...and she doesn't even know I exist - UPDATE PAGE 9

[Stepharoonie!]

Good luck!!

 

[Disney Doll]

I would go there for lunch...it's easier to go alone for lunch and you won't look like a loser...and smile and be nice and talk to her. Do that a couple of times and if she seems receptive, ask her out.

 

[mum4jenn]

I agree with the person that knows the manager. Try to find out something about her from maybe the hostess or another waitress. That way you can find out if she is available and what kind of person she is. Then if things look promising the next thing to do would be to ask to sit in her section and try to go when it is not too busy so that maybe she would have a chance to talk a bit more. Next if you get to sit and chat a bit maybe send a single rose(or a cute stuffed animal) to her(find out if she is working the day you plan on sending it).I also agree with maybe exchanging email at first if she is more comfortable with that. Ask her for sure though. She might not be bugged at all about exchanging phone numbers in the beginningThan if everything is going well ask her to go someplace for a movie or even just a place where you can get a soda or something so yall can talk and get to know each other better.


GOOD LUCK!!! Wish I was about 20 years younger!!LOL!!!

 

[Jungle Skipper]

Well...psuedo update....I had a rough day at the cinema today...one of my projectors went nutso on me tons of work I didn't intend on doing today....ended up covered in projector oil - not a fun feeling!

Ended up getting away for lunch a bit late and went to my car, fought the traffic and went to Texas Roadhouse. I worked up the nerve to go for it, go in and and......and.... ....................Shes NOT there!

sigh....so I grad a drink at the bar , go do some shopping (bought a new television) and went back to work. Oh and I was talking to a friend about my attempt who found it thougrouly amuzing that right before I went in to TR, that song by Sting came on...you know "Every Breath you take" - that stalker song.... ..almost made me balk at going in.

Argh...I can't believe it, This could only happen to me!

Thanks for all the support....As I said in the original post, I've never been timid around women (or anyone for that matter), but for some reason this one has my stomach in knots...I just don't know what to do! And I figured heck, after a long day of work and other things, I might be able to get my mind off of her....but NOOOOoooo not this one, she's just as emblazened in my mind as she was yesterday.

Well, now I am home and trying to unwind....thought I'd let you know what happened...thoughts?

Jungle Josh

 

[gr8tpanther]

Go BACK!!!! Keep going back till you see her! I would ask about her when you are there and ask when she works next.

 

[DoeWDW]

You've gotta see this one through! Keep going back until she's there, or ask the hostess when she'll be working again. C'mon, we're all waiting for that happy ending!!

"....and they lived happily ever after."

I'm wishing you much luck!!

 

[pogo791]

JJ, at least you've taken the first step by going back. Waitresses have to work long hours, so there was and is always the chance that she won't be in at a certain time.

But by all means, do go back again! I agree with WDWHound, the worst thing to do is not to even try, and then regret that for a long time to come.

Oh, BTW, one more piece of advice: when you do meet her (and you will!) don't immediately mention that you've been asking for advice on line. The first time you meet, that may strike her as creepy. But after she gets to know you better, she'll probably think that's the sweetest thing anyone has ever done!

We're all rooting for you, JJ!

 

[Jungle Skipper]

We're all rooting for you, JJ!

Well thanks, that means a lot....I'm doing everything I can to work up the nerve to go again. It's so weird...

Jungle Josh

 

[Tinkertude]

I just love a good love story. I believe in love at first sight and sounds like this is a possible example. Go for the gold and keep us posted

 

[Kallison]

Why don't you sit in her area, and then leave her a note with a generous tip -- here is my email or phone number, I think you are the most beautiful woman ever, please contact me if you are interested in getting to know me better.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Oh and I was talking to a friend about my attempt who found it thougrouly amuzing that right before I went in to TR, that song by Sting came on...you know "Every Breath you take" - that stalker song.... ..almost made me balk at going in.

First off, there is a difference between a crazy loon stalking someone and a sweet, normal guy who likes a sweet, normal girl and goes to talk to her at work.

I think it's great that you went back and maybe next time you go back, some of the stress may not be there from this time. One of these times she's bound to be there and I think you should be direct. Don't leave a note. Don't leave a number. Just go up and talk to her. I'd be creeped out if someone just left me their # on a napkin. I'd rather see you face to face and know who you are.

I still think she'll just absolutely adore you. I can't imagine any woman not.

 

[Stepharoonie!]

Go back

 

[gr8tpanther]

Did ya go today? Huh? Didga? Didga?

 

[EvMc]

Hey Josh- I went by tonight to ask about her for you! I waited 1.5 hours for a table, by the way!!!! I asked about her and she is NOT dating anyone. I did see her---assuming its the right one! There is 1 Ginny - dark hair, tonight pulled into a ponytail and 1 or 2 Jenny's. She was delivering the food tonight, not waiting tables. Oh, remember - they aren't open for lunch! So if she is working, it is probably at night!

So, now we she is not dating anyone-----GO FOR IT!!!!!

 

[gr8tpanther]

Hey Josh- I went by tonight to ask about her for you! I waited 1.5 hours for a table, by the way!!!! I asked about her and she is NOT dating anyone. I did see her---assuming its the right one! There is 1 Ginny - dark hair, tonight pulled into a ponytail and 1 or 2 Jenny's. She was delivering the food tonight, not waiting tables. Oh, remember - they aren't open for lunch! So if she is working, it is probably at night!

So, now we she is not dating anyone-----GO FOR IT!!!!!

No excuses now, suck it up and GO!

 

[Elwood Blues]

Hey Josh- I went by tonight to ask about her for you! I waited 1.5 hours for a table, by the way!!!! I asked about her and she is NOT dating anyone. I did see her---assuming its the right one! There is 1 Ginny - dark hair, tonight pulled into a ponytail and 1 or 2 Jenny's. She was delivering the food tonight, not waiting tables. Oh, remember - they aren't open for lunch! So if she is working, it is probably at night!

So, now we she is not dating anyone-----GO FOR IT!!!!!

Hey man, don't muck it up for him!!

 

[EvMc]

Hey man, don't muck it up for him!!

Just doing as he asked of me.

 

[Elwood Blues]

Just doing as he asked of me.

Sorry, I must have missed that.

 

[Jungle Skipper]

Well I didn't go back today...but only because I had to work all day...and I didn't get a lunch break. Luckily for me, my lunch break is usually around 5pm, so they're open.....maybe tomorrow?

And I am pretty sure you saw the right Ginny....dark hair with a pony tail...::sigh:: he most beautiful woman I've ever seen.

I definatly want to talk to here, not leave a note...but I just can't convince myself what to say...it's bizzare!

Argh..well I'm gonna go hook up my new TV I bought yesterday....I'll check back in a bit.

Jungle Josh

 

[Joanne M]

Start by discussing the menu and her recommendations. From there, you can ask her if she had a nice Christmas Christmas and tell her about a funny gift you got. Tell her a story rather than pump her with questions. That's harmless and non-threatening for a first conversation. Later, you can lead up to asking her if she would be able to meet you for a drink or coffee.

The difference between being a stalker and being a normal guy is what you do with the information you may get about Ginny. Do NOT look up her phone number or address on your own. Only get it from her. She will give you as much information about herself as she is comfortable with. Do not do other "research" on your own. That can be viewed as threatening or stalking behavior. Just talk to her about normal friendly topics, like she is a normal person with a brain. That's what will impress her....not some cheesy pick-up line.

I had a friend who sent flowers to a woman he had a crush on at her workplace. Because she hadn't told him where she worked, it freaked her out. He totally blew any chance he had with her by overstepping the boundaries, even though he only wanted to surprise her with a nice gesture. Don't make the same mistake! Don't let Ginny know you had someone sheck her out without her knowing, or that you asked for advice on line! That looks too creepy to someone who doesn't know you yet!

Just relax and let her get to know you a little, without hitting on her. Make friends with her! Then let us know what happens......