...and she doesn't even know I exist - UPDATE PAGE 9

[DHSsenior007]

I think this is one of the sweetest things I've read ever.... awwwww... why can't I get a guy like you, oh wait, I'm in high school, a lot of the cute guys are jerks... lol off subject... Anyway...

I wouldn't decide ahead of time to ask her out, just start talking to her using the different previous suggestions and, like a previous poster said, if you think she's interested, ask her out or get her phone number. Good luck and keep us updated!!

 

[edcrbnsoul]

Im with the nothing ventured nothing gained group its going to drive you crazy if you keep wishing you had gone and talked to her and never did.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

I think you should go back!

Any woman would love to meet a guy as sweet as you.

 

[Jungle Skipper]

I think you should go back!

Any woman would love to meet a guy as sweet as you.

Gosh I hope you're right Esmerelda...thanks..you always make me smile!

So yeah, I'm off to work..I appreciate the wonderful support and advice..keep it coming. For now I am off to work, I work a LOOOOOOOON G shift at the cinema today...maybe I can convince myself I need to take my lunch break at Texas Roadhouse...we'll see.

Keep the thoughts flowing and good karma my way around say 5pm Central time...maybe I CAN do this.

Jungle Josh

 

[Serena]

What's the alternative Josh?

Not going back, not trying to see what will happen. Making yourself miserable because you didn't at least see if some sparks would happen?

 

[luvdisney81]

Heed the advice of Disers...Still bummed I live 10 hours away...sigh she would be so lucky to have a sweety like you

 

[gshoemate]

Go back! If you don't you will wonder for the rest of your life what could of been. What do you have to lose???

 

[SyracuseWolvrine]

A little advice that may help you at least talk to her ... remember your roots Disney tends to hire people that are outgoing and don't mind talking to people they don't know.

Good luck, and may the schwartz be with you.

 

[kar313]

I agree with everyone else. Esp w/ the poster that said make a list of things that you could talk to her about. Weather, holidays, sports, etc. I would certainly be flattered with the attention even if I wasn't available. Like everyone has said what do you have to lose? Sounds like you aren't thinking about much else right now. It would be a comfort just to get this behind you even if nothing comes of it. JMHO

 

[EvMc]

Hey Josh, you want me to ask Chris (TR Manager) and get the scoop for you? I know a few of the servers, too. Maybe I could get you some inside information!

 

[crcormier]

Go for a return trip, buddy! And let us know how it turns out!

 

[Fantasmic303]

Go for it!

As someone who is easily creeped out by potentially sketchy guys (remember, here...I've given my heart to Clay Aiken! ) here's my opinion.

Firstly, what you posted was very sweet. I think that is reason enough to take a chance.

As for how to go about it, I'd definitely go to have lunch or dinner there a few times, and definitely ask to sit in her section.

I wouldn't be too forward too quickly though. Casual conversation is your best bet the first time around. By asking to sit in her section, you're just about guaranteeing that the hostess will tell her you asked to sit there (thereby bringing attention to yourself), but you don't want to catch her totally off guard by outright pursuing her. Or, atleast, I wouldn't want someone to. A little mystery is frustrating (YES!), but it can also be very attractive. And not creepy. Fine line between sweet and scary. I would suggest you don't ask her out that first night, but maybe say something to find out what her normal schedule is, and make your big move the second time.

Be a nice guy the first time around (as usual), and she'll be going through the same thing you are right now, hoping you'll show up on her next shift!!

A very wise movie once said the following: "I do not regret the things I've done, but those I did not do."

You'll get over it if she doesn't work out for you, but you 'll never stop wondering if you don't even try.

(PS - Don't waste any time...don't forget that she could have taken this job to pay for the holidays or while she's on break from school or something - you don't want to miss out!!)

 

[WDWHound]

OK Josh, you have 2 choices. You either go back and talk to her or you don't.

If you go back and talk to her, you will eventually either be successful and get her to go out with you or it wont work out. The first possible result is very good. The second possible result is admitedly scarey, but you will soon be able to move on and try again.

If you don't go back, you are guaranteed that you will never go out with her AND you will be stuck wondering for a very long time what might have happened if you had only tried.

I don't really see any real choice here. There is simply no upside to not talking to her,

Look, I'm not saying that this lady will be the love of your life (though she could be). There is no way for anyone to know that at this point. What I do know is, after 43 years of walking around on this planet, the only things I regret are the chances I didn't take, the opportunities I will never know the outcome of because I was to nervous to take a risk. Luckily I learned fairly early that certain opportunities don't come along everyday and the rare ones are ALWAYS worth pursuing. You may discover something wonderful, or that there is nothing there, but you will always wonder "what if" unless you make the effort to find out.

I know it sounds hokey, but if you get in the habit of pursuing such chances whenever they pop up, sooner or later, wonderful things WILL come to you. It has happened to everyone I know who takes this approach to life and its true of many things, not just romance. How do I know? I met my wife by taking just such a chance, I also got my job 12 years ago by seeing a once in a lifetime chance and grabbing it.

NOW GET OFF YOUR DUFF, GO TO THAT RESTAURANT AND TALK TO THE GIRL. AND DO IT NOW. MOST OPPORTUNITIES COME WITH AN EXPERATION DATE, BUT YOU USUALLY WONT KNOW THE DATE UNTIL AFTER IT HAS PASSED. THE GIRL MAY BE GONE TOMORROW. GO THERE TODAY.

 

[gshoemate]

(PS - Don't waste any time...don't forget that she could have taken this job to pay for the holidays or while she's on break from school or something - you don't want to miss out!!)

Oh my goodness, this hadn't even crossed my mind.

Run, run to the resturant now and see if she is working!!!!

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

After 1 or 2 rendezvous for dinner at TR in her section....you can always jump to the next step if things look promising and send her flowers over there (plan the delivery for a non-busy time, though like just when they open).

Perhaps trade e-mail addresses--usually people feel safe to trade those than phone numbers in your next or subsequent rendezvous.

I think time is of the essence--so you don't want to wait for too long.

This all sounds very charming!

 

[Jenn Lynn]

I prefer men who are straight forward and get to the point. If someone came in 5 times, requested my section, and was flirting with me I think I would feel a little creeped out.

Personally, I think you should ask her out by the second time. Too much more and it just seems weird. JMHO.

 

[brentm3]

Go for it, Chris - it never hurts - to this day people can't figure out what my wife was thinking (or drinking?) when she married me! You never know what will happen if you ask her out - but you know exactly what will happen if you don't!

brentm3

 

[Taylor]

Go for it, Chris - it never hurts - to this day people can't figure out what my wife was thinking (or drinking?) when she married me! You never know what will happen if you ask her out - but you know exactly what will happen if you don't!

brentm3

Take this mans advice. He is wise.

 

[Hollyann]

I think you should go....follow your heart....or you'll always wonder.

I've subscribed to this thread 'cause I'm waiting to read the happy ending!

Best of luck!

 

[sunkissed212]

I"m a firm believer in that thingshappen and people meet for a reason in their lives. I think you should go back again and see what happens.

I had the same feeling when I met my bf ... it's hard to explain, isn't it? That's the best feeling in the world though.

Best of luck and you'd better keep us all posted!