaction was pretty negative. And I was already feeling a little doubt about the name anyway- now it's worse and I'm mad at myself for listening to a bunch of girls who dont' know me anyway. Why do I do these things? Hmmm?

Ok. Vent over.

Don't listen to anyone, Becky! I love the name, but frankly I don't think it should matter what anyone else says. If that is the name that "resonates" for you, then that's the name!

I've had a girl's name picked out for years - Miriam Rosemary - and I told DH before we were married that this would be the name of our first daughter. (He's been very good about saying that's okay!) I, too, made the mistake of telling a few people about it, and I've heard all kinds of comments about it. I've finally just said "sorry you don't like it, but it looks like you have some time to get used to it. Try practicing saying it a few times until it feels normal, because that's going to be the name of our first daughter." I'm especially emphatic about this because my mom's name was Rosemary, and ever since she died I've known that I'd name my first girl after her in some way. And I love Miriam, and her story in the Bible has some parallels to my mom's life (long story), so this name means a lot to me.

Becky, I love the name you've chosen, and I think you should stick with what YOU love!

 

[beckmrk04]

ImarriedGrumpy- Thanks so much!! I needed a little pick-me-up.

I'm just feeling cranky and hormonal.